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AIBU?

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To let DD stay off school so she can buy an ice cream?

111 replies

RainbowOfChaos · 21/06/2019 06:38

DH told DD (7) she could have an ice cream at the weekend after she rode up the hill to our town for the first time without stopping. She didn't eat it as wasn't hungry. DH gave her money to buy an ice cream on Tuesday evening.
Wednesday pm we were out in the heat all afternoon then she had football training until 6. In the car in the way home she drank .75l of water. As soon as we got in, she threw up the water. Kept her home yesterday, fine except she complained once just before dinner that her tummy felt weird, she felt sick and only ate some cucumber and a slice of bread, wasn't actually sick. She's past the 24 hour quarantine and seems perfectly fine this morning. She said she's too ill to go to school, but that I should pack the cool bag for the shopping and she'll bring her money
I have a history of dislike (atrocious treatment of my elder DC with SN) with the teacher she has today, who is not her class teacher.
Send her in or let her buy her ice cream?

OP posts:

pepperpot99 · 21/06/2019 09:31

Yes you are being completely unreasonable as well as very silly.

OP: AIBU for keeping dd off school to have an ice cream?
MN: Yes you are
OP: but why but why but why........

Yabbers · 21/06/2019 09:32

NHS advice is 48 hours after a sickness bug. But it doesn’t sound like that’s what she had.

I do follow UK news but missed that. Good God, is that what we've come to? Schools shutting early for cost reasons

A bit of mis-information here. Most schools which do early closing, adjust the whole week. They might start a little earlier or run a little later, or shorten a lunch break. There is a protected amount of teaching time they must give which is 22.5 hours a week. Our school is open 25 hours. Friday afternoons consist of something non curricular then golden time. It is non teaching time and the children are not missing out on education by missing it. It means the school doesn’t have to find non teaching cover for those hours.

Our LA is pretty much the last one locally who haven’t done this because of parent pressure. Instead they keep cutting additional support so kids who are in school for those 25 hours aren’t being cared for effectively. Frankly I’d rather kids miss out on an hour of playing games so DD can go to the toilet when she needs to and her autistic classmates are given better support instead of leaving the room and playing with Lego when it all gets too much.

Maldives2006 · 21/06/2019 09:42

Cookpassbatridge, your school are completely wrong and breaking public health infection guidelines.

Unless stool specimens are sent the school have no idea what bug is causing the symptoms.

However they do know it takes 48 hours after the last visit for the bathroom for the majority of the bug to die.

So given the fact in any school there could be immunocompromised kids, parents and staff. School should be protecting everyone!!

RedForShort · 21/06/2019 09:44

If you've loads of things to do it'll make a rubbish 'duvet day'. Which should be fun days taken just because.

Not sure what you did, but if she was off sick yesterday not going in today is hardly terrible. Ice cream or no ice cream.

Mind you I'm in the end of year mind set now - My secondary schoolers have been off for weeks and the primary ones finish next week.

Lovemusic33 · 21/06/2019 09:50

Annoys me that people think it’s a 24 hours rule, it’s 48 hours. Keep her home but not so you can buy her ice cream.

Yabbers · 21/06/2019 09:51

Mind you I'm in the end of year mind set now - My secondary schoolers have been off for weeks and the primary ones finish next week.

Yep. DD said on Monday “mummy, the teacher is definitely on the wind down to holidays, we did no work at all today*

katewhinesalot · 21/06/2019 09:53

If she's well enough to be running round doing errands with you then she's well enough for school.

Thurmanmurman · 21/06/2019 09:53

School then take her for an ice cream when you pick her up.

Divebar · 21/06/2019 10:02

If you’re off sick then you’re in bed or on the sofa with a film. If you’re well enough to do a supermarket shop you’re well enough to be in school in my book.

HiJenny35 · 21/06/2019 10:18

Home! Ice cream much better idea

kateandme · 21/06/2019 10:19

weve got ice cream in our freezer.we arent rewarded with an ice cream for riding up a hill.its an ice cream!!
we and kids can have an ice cream out the freezer when they wish(within reason ofcourse)

MyInnerAlto · 21/06/2019 10:20

Thanks for the context re early closing Fridays. I think if it's built into the system and therefore expected that's different (just as nominally morning-only school is built into the system here - doesn't stop it being a PITA sometimes, but you make your arrangements - PT work over here is usually mornings only rather than 2 or 3 full days, for example).

'Frankly I’d rather kids miss out on an hour of playing games so DD can go to the toilet when she needs to and her autistic classmates are given better support instead of leaving the room and playing with Lego when it all gets too much'. Yabbers, I get that, and of course teachers need a reasonable amount of non-contact time. It's the budgetary constraints which are the real problem, I suppose.

Chickychoccyegg · 21/06/2019 10:26

in scotland half day Friday was a thing in most areas even when i was at school, im 43 now.
NHS guidelines state 48 hours, i dont think the school should be changing that to suit themselves, shes probably fine but I'd keep her off to be sure(wouldn't be getting the ice cream though until tomorrow)

Babdoc · 21/06/2019 10:28

As PPs have said, bugs such as Norovirus remain infectious for a further 48 hours after symptoms stop. So it’s very wrong of schools to accept pupils back after just 24 hours with no vomiting.
I’d never heard of Scottish schools closing early on Friday afternoons - my DC went to school in Perthshire and were there til 3.15 (primary) and 4pm (secondary).
It must be a nightmare for working parents to arrange childcare.

Helsvamp · 21/06/2019 10:29

Our kids school have changed it to 24 hours as want kids off school well

kiki22 · 21/06/2019 10:35

I would keep her off and get the ice cream you only live once

LadderLongLegs · 21/06/2019 11:00

She's 7. LOL at the people talking about whether they'd have a day off work for similar.

I don't see the problem, OP. We're ridiculous - festishistic, almost - about school attendance for young kids here in the UK.

Hope you kept her home and got her the ice cream

00100001 · 21/06/2019 12:42

"I don't see the problem, OP. We're ridiculous - festishistic, almost - about school attendance for young kids here in the UK. "

Probalby because in developing countries and the like, there are parents working all the hours they can to scrap together money to get one of their children into school, in order to give them a better life. Or because some children are denied an education just because they are a girl. They would perhaps look on in horror if you turned around and said to them "Oh yes, we have free, world class education for all, bu I choose to not send my 7yo, because she wanted an icecream, so rather than just take her 4 hours later than she wanted, I thought it would be best to let her skive off for a day LOL"

00100001 · 21/06/2019 12:44

"Annoys me that people think it’s a 24 hours rule, it’s 48 hours. Keep her home but not so you can buy her ice cream."

The Child wasn't even sick though....just feeling a bit poorly

MarthasGinYard · 21/06/2019 12:47

Don't really understand the ice cream gate dilemma

If she's well enough she goes to school

If she's still I'll keep her off

TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan · 21/06/2019 13:08

@Sirzy

If she is too ill for school she is to ill for ice cream.

I think you might be one of my parents. Completely agree with you though!

Yabbers · 21/06/2019 14:05

Or because some children are denied an education just because they are a girl. They would perhaps look on in horror if you turned around and said to them "Oh yes, we have free, world class education for all, bu I choose to not send my 7yo, because she wanted an icecream

Ahh the “finish your dinner, there are children starving in africa” argument.

pikapikachu · 21/06/2019 17:15

I think that she should have gone in because it's half a day. Ice-cream after school would be a fab treat.

Chickenwing · 21/06/2019 17:26

What does your dislike of the teacher have to do with your child being well enough to go to school?

00100001 · 21/06/2019 17:53

Well you can mock me all you like.

The point is, a child who is not ill and wants ice-cream is not a reason to skip school. The child can wait until after school and still have the ice-cream ...

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