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To let DD stay off school so she can buy an ice cream?

111 replies

RainbowOfChaos · 21/06/2019 06:38

DH told DD (7) she could have an ice cream at the weekend after she rode up the hill to our town for the first time without stopping. She didn't eat it as wasn't hungry. DH gave her money to buy an ice cream on Tuesday evening.
Wednesday pm we were out in the heat all afternoon then she had football training until 6. In the car in the way home she drank .75l of water. As soon as we got in, she threw up the water. Kept her home yesterday, fine except she complained once just before dinner that her tummy felt weird, she felt sick and only ate some cucumber and a slice of bread, wasn't actually sick. She's past the 24 hour quarantine and seems perfectly fine this morning. She said she's too ill to go to school, but that I should pack the cool bag for the shopping and she'll bring her money Grin
I have a history of dislike (atrocious treatment of my elder DC with SN) with the teacher she has today, who is not her class teacher.
Send her in or let her buy her ice cream?

OP posts:
Mummyoflittledragon · 21/06/2019 07:06

You said she felt ill yesterday. She therefore isn’t 24 hours free of feeling ill. A lot of schools have moved to 48 hours. The 24 hour rule I imagine is now in the minority. I would keep her off and get a supermarket delivery tomorrow or maybe even this evening if you’re fast.

MyInnerAlto · 21/06/2019 07:08

Odd thread. School, then ice cream after. Obviously.

If the disliked teacher is treating your dd correctly, you are going to have to live with that dislike. Did you address the issues with your older child at the time?

I don't mean to sound sanctimonious, but 'we can bend the rules as we see fit if we don't feel like interacting with someone' is not a good lesson.

MyInnerAlto · 21/06/2019 07:09

I'm assuming not in UK if school finishes at 12 on Fridays. We're abroad and have no formal exclusion period at all for D&V. They go back when they're better.

SudowoodoVoodoo · 21/06/2019 07:10

I'm failing to understand the logic here.
Child is sick once after over-exerting themselves and drinking lots of water. Kept of school for 24 hours as a precaution. Fine.

OK, you don't like the teacher, but why on earth would you keep a now healthy child off school to buy an icecream??? I'm not seeing the connection or any justification.

Original poster
RainbowOfChaos · 21/06/2019 07:12

You said she felt ill yesterday. She therefore isn’t 24 hours free of feeling ill.
This

I think your disdain for the teacher is clouding your judgement though op. It's as though you are holding some sort of grudge which makes it easier to justify your intentions.

And this.

Hence my post!

OP posts:
gamerwidow · 21/06/2019 07:14

I'm assuming not in UK if school finishes at 12 on Fridays
Unfortunately lots of schools shut at lunch on Friday because funding cutbacks mean they can’t afford to run them for a full week.
This has been all over the news for months.
Anyway however tempting it is I would send her in and then get her the ice cream as a reward. You don’t want to set a precedent where school can be missed for flimsy reasons.
DD has a hospital appt today I lm collecting her at lunch so we can attend. I too was sorely tempted to just keep her off all day because it’s a pita to take her to school for 3 hours but it would be the wrong thing to do and DD needs no encouragement to bunk off of school.

gamerwidow · 21/06/2019 07:15

You said she felt ill yesterday. She therefore isn’t 24 hours free of feeling ill.
It’s 24 (or 48) hours after the last instance of vomiting. Feeling rough for the day doesnt count in the exclusion period.

MyInnerAlto · 21/06/2019 07:15

Shock I do follow UK news but missed that. Good God, is that what we've come to? Schools shutting early for cost reasons (and the associated impact on parents, presumably staff pay etc)?

AnyFucker · 21/06/2019 07:16

I think I need some caffeine

gamerwidow · 21/06/2019 07:17

Sorry I was over harsh in assuming you weren’t keeping up. I forgot you weren’t in UK!
Yes unfortunately this is what we have come to, it’s a disgrace.

MyInnerAlto · 21/06/2019 07:17

AnyFucker, I can assure you the OP doesn't look any more logical or sensible after a coffee Grin

(Sorry, OP, but you can't really do this. Slippery slope and all that)

LarryGreysonsDoor · 21/06/2019 07:18

It’s because all teachers are entitled to a half day of non teaching time. The problem is that needs to be covered.
If the school shuts for a half day then all teachers have that time then and no one needs to be paid to cover it.
They do it after lunch so the free school meals children get their lunch.

MyInnerAlto · 21/06/2019 07:19

gamerwidow, I listen to the Today programme for at least an hour or so every weekday morning (only 1h time difference) and can't recall hearing anything about this. Really shocking.

caughtinanet · 21/06/2019 07:20

Where do you live? Why is the task of eating an ice cream such a performance, are you prone to overthinking things in general?

LennyBelardo · 21/06/2019 07:22

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IceRebel · 21/06/2019 07:24

Does nobody ever take a day off work when they are not really ill just because?

No, and i'm sure i'm not the only one. Confused

gamerwidow · 21/06/2019 07:25

MyInnerAlto I’m being grumpy this morning and unfair. I’m sure there is stuff I’ve missed too no one keeps up with everything.

Omzlas · 21/06/2019 07:32

^ this

Lougle · 21/06/2019 07:38

It isn't '24 hours off feeling ill', it's '24 hours since the last episode of being sick or having diarrhoea'. In many places it's 48 hours, but if your school says 24, then you need to at least acknowledge that what you're doing is pulling a sickie.

I'm pretty hardcore with my children. If they aren't being stuck, having diarrhoea or having a fever (and I mean 38°c plus), then they go to school with a dose of analgesia. It's not good to let them think that they can negotiate school.

I've been going to work with a banging migraine that hasn't responded to painkillers. It isn't fantastic, I'm slower than normal and I'm having to be careful that I don't make mistakes because my brain is foggy, but I can function, so I'm at work.

Teach your DD that school matters.

DeathMetalMum · 21/06/2019 07:39

Either she's too ill for school and should be kept off, therefore no ice cream. I wouldn't be taking an ill child to the supermarket either.

Or school followed by ice cream either today or tomorrow or even Sunday as she was told weekend.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 21/06/2019 07:41

School, of course!

Ice cream afterwards.

UnderTheTree · 21/06/2019 07:42

I am so Confused at this thread, but what I do know is that school goes over ice cream.

You can buy ice cram 24/7.

And no, I have never chucked a sickie for no reason.

CookPassBabtridge · 21/06/2019 07:43

We used to follow the 48 rule after sickness of any sort, but thankfully the school has adopted common sense and said only if it's a bug. I had DS being sick once after coughing and kept him off two days while he was bouncing off the walls happily. Daft rule! It's obvious when it's a bug.

BlueSkiesLies · 21/06/2019 07:43

Does nobody ever take a day off work when they are not really ill just because?

No. Of course not.

TeaIfYouPlease · 21/06/2019 07:44

Another vote here for school and ice cream after.