I have a DD (aged 4) and 3 nephews aged 3 (twins) and 7. For the past two years I’ve been picking them up from school/childminders once/twice per week and babysitting for my sister until about 6/7pm. Up until a year ago the arrangement was reciprocal, but she stopped after she increased her hours at work (we both used to work part time). Anyway, today my mum normally does the school pick up for all 4 kids but as she was away, we had to make other arrangements. My husband is way too and my sister was working, but she said her husband would do the pick up for all 4 instead as he’s between jobs at the moment. I told him I’d be round to pick up DD after work by 6:30pm and he said he’d rather do the babysitting (of all 4 kids) at our house instead. That was fine by me.
However, when I got in after work today the house was a complete bomb site. The twins are very boisterous- and need constant supervision. He had let them tread 6 mini tubs of play dough mixed with popcorn and fruit into the carpet, board game boxes were ripped up, real food remnants in the play kitchen etc, DD had only eaten biscuits and fruit for dinner as she didn’t like the pizza he cooked. I spent the next 2 hours cleaning up the mess they’d made, I’m 5 months pregnant with a really bad back/PGP and quite frankly the clean up was agony.
I feel really pissed off with my BIL - as I’ve done a lot of childcare for him/my sister and I’m really disappointed in how he left my house this evening- in fact I could barely look at him! I’m due to do the childcare tomorrow so will have to suck up my feelings of resentment but would it be unreasonable to never again let him babysit in my house considering the state he left it in?