Puberty books - from extended family to our kids

[flumpybear]

AIBU - I'm a bit - extended family couple bought my two children books about puberty (they are 10&7) ... they made a bit of a big thing about bringing these gifts ... I think it's really strange ... particaularly as both me and DH have 4 degrees between us ... in fucking biology!!! We don't hide things so it's not like they're trying to compensate

Is this weird or what? Perhaps, me with my degree and PhD, experience in lecturing all sorts , I kinda thought it was my job - they didn't even think to ask if it was ok

Bloody hell I think @BarbarianMum is on glue too 😳

I think it's odd.

@Lifeandjoy ---- NO! It's not THEIR job!! We're their parents ... having degrees in the very subject means we're able to teach them perfectly well ourselves
If a family member started teaching your children economics would you be happy 🙄

@BarbarianMum wtf are you talking about?
It's not about the fact puberty is normal, it's about the fact that someone else has decided when to provide ops kids with books on the topic. Regardless of puberty being normal, it is not normal for others to decide when someone else's kids learn about it.

@FatFailureMum - nope- DH younger cousin
In laws - for once - haven't butted in here (albeit they're both doctors ... but that's just context)

Sorry but as a biologist I really, really don't see the big deal. I mean, I'm sure they know they're going to grow up right?

@Glitterblue - thank you ... that's exactly what I mean .. 👍🥳🥂

Accept these books in the spirit they were given. Our DD enjoyed reading books such as “what’s happening to me” at her own pace and then asking questions. And we have degrees and masters galore in this house (unnecessary info, going with the flow though) though no phds . It was a kind gesture; why worry about it?

BarbarianMum
If someone made a special point about buying and presenting my children a book about the digestive system I would think they were odd too.

@Tallgreenbottle - they're a bit odd ... they can't see that the circumstances they put their own kids in is very strange (don't want to expand as it may be outing) ... always thought they were nice enough albeit different life choices ... this is really odd to me

@BarbarianMum - we'll
I work in digestion now ... so yes I'd be pissed off !! 😆

Lifeandjoy

Unclench.

How strange!...do the books have a comical theme to it? If so maybe they thought you were too 'academic' in your style and wanted to make it 'fun' for them? Either way you are the parents and should choose when you want your children to learn this stuff.

@Sparklyshoes16 - nope - id be a
Bit happier with comical ... it's all factual

I don't mind about the books - I just think it's
Our choice to chose when to educate our kids ... even the school gives notice of when they're doing sex Ed

Thanks @MrsDimmond

Weird and inappropriate.
Ask then why they chose them as gifts?

@BarbarianMum - maybe it's in your DNA to feel like that with your username 🙄😳

I shouldn’t have blames the in-laws - someone usually does though! A cousin is stranger yet. And yes it’s a biological process same as digestion I’m sure OP is aware of that! BUT it’s about age appropriate info and what your particular child is ready for. ONLY the Op and Dh know that and it’s their choice in how to explain and when. A book handed to op would be ok. A book given to the child is a no no. Wa they know they grow up but I’d have been quite embarrassed as a young child for an extended family member to give me such a book. They shouldn’t be embarrassed by puppetry and OP will I’m sure ensure they aren’t and are able discuss with their parents but as a child you don’t want random family members discussing it (via a gift!) surely??

@wineandroses1 - it's not their call to decide when they're ready for these books - buy them Lego ffs!!

Hmmm if your relatives AND an unrelated work colleague have given you books recently about puberty for your DC maybe they have noticed that your 10 year old is already in puberty and feel you have not seen it?

Some girls have already started their periods and wearing bras at 10. Does your 10 year old need deodorant? Do they have body hair? I’m not asking to be weird I just mean maybe people are noticing that your child is going through puberty and you the parents seem oblivious????

@FatFailureMum - thanks ... and I'm sure you're not ...

@flumpybear then very odd indeed, I was about to say even schools give notice or a topic overview at the start of the year to give you a chance to review and question.

All abit bizarre and I would be whether I had knowledge in the subject or not. With you on this one OP. DH comments are "that's not on and bloody weird".

Puberty even. Puppetry might be more embarrassing I don’t know I’ve not had much to do with it. I can spell honestly

@Absofrigginlootly - I
Hear you, not friend hasn't seen DD since she was about 5 and cousins see us maybe 2 times a year so no that wouldn't be their radar plus they gave a 'boys book' to my only just 7 year old ... he's way too young 😱

@FatFailureMum - lol I know what you mean - stupid spell check!!