Boyfriends on holiday and not speaking ...aibu here to think he should be keeping in touch?

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My boyfriend went on holiday on Sunday for two weeks.
He is back a week on Sunday.
He has gone with his daughter,his parents,brother and his family.
He hasn't spoke since he's been away.
We normally speak daily.
He text me Sunday before he left in the airport then he sent me a snapchat when he got to his hotel.
He snapchatted me earlier him around the pool and with a pint.
Then he said it was hot ...literally that's it
"It's hot"
I haven't messaged him as he is on holiday with his family and don't want to pester him but at the same time ...I hate no contact.
A few snaps here and there is rubbish.
I replied to his last snap saying it's raining here ...depressing.
Opened it and no reply
Aibu to be annoyed here?
The lack of effort

I wouldn’t be happy if my DP of four years did this but if we’d only been together a couple of months I wouldn’t really think too much of it.

A lot of people don’t bother with their phones when abroad.

Honestly, OP, why are you in a relationship with someone who drinks in excess?

You sound pretty miserable to be honest

Don't make this a major argument.
Wait till he is home be happy to see him and see what happens

I would leave it. He's with his family on a holiday he probably booked before he even met you. Don't message him, carry on with your life, do your thing and let him message you.

A 'good morning' and 'goodnight' text would probably satisfy me in your situation. This is what I get from DH sometimes when he's away with work.

I think this is a generation thing. I'm 41 and wouldn't bother texting or chatting a partner if I was away.

I have often taken my dc on holiday without my dh (usually to see family who live abroad in popular holiday destination). In the span of a week we probably talk once or twice. Message or two everyday. I like to be In Holiday mode when I go away, not really interested in hearing how work is, the dog, the mundane jobs he's done! You've only been going out a few months. Let him enjoy his holiday

Have you tried phoning him and, y'know, talking to him?

I generally leave my phone in the hotel safe unless I'm taking it out to use as a satnav, if I'm by the pool I'm not taking our, it'll get wet or left unattended if I go swimming. Let him enjoy his holiday

I agree with you OP. I too like contact, particularly if im really into someone!!

If he can't meet your needs in a relationship in regards to communication then hes not the one. My ex would message me several times a day when away with friends on holiday as that's just what we did at home. Because we WANTED to speak to eachother not because we felt obliged.

He's not wrong, but might be the wrong one for you.

If I’m with my husband I don’t even take my phone on holiday. If I’m with my daughter and grandchildren, I only use it to reply to my husband when he messages me. If it’s upsetting you, drop him a quick text. Just a none invasive “hope you’re having fun, I miss you. See ya Sunday”

Just leave him to enjoy his hols, I would hate to go away,and think that I had to keep contacting or answering a person back home,whatever the relationship.

So he messaged Sunday & again today?

That's quite a drop if you usually chat/message daily.

That said- you're not contacting him because he's on holiday-does the same not apply to him?

He's been in touch. Just leave him to enjoy his holiday.

He has been messaging you though
Try to find something else to take up your time and stop obsessing over someone you've only been dating a few months

He has been messaging, more than you have messaged him.

If I had messaged someone and they barely replied then I'd leave it too. You sound quite hard work and resentful of his holiday.

Back off. You want him to miss you. It doesn’t hurt to have him wondering how you can live without him for two weeks. He needs to know he can go away and you can function perfectly well without him.

That’s game-y. OP needs to go for authentic.

Not another on of these threads...

Stop being so needy and let him enjoy himself with his family

It’s ok to have needs.

It’s ok to ask for advice on getting those needs met.

Oooooh Op I went to Morocco and the data is SO expensive. I used £100 on the way from airport to the hotel. If the WiFi isn't great in the hotel then chances are he's not as daft as me using his phone sparingly

But OTOH I'd send him a message saying "hope you're having a great time with the fam, I miss your face! Xxx". Lighthearted so when he sees it he doesn't think ugh depressing shes talking about the rain again

I've actually just had 4 texts through at once
All sent at different times ...I'm assuming his signal is rubbish

Also he was typing a message on Snapchat but it never came through ...

I think it's perfectly fine to expect a nice message from time to time from someone you are seeing who is on holiday. Most people don't chuck their phones in their suitcase for the week and ignore them. It would probably make me irrationally angry because my stbxh never used to bother replying to my texts even though his phone was permanently glued to his hand so it annoys me far more than it should nowadays when I don't hear back from people.

Have you looked up the costs for using EE in Morocco OP? £1.80/minute to make OR receive a call, 60p to send a text, data must be bought as an add-on. For PAYG it's £5 per day for 10MB to use for 24 hours, pay monthly is £10 per day for 20MB of data.

3 texts and a snapchat every day could cost him nearly £100 in the two weeks for PAYG and £170 for Pay monthly.