Boyfriends on holiday and not speaking ...aibu here to think he should be keeping in touch?

[pinttyandcrisp]

My boyfriend went on holiday on Sunday for two weeks.
He is back a week on Sunday.
He has gone with his daughter,his parents,brother and his family.
He hasn't spoke since he's been away.
We normally speak daily.
He text me Sunday before he left in the airport then he sent me a snapchat when he got to his hotel.
He snapchatted me earlier him around the pool and with a pint.
Then he said it was hot ...literally that's it
"It's hot"
I haven't messaged him as he is on holiday with his family and don't want to pester him but at the same time ...I hate no contact.
A few snaps here and there is rubbish.
I replied to his last snap saying it's raining here ...depressing.
Opened it and no reply
Aibu to be annoyed here?
The lack of effort

He's on holiday with his daughter and family. He's not going to want to text/contact you very often.

Leave him alone. Don't text him. Wait for him to contact you. You don't want him to think you're clingy.

I actually don't think yabu to expect him to stay in touch more if you usually text/chat every day.
It must feel a bit like, out of sight out of mind.
Text him later saying you hope hes having a great time, missing you and see what you get back. If its a pathetic 1 line answer then sorry but he's not really thinking about or missing you.

Why can't you just leave him alone and let him enjoy his holiday? Your neediness and insecurity is not attractive at all. If I were him, it would make me seriously rethink the relationship.

I haven't messaged him and only responded to him when he has snapchatted me for the reason I don't want to come across needy etc.

That's why I want to not be clingy and let him enjoy himself but at the same time I miss chatting

I would take this as a sign that I need to invest in some of my other relationships and get messaging friends and family.

I don’t think YABU either.

Just because he’s on holiday doesn’t mean he just gets to cut you off and not bother with you.

Id expect a few messages a day of general chit chat to be honest. It doesn’t take 2 minutes and it’s not like he’s running around after his child as she’s 18.

A message when he wakes up, one by the pool later on and one getting ready is hardly asking for much especially as you have said you normally message a lot.

I would be taking this to indicate he's not that into you, I'm afraid. No, he doesn't have to be texting you every 5 minutes but it's a new relationship - if you're into each other I'd expect him to want to share photos with you or text to say he misses you, even if it's just a brief moment of touching base in an otherwise busy day. I also couldn't date someone who was going to spend much of their holiday getting hammered, but that's just me.

Yes he should be at least touching base.

He is being unreasonable and deserves to have silence forever when he gets back LOL I would. :D

@GreyCloud0 that's my logic
He is sat around the pool for hours,nothing stopping him from chatting

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST -ARE YOU TWELVE????

just fucking message him

He will be in the room getting showered and changed at some point or have free time before breakfast or at night surely? Hes on holiday yes but sounds like hes taking the piss.Areange a night out with friends then send him a group pic of you having a great time,I bet he rings you then!

And if him sending you a couple of messages a day makes him not enjoy his holiday And he finds that needy then I’d be doubting the relationship anyway.

One message every three days or so with a pic would be more than enough.

@pinttyandcrisp - I understand he’s on holiday and his patents etc will be around so he won’t want to be on his phone constantly but to be honest I think he’s being a bit shit. There is plenty of opportunity to write a quick message. It’s not like your asking for an instant reply!

Who were you ‘chatting to’ a couple of months ago. Chat to them.

No contact at all would be too much for me but the odd message and a few pics so you know he's OK and having a nice time is fine.

Parents*

Why are people so mean on here?

I would expect my boyfriend to miss me and be in touch! You don't have to be on the phone all day, but it's odd that there's not even a facetime or a quick call.
Even DH would call me a few times, and we are way past the honeymoon period.

I understand you speak every day so would like more while he is on holiday...but he's on holiday so just leave him to spend time with his family.

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I don't think YABU - my bf of one month and I messaged every day on my recent 4 day trip abroad, because we tend to message every day - one evening we had quite a long WA chat. Mind you, I was on my own, not with other people.

I am 51, he is 60, so not sure it's an age issue.

Having said that, if he didn't message me I wouldn't be upset or worried, I'd just message him and ask how he is etc. If he didn't reply for a few days I'd probably think it was odd.

This is what technology has done to us. When I had recently started going out with my bf (now husband) he went away with his mates. We didn't have mobile phones then so I had to just wait until he got back, or hope he might shell out for a quick phone call from the hotel phone. Nowadays with mobiles it's expected that people message each other all the time.

OP, let him have this time with his family, and make do with the occasional Snapchats that he sends. Spend the next week or so reconnecting with friends and family, or going out with your mates.

Back off. You want him to miss you.

It doesn’t hurt to have him wondering how you can live without him for two weeks. He needs to know he can go away and you can function perfectly well without him.

YANBU.
But I’m not into playing games or worried about looking a certain way. If he’s the right guy for you that wouldn’t matter. I would text him and say you are missing him just let him know how you feel. I mean if you don’t get a response then that’s a different matter. Tbh I would be hoping for a quick text once a day and a phone call towards the end of the week, it’s not a big ask.

I dont understand

He has messaged you

More than you have messaged him