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16 year old

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TheBlueDaisy · 17/06/2019 21:35

To think we can leave a 16 yr old home with her 21 yr old twin brother and sister for the day on Sunday?

We are leaving them all on Friday night overnight for a night away just the two of us, going to a bbq with them all on Saturday and then we have a sick elderly relative to visit on Sunday.

DH thinks we can't leave her at home on Sunday. I don't want to take her as she'll be bored and it's unnecessary to have a bored 16 year old sitting with our sick relative.

I should also point out we are going on a family holiday with her for 10 days next week.

OP posts:
Leeds2 · 17/06/2019 21:37

I would've been quite happy leaving my 16 year old home alone for the day, so certainly no problem leaving them with two older siblings.

Tableclothing · 17/06/2019 21:37

Should be fine, unless dd has sn or the twins are terminally unreliable.

What does your dh think might happen?

amusedbush · 17/06/2019 21:38

My parents left me at home Friday to Monday when I was 16 and didn’t want to visit family with them. I loved it!

justbeniceplease · 17/06/2019 21:38

Why can you leave her overnight but not during the day?

helpmum2003 · 17/06/2019 21:38

Sounds totally reasonable.

Sexnotgender · 17/06/2019 21:39

Of course you can leave her!

What reasons does your DH have for not leaving her?

I have a 15 year old daughter and would leave her during the day though not overnight.

Thursday452poh · 17/06/2019 21:40

No problem at all, we leave our DSS at home alone and no older siblings. He doesn’t want to do the things we do etc and he’d be bored on his phone etc.

Cheerybigbottom · 17/06/2019 21:41

What does your DH think she'll do? I left home at 16. I wasn't the wisest but I could certainly be left on my own for a day in my own home for years previous to doing so.

GreenTulips · 17/06/2019 21:41

DD is home alone having finished her exams - so all week apart from 8 hours one day she works

She gets up showered dressed was and dosses about until her friends surfaces

Goes out about 3 with friends back home for tea

Not seeing the issue

RB68 · 17/06/2019 21:42

She will be fine - she is 16, she has two 21 yr old baby sitters, its day time. Just make sure you leave the WIFI on

Orchidflower1 · 17/06/2019 21:42

I’m confused- your dh is ok with all three (2x22 and 1x16) on their own overnight but not for the same group to be left for a day? Is 16yo alone for one day on Sunday?

What do you do about shopping/ appointments etc - does 16yo go out on their own?

Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 17/06/2019 21:42

Your 16 yo can leave home and get married ffs!!

Starlight456 · 17/06/2019 21:43

I also don’t get why the overnight is ok but the day isn’t?

adaline · 17/06/2019 21:43

Of course!

I was left home alone regularly from age 12!

Ohyesiam · 17/06/2019 21:44

Why wouldn’t you? Unless she is very wayward? And even odder that she can be left st night but you’re oh is querying daytime?

LL83 · 17/06/2019 21:46

Is it because he doesn't want to leave her twice in one weekend? (I wouldn't have an issue with that) If so invite her to come on Sunday but I am sure she will say no.

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TheBlueDaisy · 17/06/2019 21:47

He is saying that leaving her overnight for us to go to a concert AND going out on Sunday is too much. He thinks it's not fair to leave her "all" weekend.

I think the reality is that he just doesn't want to visit my sick relative 🤔

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justbeniceplease · 17/06/2019 21:48

Does she not have any friends that she would be seeing over the weekend? Maybe she could meet up and have lunch/shopping with mates on Sunday?

UpsydaisyandIgglePiggleareatit · 17/06/2019 21:53

Definitely fine to leave her for the day.

I was staying in the house all weekend overnight alone at that age.
Think you’re probably right about DH not wanting to visit the relative... is he suggesting he stay behind with DD and you go alone?

Sexnotgender · 17/06/2019 21:54

Unfair? She’s 16 she’s probably bloody delighted to not have to trail about after her parents.

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 17/06/2019 21:55

She'll have her siblings with her, presumably can contact you, and would you allow friends to come over.
If she's anything like my teen she'd stay in bed till after lunch anyways.

I suspect he just doesn't want to go with you

ParkheadParadise · 17/06/2019 22:01

This thread makes me feel so OLD.
At 16, I had Dd1 who was 1. My parents worked and I was at home all day with dd.
I can remember having the dinner ready when they came home and all the housework done.

irregularegular · 17/06/2019 22:04

Yes of course you can. Most 16 year olds would be very happy to be left to themselves for the day! If not, she can come with you - or she can arrange to see a friend or something, surely? What does she want to do??

We recently left our 15 and 16 year olds on their own for 24 hours, while we were staying with friends a couple of hours away.

corythatwas · 17/06/2019 22:12

He is saying that leaving her overnight for us to go to a concert AND going out on Sunday is too much. He thinks it's not fair to leave her "all" weekend

Why doesn't he ask her if she thinks it is fair?

justasking111 · 17/06/2019 22:16

He is being silly. She will be fine and enjoy the novelty of it.

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