Changed username but was on site for a long time, though my first AIBU
Yesterday DP and I attended a friend’s party. It was a lot of different people, some we knew, so we didn’t and some we only usually meet once or twice a year at this friend’s party
Good party where everybody mingles and chit chats. DP is quite sociable so we quite often chatted to different people. A few times I joined him in his conversations - all jovial and nice.
Towards the end when only about 10-12 people were left I joined DP in his conversation with a woman, whom we haven’t met before. DP is usually quite good with listening to people and quite often people open up to him. When I joined a lady told me that my DP is a good psychologist, we laughed about it. Then DP asks her to show her hands (he tells everyone he can do palm-reading, which I doubt I think he usually just uses it to say nice things to people or do a bit of a pep talk). She shows hands to him, he asks her if he should tell her what he saw. She says yes. Then DP asks her if it is ok to tell in front of me - I was a bit taken aback and said to him “you must be kidding”. He answers “it is private”. She then looks at me and says “oh it is a good point, do you mind leaving?”.
I left them but was quite upset and felt it was rude. They talked for about 2 minutes when her friend approached her and she excused herself from conversation and left my DP. DP approaches me and I said to him I felt it was rude of him to kick me out. He just walked off.
In about 5 minutes she gets back to him and asks to continue conversation, he goes with her outside to garden and has about 15 minutes conversation, now and then glancing back and seeing I am standing on my own. He then gets back and tries to dance with me, I was quite upset by the time and said to him I want to go home.
We have a huge argument at home. I felt it was his initiative to exclude me from conversation and not hers, he gave her an idea to do so. I also said to him if he felt it was private he could have just said to her, I will get back to you and spend some time with me instead of kicking me out. She didn’t kick her friend out when the friend approached and just went with it why did he need to kick me out?
We had a huge argument and still not talking. I know it is a silly argument but DP has a form of thinking of other people’s feelings but not mine. By the way he was not attracted to her. So it is not a jealousy thread...
Am I being unreasonable?