How would you get revenge? (Lighthearted)

[ohwellnevermindanyway]

I'm a bit upset at the moment and while I'm a very sensible woman, there's a little itch of wanting some revenge that needs to be scratched. I'd never do anything like this and I want into make it clear I'm not being grabby but just hurt.

So it has to come to my attention my "d"f has almost certainly changed his will and leaving everything to his gf (who has been siphoning off his income and savings into her hefty bank account for a fair while now).

Family tried to step in because of legal issues with potential for later life care but he's stubborn snd even if he realises he's been scammed, he would never ever admit it. So, this means when he goes all out family photos, my late mother's jewellery, my dgp's belongings etc will go to his younger girlfriend.

She already "disposed of" many of our sentimental items from my siblings and my childhood and seems to have gone round their flat removing pictures of us and our kids from frames (given as presents to my dad) and put her own kids pictures in. We've tried to retrieve photos and even our birth certificates and been blocked. He's even asked my siblings and I to "give back" our dm's jewellery (that he gave to us after her funeral) because he wants to "keep it together".

It is what it is, there's no way to fight it and nothing will change so go cheer me up....

What low level revenge would you like to dish out to someone you know? Nothing illegal/physically damaging... embarrassment level rather than psychological traumatic.

Prawns in curtain poles? Signing people up for telemarketing calls? Most juvenile wins

I'd pretend I'd won the lottery and disappear from their lives. See how long it would take the money grabber to reinstate contact.

Or give more and more photo frames and pictures if yourselves to them.

Talk about his dementia diagnosis every time you see them.

Aside from your question, I would tell your dad that the jewellery has got lost and you can't find it to return it, then just never wear any in front of him. No way would I give up my mum's jewellery.

The revenge story I had to admire on here was the person whose colleague had done something awful to her, who filled a spray bottle with wee and kept spraying the colleague's coat with it when she left the office.

Yes, we've put it off that's it's being cleaned etc. She's not going anywhere near it and we've got decent witnesses who saw him give it to us to back us up if it gets a bit nasty later on.

Love the piss bottle I thought about trying to find my dad's old little black book and texting every ex gf (he's had a few since my mum) with his gf's number saying they've been left something by him. See how she likes vultures.

Or on a lighter note lots of new photo frames dotted around but if they get opened up a shit tonne of glitter falls out

Ooooooh I like photo frames with hidden glitter v much!

Spray bottle of wee is good but not sure thats practical in this situation.

Signing up for spam, calls etc.. hmm.. actually back to the spray bottle of wee, if you can visit, a container of wee tipped out somewhere htat will repeatedly get damp, dry off, damp, dry off (cat wee is best but harder to obtain)... as that will repeatedly pong :D

I don't know about the UK, but in Australia you can contest a will. It's not an unusual thing to do in those sorts of circumstances. And in your situation I absolutely would. I'd try to get some inventory of what there is of your mum's.

Isn’t it illegal to destroy someone’s birth cert ?

I'm loving the amount of wee in this the vipers nest at its very best.

We've thought about the potential for contesting but it looks like it rarely goes in the favour of the people doing it and it could end up potentially costing us a lot of money, whereas this is more about items/sentimental value/financial representation of my mum and grandparents lives. My dad would have changed the will under her instructions and while I personally think he has diminished responsibility (adult ss have been involved) we can't get any way of proving this/she has poa and next of kin now.

Probably illegal to destroy it but basically she made my dad get rid of a load of things and took bags of stuff to the tip...we found out after she had done this, while I was heavily pregnant and on Christmas Eve one year.

Personally I think you should take legal advice

What about gathering up all those things you meant to take to the tip or donate to charity and putting them in a huge box and dropping it off with a note saying, "This is really yours too. Sorry for not returning it sooner. Kisses"?

I love the glitter idea

@Vibiano I think when that time comes we probably will. One of my siblings has the financial/legal clout to do this but has become very disassociated from the whole situation whereas the remaining siblings and myself don't.

It's just such a sad state of affairs really. I adored my dad growing up and after my Dm died we all went out of our way to look after him and he assured us whatever happened we would come first. We actually encouraged their relationship at first but didn't realise what a horrid state of affairs it would end up as.

She sounds really horrible, I hope you are ok.

Shove a banana up her tailpipe.

(Gf or her car, depends on the level of revenge you want to achieve )

@BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil Love it. She has a car.... well my dad bought a car but it's in her name.

I really wouldn’t recommend legally challenging the will as unfortunately it rarely goes in your favour. UK courts have a terrible attitude to families left out of wills. Definitely keep your mothers jewellery and say it’s lost. I feel your pain- I’ve been in your situation too and it’s the personal family treasures that matter more than the money

Wouldn't bother with 'revenge'
Go NC instead.

A colleague once told me that she put the contents of a can of tuna inside her cheating bf mattress then sewed it up again, that’d stink after a while.

I dumped my boyfriend and he put my mobile number on a sex site. Asked him to take it down and he refused so I put his business phone number up. Trouble was, it was one of the callers that did it for me so I had no idea how to take it down.

@QueenOfWinterfell it's heartbreaking, isn't it? We know that ship has sailed and I'm hoping karma comes through for all of it. There's a lot of mutual friend circles with me and having to bite my tongue and not go on a huge rant at people who go on about how lovely they are is so tricky but I need to maintain the moral high ground for my own sanity.

We're pretty lc with them anyway though we go through the motions (dropping cards to him today) but they don't get involved in our lives and when I do see him he bangs on about how amazing her grandkids are. It's sickening and really reaffirms how lucky I am with my in-laws and the protection we need to put in place to protect our kids in our own wills. It's also shockingly common I've found from mumsnet, particularly from dads.

My dad actually forgot my birthday the last couple of years and yet bought one of her (older than me) kids a MacBook Pro for hers this year.

The revenge story I had to admire on here was the person whose colleague had done something awful to her, who filled a spray bottle with wee and kept spraying the colleague's coat with it when she left the office.

Next birthday, buy her a very expensive bottle of ‘perfume’ as a peace offering. The stupid gold-digger won’t want to make herself look stupid by admitting she thinks it smells disgusting. (A big plate of asparagus first should help.)

To get a bit craftier, you could offer to swap the jewellery you have for some of the smaller pieces that have more sentimental value for you. Then in years to come when gold-digger tries to flog it, she’ll realise you had paste copies made and kept the real thing for yourself.

I am going to add something to this discussion

I know several people who have been widowed at young & old ages
Some people are fortunate to find another partner
The alternative can be real heart braking loneliness

I realize that you don't like your father's new partner. However, have you considered the alternative of loneliness ?

It is his money & assets until he passed away

As I said, we encouraged the relationship at first and actively encouraged him to get out and meet people etc. But their relationship has grown Toxic. She controls him. Refuses to let him attend family events, the same way many relationships on here get told ltb. She has actively gone out of her way to drive a wedge in our family who would have happily had our dad live with us etc beforehand.

Sorry if that came across snappy @ItsAL0ngDriveH0me but he only sees her. He's lost all his friends, speaks to no family, goes nowhere, doesn't have a clue what's left in his bank account (and was surprised to see a number of large transfers of cash from his account to hers when we managed to log him into his online account), pays for everything phone, council tax, car, utilities, her phone bill, all groceries and gives her a figure allowance each month on top (meant for bills he pays anyway). Her family have brand new cars bought for them, giving huge cash amounts to totally redecorate, numerous foreign holidays a year despite being unemployed etc. They've also said to him in front us "oh (my dad's name), I'm having that big expensive item when you croak"

I cgaf about money but is quite like some photos of my childhood and family to have one day.

He sounds a bit like my Dad unfortunately. It really is a common phenomenon and a hurtful one at that. I’m sorry

I do think the best revenge you can have is going NC, moving on and having a happy and fulfilling life without them in it however, signing her up to as many sex and dating websites as possible with both hers and your Dads email addresses and numbers sounds like a tempting idea.

People make their own choices in life, sometimes the wrong ones

He has chosen not to attend family events
He has chosen not to join social clubs or friends
He had chosen not to keep a tight grip on his own finances

You can try to guide and offer advice