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To ask DH to stay in a job he is unhappy in for abit longer

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username99382727 · 13/06/2019 13:04

DH is not happy in his job. He has been looking for a new job for a while. I obviously want him to be happy and find a new job. However I have since found out I'm pregnant. It means if he was to find a new job now he would not be entitled to paternity leave. Also some of the jobs he is applying for include unsociable hours. I'm really concerned if he does get a new job not only will he not necessarily be able to take time off. But also when I had our first DC I found the newborn stage really hard. If he often has to work late evenings i think I will really find it hard. In his current company they allow you to take two weeks paternity then two weeks holiday if you wish so he would have a full month off at the start.
I do feel really selfish asking this of him. Especially as one of the jobs he has applied for he would love to get and probably won't come back up again in the near future. AIBU to ask him to look for a new job once baby is born just so he can have his paternity?

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FFSeverynameisused · 15/06/2019 12:35

its better to find a job while you're in a job but ultimately happiness is important and its not fair on your DH

Many employers would still give the parental leave

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