To have a Halloween wedding?

[CaptainCabinets]

Recently engaged, just bandying about ideas for the wedding. Thinking of an autumnal theme, lots of rusts and creams and burnt sienna colours yada yada. As for ‘themes’, I don’t want to go down the creepy Halloween route of tacky costumes, witches and vampires but I thought a few pumpkins and lanterns as decorations might be nice! Might be very cute to see children present (lots in the family!) dressed up in costumes, though.

However, I’m a little apprehensive that it might be

A) Cold
B) Wet
C) People might have other plans
D) A close friend’s birthday is 31st October and she can be a bit precious about birthday (FWIW she’ll likely be a bridesmaid as I was hers)

Would you have (or attend) a Halloween wedding?

I attended the evening do for a halloween wedding several years ago, it was lovely! They had a masquerade theme for the night, had some dancers come in and do Thriller, lots of spooky but tasteful decs, really nicely done.

I would think you were extremely cool to not take yourselves too seriously. Also, I like the prospect of Halloween anniversaries!

Congratulations on your engagement!

I got married on Halloween last time!! Had half the room decorated themed and the other weddingish!! Dc all had a great time. Disguised the fact I married a twat.. Divorced him after less than 2 years.
Married current dh on my birthday!!
Much better!
And better dh too!!

I think if it wasn't all tacky and you weren't doing costumes, it could be beautiful. Lots of autumn colours, pumpkins and leaf confetti.

We're having a Hallowe'en wedding when we finally have enough money to do it so 2020 sounds like a plan

I rather fancy walking down the aisle to Bach's Toccata & Fugue in D minor being thrashed out on a massive church organ.

Other music would be The Sorcerer's Apprentice by Dukas, and if we could stretch to calling in favours from my choir, O Fortuna/Carmina Burana by Orff.

I doubt this would be allowed. But a girl can dream, can't she?

Go for it.

Oh absolutely, I don’t want to dress up in a costume nor would I expect guests to (but they can if they like?!)

I don’t fancy ghosts and skeletons hanging from the ceiling but I love autumn, it’s by far my favourite season for colours and flowers (and autumn sunsets are always lovely!) so I’d have thar sort of thing going on for sure.

Maybe I’ll have an autumn wedding after all as I’ve only ever been to spring/summer weddings!

I would have loved a Halloween wedding, I actually tried to have mine on Halloween, but wanted to get married in church and the vicar got rather funny about it being on Halloween, so I got married on the 13th instead 😂.

Sounds like brilliant fun to me - I'd be very enthusiastic if I were a guest!

Sparklers and fireworks might be fun too? Fire pits and wooden tables with furs (real or fake) if an outdoors thing?

And again, if outdoors, there are some really nice big tent things that you can open on one side so your guests could watch fireworks even if it's not great weather!

Mulled wine and cider (with hot Apple and cinnamon for non drinkers) could be a relatively cheap way to do an open bar too.

I'll just be over here planning your whole wedding...!

It's often half-term then - some people might be away. That aside decoration wise silver and gold pumpkins have been very popular over the last year or so and also carved gourds/squash instead of traditional pumpkins look lovely, paler colours. More wintery weddings can look beautiful, loads of candles, ivy etc

It's June & it's cold, wet & miserable right now! So I wouldn't let that put you off an October wedding.

I'd go for it OP. We had a May wedding, but wish we'd gone for Halloween (we did have chocolate pumpkin lollies for favours though & all our seating plan tables were named after horror films - I framed the film poster in a vintage frame )

Pumpkins would be lovely on tables.

@WMPAGL please! Chief wedding planner

Oh absolutely, I don’t want to dress up in a costume

Too bad. You could have dressed up as a witch, had the bridesmaids dress up as black cats, and come down the aisle on a broom. Meanwhile the groom emerges from a coffin.

As long as you don't mind spending your anniversaries trick or treating! (If you have kids that is)

Getting married on no deal Brexit day? Barking!

I'd have loved an autumn wedding on Halloween! (Ours had to fall within a very short space of time, so we were stuck with July, which is so miserably hot and humid where we live!)

The only potential problem I can think of is that if there are children invited, they might be disappointed to miss out on trick-or-treating, but if you were kind enough to provide sweets, maybe they could dress in costumes and "trick-or-treat" from table to table.

Yes I did. Only invited to evening and children weren't invited which was slightly tricky as it was the first year we felt they were old enough to go trick or treating so promises to do that then got wedding invite. In laws took them instead which was a little sad.

In terms of the wedding, the one we went to was an afternoon tea on the afternoon and a masked ball on the evening. I enjoyed it but it wasn't the best wedding I've been to. That had little to do with the date though 😂

Sounds great!

you could have " Til death do us part " in red dripping icing on the cake :)

Autumn is lovely when it's sunny and crisp weather

I would honestly be very reluctant to get married on my close friend's birthday if I knew that my friend was big into celebrating it. If you really really wanted to have a completely Halloween style wedding it might be worth going ahead and risk upsetting her. But as what you want is an autumnal wedding I'd just have it earlier in the month and completely avoid a potential conflict with my friend for absolutely no reason.

Sounds brilliant. Better than most weddings, which always sound a complete bore to practically everyone else!

Me and dh desperately wanted to get married on Halloween. We had to settle for October 7th though due to too many Birthdays and planned events happening on Halloween. I regret not having it at the mid to end of the month so I could have got away with Halloween decorations! The spookier the better!

Sounds lovely. Something a bit unusual, and face it, who doesn't get tired of all those identikit weddings?

To avoid grim weather you could just have an early evening/candlelit ceremony and just the one evening reception.

And that's coming from me, who hates the onset of the dark autumnal nights more than any other time of the year.

Devil's food cake for a wedding cake!?

It sounds great. I'd love to go to a Halloween wedding.

Yes that’s amazing I love that time of year. It could be really atmospheric

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I’ve just seen his Father’s Day card thanking him for everything he does and for being there for them.... I feel gutted! I do everything for them. Never expect thanks as I’m their mum, I’m being stupid aren’t I!