DP angry I gave him my cold

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Due to all the recent changes in temperature, I came down with a bit of a cold over the weekend. Cold symptoms are something I usually suffer with cold symptoms when I’m tired and stressed l, I’ve had a lot to deal with lately, so I assumed it was one of my ‘fake colds’ and still gave him kisses, affection etc.

It turns out that my ‘fake cold’ has manifested itself into a full blown cold and DP has returned home from work this evening blaming me. I’m talking, won’t come near me, a lot of the time when I look at him he tells me how he’s ‘not happy with me because I made him sick’ and he signs anytime I sniffle or cough.

I feel terrible I made him sick but I didn’t do it on purpose. He’s usually adorable and I understanding so this is making me feel really down. Aibu to think that shared sickness is just a hazard of shared living spaces?

Sorry spellcheck, he has returned home feeling under the weather. He sighs anytime I cought etc

Wow. What an arsehole.

And a baby. ffs it's a cold not ebola.

He sounds like he has all the logic of a toddler.

Erm firstly you can't catch a cold due to changing temperatures.

I'd be a bit annoyed if I were him maybe, if you'd been all over me etc knowing that you might be ill, but he's being a dick by what he's doing, especially as you've obviously said sorry. Has he got any big events or anything coming up he doesn't want to be ill for?

thepertubedpenguin changing temperatures can lower your immune system.

How ridiculous, if you live in close quarters then sometimes germs will spread even if you’re being careful. Colds happen, especially between partners, it’s not a malicious biological weapon!

I had a job when I was younger in an environment where I was walking constantly between cold and hot temperatures. I got the worst flu I've ever had in my life. It was honestly horrendous. So changes in temp can make you sick I think.

It' a cold. Living together he was very likely to get it. He is being a knob.

If you get colds often try taking vitamin C tablets every day.

He sounds like a weirdo.

He took your cold, OP, without so much as a by your leave. Tell him that, the daft twat.

He's being ridiculous. Unless you were wiping your nose on his toothbrush, you have done nothing wrong here - colds just spread.

Idiot

I get the fake colds too when I'm tired and stressed.

He's being really stupid. You can't blame someone for passing on the common cold

OH had proper flu, last month, very ill. The idiot refuses the flu jab every year despite having asthma. I nursed him patiently resisting the urge to curse at him for not having the jab. Then son got it was even more ill gp so worried talked about admitting him. Son and OH both had antibiotics for secondary infections. I then caught it but I have the flu jab every year so did not have any complications. I tried not to look smug.

Families pass around germs, it is unavoidable, your OH is being stupid.

He is horrid and I am being polite.
Tell him to get his facts right. The cold is a virus which he could have picked up anywhere. Perhaps he should blame himself for having sh*t immune system or not washing his hands

He is being utterly ridiculous. Dh accidentally sneezed all over me once when he had a cold and I did end up catching it- probably would have regardless and not for one second was I annoyed that is caught it. Part and parcel of living with someone else

He’s being a twit. He could just as easily have caught it from someone behind him in Tesco. Buy him some bubble wrap and tell him to wrap himself up.

I'm confused

couldn't he see you had a cold and then he could have kept out of your way?!

🤔 you really can’t catch cold from changing temperatures and whilst it can lower your immune system the tiniest bit.... it simply can’t be held accountable for you becoming unwell.

You would have to be a 90 year old with a list as long as your arm of other medical problems for it have any noteable impact.

You caught a bug!

Prepare yourself for the man flu. What a baby.

spiceupyourlife you seem to have completely missed the point of my post? We’re not here to debate why I am sick. I’ve been very stressed and exhausted at my work lately, I expect my exhaustion combined with other factors made it easier for me to get sick.

Just tell him to grow the fuck up

Are you married to my husband? I thought he was the only person who describes having a cold as 'being sick'. I find laughing with germs in his face makes me feel a lot better. Then ignore him once he's taken to bed with manflu. (But DW...he says, you know I get the illest!) Humour is the only way to cope.

Colds are mainly spread by droplets, not by person-to-person contact. You cough/sneeze, droplets land on surfaces which are then touched by other people. So, even if you hadn't touched your DP at all while you were poorly, it's highly likely he would still have got the cold.

He sounds like an arse. I'd LTB (seriously) - if he is like this with a cold, imagine what he'll be like if either of you ever have any serious problems.