DP angry I gave him my cold

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Due to all the recent changes in temperature, I came down with a bit of a cold over the weekend. Cold symptoms are something I usually suffer with cold symptoms when I’m tired and stressed l, I’ve had a lot to deal with lately, so I assumed it was one of my ‘fake colds’ and still gave him kisses, affection etc.

It turns out that my ‘fake cold’ has manifested itself into a full blown cold and DP has returned home from work this evening blaming me. I’m talking, won’t come near me, a lot of the time when I look at him he tells me how he’s ‘not happy with me because I made him sick’ and he signs anytime I sniffle or cough.

I feel terrible I made him sick but I didn’t do it on purpose. He’s usually adorable and I understanding so this is making me feel really down. Aibu to think that shared sickness is just a hazard of shared living spaces?

To be honest I prefer if my dh keeps himself to himself if he has a cold. Sometimes we will pass a cold to each other and sometimes not but the last thing I want is a kiss or affection from some snotty cold sufferer so I can understand your partner being a bit pissed off. However he should really have said something at the time - no point in getting irritated now.

You do know that you don't 'catch cold' from changes in temperature, being tired or stressed.
'D' H is being a baby.

DH has a cold. He's been banished to the spare room, not so much so that I don't catch it, but more because I don't want to listen to him coughing and spluttering all night but really because I don't want to get it.

Find ways in which his cold is different to yours and then claim that he must have caught it from a different source. 'Eyes streaming? Oh no that doesn't sound like the same thing. I hope that I don't catch your cold on top of mine'

Tell him he has no proof that his cold came from you, therefore it may be one you haven't had so he needs to isolate himself very carefully in order not to risk passing it on to you.

You expect constant handwashing, antibac every time he touches his face and for him to disinfect every surface he has touched.

If you have DC in the future he'll get a terrible shock - children are like little walking Petri dishes of disease. Never had so many colds in my life as since my DC started school. DH too. Generally the bugs work their way around the family, with just one of us skipping it each time.
He's being really quite pathetic.
Plus he can't prove it's your cold without an actual Petri dish - he could've picked it up anywhere

What!! Don't feel upset on his behalf, you're the one who's sick and he's the one who's acting like squawking toddler. Ffs
Has he missed some crucial life lessons or something. People get sick and occasionally you catch what other people have? Its not the end of the world
What a man-baby

Tell him that as your contagious before symptoms show your holding his responsible for making you ill as he could have had it first. His being a twat

Is this an isolated incident or is he generally a cunt?

Does he blame you for things that aren't your fault?

Does he offer support to you if you are ill or say he's ill too or has no time due to work?

I ask becuase in my experience an adult blaming in this situation and being the way you describe is a hallmark of narcissist borderline psycopath behaviour. It may not be if its a one off but if it's a pattern tis not a good one.

Even if you suspect you may have a cold proper, does he wear a mask when sleeping in case you roll onto your side and breathe on him?
Hazard of living with another human.
Get a grip man!

I have had a cold pretty much solidly since December - as soon as it starts to go, I get a fresh dose. (Lecturer, loads of germs at work from students, never getting time to get properly well, so constantly run down and vulnerable to bugs.) My DP has, consequently, had more than his fair share. We have tried separate beds, and rigorous hand washing, but if you live with it, chances are you are going to catch it.

Chuckling at this (sorry, OP!) because DS comes down with so many viruses and spreads them around the family that I've nicknamed him Typhoid Mary. Yet it's almost impossible to live under the same roof with someone who's ill with a virus and not come down with it, unless your immune system's rock solid. Your partner/DH is being uncharitable and childish. Tell him to grow up.

The flu shot helps, some years more than others, but I get mine every autumn.