To think this is not enough?

[Ella1980]

Long story short... I have two kids half of the time (the rest of the time they live with their dad) and a fiancé. We both work ft-I'm currently on around £900 pm and him on around £1400. No other income except Child Benefit for one boy.

We are renting a small 3-bed for £850 pm.

Every month fiancé pays some money into my account.

Out of my account comes nearly all of the food, all expenses for the boys, council tax and all bills inc rent. He pays for his own fuel, that's about it.

Last month he paid into my account £750. Personally I think this is not enough!

Ballpark figure, what would you say is reasonable?

I am sick of struggling 😢

Thank you all so much for your advice x

Have you checked out about tax credits/UC as you are not earning much over a year basis...
what happens to teh DC in the holidays.

what impact has there been on you with your DP moving in benefit change etc...

you have 2 issues - your ex and his pathetic non paying - not seen earlier posts but sounds like it is not 50/50 if he doesnt pay anything for shoes/activities/uniform etc (been there ...my F was feckless and nasty rather than wealthy and nasty but my DM had to watch every 1p) unfortuntely she wasnt great with money/detail so life was stressful as we hid from balifs regularly...

your F doesnt sound like he is paying his way either - you shouldnt be worse off with him living there

it'll be a chore but you need to get a grip of the detail of your money then maybe get some advice to see if there is any benefits/tax credits you should get..

Unless you're expecting your fiance to pay for your kids I reckon his contribution is quite fair,though as he earns more than you I would expect him to put his hands in his pockets for treats and nights out etc.
As for your ex he has the kids half the time so should be doing his share of shopping for the kids essentials such as clothes and shoes only.

have you officially divorced your ex? shouldn't you have got something during divorce settlement?

I have divorced him but he was a Chartered Accountant...say no more!

@Aprillygirl We never go on nights out! He would argue that is a "luxury".

@Ella1980 so your telling me when your kids go to your ex H 50/50 your provide there clothes and toys etc ?

I'm really surprised that some posters, plus the law it seems, don't think the higher earner (by miles) should pay maintenance to the other when 50/50. I would have thought the fact that you sacrificed earning potential whilst your joint children were babies/toddlers, should mean that they would still pay some maintenance.

Your ex is a c&@*, and on the plus side, at least you've got rid of him.

I think it's a decent amount.

He works full time and has chosen not to have any children yet, you work part time and have two children.

If he pays £750 then that's half the rent and council tax at £500 and £250 for his share of bills and food. Given there's one of him and three of you that's more than fair.

And what's wrong with a little luxury if you can afford it?