Hi,
I've had a shocking 2 weeks so will bullet point to remain concise!
- Rushed into A+E after 111 referral. Turns out long standing ovarian cyst that was massive + had damaged my left ovary.
- Rushed into surgery, wherein as part of a huge procedure lost my left ovary.
- Surgery very invasive due to nature of the cyst (not keyhole as per norm) which has left me with a large incision/scar which is c-section level, I'm on bed rest for 3 weeks minimum.
- Husband's sister has caused huge issues in the past, all oriented around a 'joint investment property' wherein he paid for everything but her name was on everything. He was happy to go without a fuss but she kept asking for more money after he agreed for his mum to 'take over' his 'investment' (which basically meant funnelling money into the sister's BTL aspirations) until she asked for more 3 months into our new property and I said no. Que massive wrath and abusive messges, I felt his mum didn't do anything to defend/help me so have shyed away from his family since. I used to be super active and regularly visiting his mum's house but feel a bit once bitten now.
I explicitly asked husband not to tell his mum as I didn't want it getting back to the sister and being used to hurt me going forward (the messages were truly that vile and spiteful that I could expect such a thing). Never said don't* tell your mum or do not call etc, just not about my OVARIES.
- He agrees - lovely - and I check in when he mentions his mum that he didn't tell her it was my ovaries. He says no, of course not.
- I checked his messages and he had.
AIBU to have not wanted this to happen? I'm really struggling with the idea that I'm potentially goign to find it really hard to conceive and I hate that my autonomy has been taken away from me and I feel like...gossip fodder? I'm crying as I type this so sorry if it's an incoherent mess.