To think a 2 bed house is perfect and more rooms aren't necessary?

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For us.

It's just me, DH and DS.

I do not want any more DC. I am done. DH thinks I will change my mind but I cannot stand children in general, although can't get enough of my DS. But he is enough. I think I've hit the jackpot of balance with life, work, DC and being 'me'.

Friends and family think I'm mad for saying we will be looking for a two bed. I want to stay in a fairly nice area of the South so more rooms would compromise location and just aren't needed.

In addition to this, I'm a cleaning goddess and I like to do everything myself in a particular way so wouldn't ever want a cleaner to treat myself to an easier life. Having just 2 bedrooms makes this much easier as it probably equals a smaller property.

AIBU?

Lol only on mumsnet would the lack of a spare bedroom cause such incredulity. Meanwhile back in the real world

In my real world we have overnight visitors a lot. Family live far away, so adding in a hotel stay would mean factoring in hotels and not everyone can afford that. Plus, having people who come and do childcare for DD, I don’t want mum etc to have to y in an hotel for a week, traipsing too and fro early in the morning and late at night for a week when she has already travelled 300 miles to help us. And that’s true of a lot of people’s real world, even if it isn’t yours.

Jeez how did millions ever survive without a playroom or ginormous kitchen? Lol people are so posh and funny on this site

Is it posh to live in a house that’s not cramped?

How bizarre to say you are a cleaning goddess as if one extra bedroom would make a difference.

Most unused bedrooms turn into a study or playroom or guest room.

We've always had 4 bedrooms ( 2 DCs) and one room was a guest room / hobby room over the years.

If you can afford it, my rule is to buy as big as you can and in the right location as this is usually a good investment if nothing else (depending where you live.)

The only thing I would say is that often the second bedroom is very small in a 2 bed, which is ok for small children but not as good for teens. I'd go for a 3 bed knowing that the 3rd room will be a tiny box room.

As others have said, the downstairs space with 2-bedroom houses can be a bit small. We have 2 DC and a small 3-bedroom house. I don't crave more bedrooms but I do crave more space downstairs. There are times when we want to be doing different things, but don't want to be shut away in our bedrooms - we only have one living/dining room (decent size) and a kitchen downstairs though.

When your DC is older they may want to be playing games with friends or doing homework while you're watching TV or chatting to a friend. If I had more money I would love to lie somewhere with more living space, but of course 2 bedrooms is 'enough' for a couple and 1 DC. You can always change your minds in the future. Sounds like you're pretty comfortable financially?

Not having a playroom or huge kitchen /= Cramped. Bloody posh people, they'd die if they had to live like 95% of the world

Can you get a 2 bed that can potentially be extended into the roof if you need a three bed? We are in a two bed with one DC and it does feel small.

@2eternities stop being so bitter about “the other half”.

Nobody here is to blame if you can’t afford a decent sized house!

In some areas it probably is @IvanaPee

YANBU OP. Space is great but it also tempts you to fill it. I've noticed a lot of people's spare bedrooms are just junk dumping grounds. Why spend extra money for a room, then spend more on unwanted junk and dump it in the room never to be looked at again? Makes no sense.

Also I've never had a guest sleep over and I wouldn't want to, so I get you on that one.

Do whatever suits you, personally I do like a lot of space, we are fortunate in that we live in a relatively ‘cheap housing’ area and I am sure our 5 bed house costs a lot less than a 2 bed in the South. But I prefer to have a separate bedroom to DH, I would hate the thought of not having my ‘own space’, we have a guest room and one bedroom is an office & our Teenage DS has his own bedroom & shower room too. I fully appreciate that we are very lucky.

IvanaPee we have 2 DCs and 3 bedrooms. DC 1 insisted that they share and now they refuse to sleep apart. So now DC2s old bedroom is a playroom aka where we shove all their toys. I’m not sure how that makes us posh?

Yep, Mil now has two spare rooms, both piled to the ceiling with ancient junk. You can just about make out beds in there though so guess she can still have overnight guests

Sounds like a circumstance thing, not like an actual extra living room just for toys which I've only ever witnessed on Cbeebies where they only ever show posh, usually southern families

Why are you asking? Does your husband wish a three bed?

If you're both in agreement then crack on.

If you're not then you need to agree at some point. Cleaning a third bedroom versus just two really isn't that big a deal.

If you don't have anyone to stay and don't socialise at home and can't envisage ever needing extra space for that,, again, crack on.

@edgeofheaven what?!

Blunt it's not just about cleaning a third room!

@mumofamenagerie That's the only thing I dislike about my house. Not enough room for a dining room table, however I'm the only one who lives there so its not a massive issue, its nice to have options though.

If you don't have anyone to stay and don't socialise at home and can't envisage ever needing extra space for that,, again, crack on.

Can I just say, it is entirely possible to do all these things in a 2 bed house?

OP I feel like people are just assuming you have a free choice between a 2 or 3 bed house, and haven't fully taken in that choosing a 3 bed will involve compromising on area or commute or type of house or worse schools.

Fair enough Yabbers but you must understand that nobody 'needs' and many can't afford the luxury of a spare bedroom. Myself and/or my kids bunk up together and the visitors take the master bedroom when they stay over. That, to me, makes a lot more sense than compromising on a location and/or killing yourself trying to payfor a mortgage you can't really afford.

I don't know what a cleaning goddess is (is it a robot vacuum?) but definitely agree you don't need more rooms. And it's better to reduce mortgage than increase it.

@Aprillygirl but some do need it. There’s a reason people with disabilities are exempt from losing the spare room subsidy.

For us, OH is 6ft4, can’t imagine all three of us crashing with DD in her bedroom. As we generally have visitors every other week for childcare, that’s not really practical.

We also have an extra room downstairs for all of DDs physio equipment, wheelchair, walking frame etc. In her old house where we didn’t have this space, it was lying everywhere an we were constantly having to move it about.

I understand others don’t have the same issues, but it’s wrong to suggest it an unnecessary luxury for everybody.

I don't know what a cleaning goddess is (is it a robot vacuum?)
We have one of those, it is a petulant pest, not a goddess!