Is my son's girlfriend lying?

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My 12 year old son has a girlfriend (of the same age) and I think she is lying to him. She has anxiety which she is open about and she seems very sweet though is quite demanding of his time and will call me if she can't get through to him. She called me 3 times on my way home from work the other day and it's less than a 15 minute journey! The thing is the explanation she has offered my son is that she was very good friends with a child star who died and this has made her anxious. I feel terrible but I don't believe her... my son has told me today that she also knew a girl who is 'more' famous and that she committed suicide because she was badly bullied. Alarm bells are ringing in my head. My son believes her wholeheartedly but I just can't see how this can be true. Do you think I should talk to her parents? I really don't know how to broach this and would grateful of any advice x

Op can you confirm that your son is 12?
That is way too intense for such a young age. I think you should get your son to take a step back from this. Too much too young

I'm surprised you haven't already brought this up with her parents

And at 12 years old calling you multiple times ??

Alarm bells ringing and a few talks need to be had.

Another thread on pre teen relationships

Do you mean 21?

12 must be a typo.

Eh
12 is that a typo

She’s a child. Children lie about stupid rubbish to make themselves more interesting and seek attention. It’s not really a problem.

The problem is the lack of boundaries. Why is she calling your son repeatedly and expecting him to be instantly, always available? Why does she have your number and why does she ring you? That’s not normal but her behaviour really isn’t your problem. Tell her to stop calling you, tell your son that this behaviour is too intense for their ages and that you will be enforcing a phone curfew to give him a break.

Call her parents.

Your son does not need this crap, he is 12! She sounds troubled, and probably these deaths are people she followed on line. Anyways, whether they are "real" relationships, or social media, the girl needs help dealing with it and I mean real actual professional help, not her 12 yr old friends or parents.

Of course she's lying. She's a 12 year old attention seeker. Stop feeding her drama by blocking her calls.

Why on earth is a 12 year old ringing you? Why has she even got your number?

I don’t see how contacting her parents will add fuel to the fire? It might catch her out in a rather obvious lie and stop her making up more lies. How has she got your number? My parents, after 20 years of marriage, don’t have my DH’s number!

They’re far too young for all this nonsense! What a ridiculous situation! Confiscate his phone immediately, tell him he needs a clean break for the sake of his own mental health, tell her to stop calling you and block her number. This isn’t your son’s problem to deal with - he’s a child!

They are 12. Stop taking it all so seriously. You make yourself sound ridiculous.

Why on earth would a 12 year old have a girlfriend? He is far too young for any of this.

If your son has a rabbit it needs to be moved to a place of safety.

He’s too young! And so is she, it’s too much for both of them

12 is bonkers if that is true. As a parent I'd say I'm sorry GF but you seem very upset and I think it's best I call your parents about this. It's not appropriate to be calling me constantly about DS.

Something similar if 21 too - although maybe not the parents bit.

This is insane.

Where's the OP gone?

12???????

Are you abroad OP?

They're 12?! Do some parenting and put a stop to all this nonsense.

Whatever age, it's too ''needy'' and he needs to break away.

Surely you meant 21?!?!

12?!

Block her number and have a chat with your son about healthy relationships.