DSD is 15. She has a job in a local restaurant weekends and holidays. There’s a long story but cutting it short we don’t get on all that well, polite, and tolerate each other for DH’s sake. This is years down the line of me trying everything but facing a brick wall of hostility.
I never hear from her, all contact is through her dad. If I’m in on her visits, I cook her food, make her comfortable at home, ensure she has everything she needs but she rarely speaks
To me, preferring to whisper to her dad. There’s tonnes of stuff I could write but I’ve disengaged mostly, make myself scarce and we all get by.
The ONLY time she messages me is Christmas, dads birthday and father’s day. She has a small amount of money from her job and her school is in a busy town where she goes every lunchtime and after school. She’s messaged asking me to get him something for father’s day, card and present, as she does every Christmas and birthday.
AIBU in telling her to sort this herself now she’s getting older? Even a box of cheap chocs would mean a lot more Than something I’d bought.
She’s quite mature for her age and incredibly manipulative.