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Friend losing weight in one week

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BigRedLondonBus · 10/06/2019 09:41

I’m probably gonna sound unreasonable but ive been on a diet since mid January, ive lost almost 3 stone but I’m still pretty big and got a lot more to lose. Anyway no one has really noticed but that’s fair enough. My friend has been on a diet for ONE week and apparently she’s lost “loads of weight” and everyone is saying shes lost weight? Aibu to think it’s not possible to lose a noticeable amount of weight in one week? She is saying it’s because she is smaller and that’s why it’s more noticeable but one week?

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Whocutdownthecherrytree · 10/06/2019 11:32

Water retention and bloating can go in a week. Grain free diets are great for this. Water retention comes back though when foods are reintroduced.

isme10 · 10/06/2019 11:38

You said...."Just felt a bit deflated this morning." Well in a way that is a good sign and probably because of your weight loss !! Seriously keep going you have done a great job to date. You are right the scales don't lie.....sometimes friends do !

amusedbush · 10/06/2019 11:41

BigRedLondonBus

In 2016/2017 I went from 16 stone 7 to 12 stone and nobody really noticed until I'd lost about four stone, then suddenly I was getting compliments left, right and centre.

I think it was because I felt really confident so I started wearing much more fitted, fashionable clothes. Before then I'd worn a uniform of leggings and massive blouses/jumpers.

Ginkypig · 10/06/2019 11:42

For comparison op.

It took me 2 stone to lose one dress size which still had me as about 1-2 stone overweight (for bmi)

My sister who is shorter than me and in the same time with roughly the same weight dropped from a 16 to an 8-10 but by that loss she also got her to her healthy (bmi) weight

everyone told her how well she had done and how tiny she looked but no one noticed my loss.

that doesn't mean I hadn't done bloody brilliantly!
you know how hard you have worked and the health benefits your on your way to and that what matters, everyone else will notice eventually! People did eventually comment but by then I'd lost nearly 4 stone and was into a healthy weight so standardly thin.

You just keep going for yourself, no one else matters!

fedup21 · 10/06/2019 11:43

Her weight loss is separate to yours-keep going!

Stifledlife · 10/06/2019 11:45

The bigger you are, the more "buffer" you have.
So you may find you are a bit smaller in size but you are probably a lot less "dense", and over time (and more weight loss) that buffer will reduce and suddenly you will look like you've lost weight.
It's the same system that allows you to put on half a stone and not have to get bigger clothes.

If your friend has much less that you to lose then she has less buffer and it will show much faster.

Her definition of "loads of weight" will be different to yours as well.. 4 lbs is probably huge to her but I could lose that by having a big poo!

Keep the faith. One day soon your "big" clothes will be impossible for you to wear anymore, people will notice and then you will have the joy of all your thin friends telling you you've lost enough and you need to stop!

TheStuffedPenguin · 10/06/2019 11:48

When people lose loads of weight in a week it's mostly water not fat .

Lizzie48 · 10/06/2019 12:00

It's actually not something I would say to someone, because I don't want to put my foot in it and it could come across as rude IYSWIM. I suspect PPs are right and your friend is talking about her weight loss all the time. (You obviously know she's only been on a diet for a week. )

If I see a friend looking visibly slimmer, I might say, 'You're looking really good,' but they would have to be a very close friend, otherwise I would be wary of causing offence.

Well done on losing 3 stone, you're doing really well.

PlausibleSuit · 10/06/2019 12:06

Three stone off is terrific. Don't let anything or anyone rob you of this fact! Comparison is the thief of joy, as they say. You've lost half the weight you targeted yourself to lose; that is a real achievement. You are evidently focused, determined and motivated, with a clear and healthy plan.

At the end of the day, you (presumably) set out to lose weight for yourself, not anyone else. So maybe think of this as a message from the universe to keep motivations inward-focused. You're the one who sees the difference on the scale, or in the tape measure, or in how that jacket fits. Those little nudges are motivators for you, and you only.

I work as a personal trainer. I also lost several stone myself, many years back. Everyone's weight loss journey is a solo one, and everyone's internal voice is their biggest critic. For me certainly, and I know for a lot of my clients, reducing the volume of that internal voice is the hard bit.

Let your friend have the temporary attention. Let it go with love. And keep going. 👍

M3lon · 10/06/2019 12:16

Try to remember you aren't doing this for people's approval - you are doing it for your own health.

One thing is certain, you will have improved your health and long term life expectancy enormously by losing weight in a sustainable way over a 5 month period. You friend will have done sweet FA for her health by fasting for a week and losing a load of water she will regain as soon as she eats something salty!

ohtheholidays · 10/06/2019 12:18

You can lose a good amount of weight in 1 week OP.

I'm doing slimming world and I lost 6 1/2 LBs in my first week,when my Mum folowed it she lost nearly 9LB in her first week.

But everyone's different and everyone will lose weight at different rates.

Lilyannarose · 10/06/2019 12:49

You have done amazing, so just hold on to that!
Everyone is different.
The only time when I lost a significant amount in one week as following a horrendous stomach bug!

LaurieMarlow · 10/06/2019 12:55

It’s certainly possible. My dad lost a stone in a week once. My mum was livid as she lost nothing (they were on the same diet).

But it doesn’t in any way take from your achievements. You’re doing brilliantly, well done.

Jenasaurus · 10/06/2019 13:04

The only time I lost loads in my first week was on a VLCD (milk shake replacements) I lost about 9 pounds but a lot of it is water and its not sustainable and like others said I lost it from my face so was more noticeable. Keep going with your healthier weight loss plan. Longer term its much better for you :)

FartMachine · 10/06/2019 13:27

rottness I don’t know how many calories I normally eat, probably not 35,000 though! I just eat 500 calories a day for 4 of the 7 days, then 1,200 for the other 3. I’m not saying it would make everyone lose 10lbs, that it’s in anyway sustainable or that it’s a fun thing to do. The OP asked if people could lose a noticeable amount of weight in a week and I said what I do a couple of times a year.

cwheatcroft · 10/06/2019 13:48

You might think you are overweight and others might do too. However, it's only your opinion that counts so others will politely keep their opinion to themselves whilst you work on your self-image.

As has been said above, there will be a tipping point, probably when you get a new outfit or when you are able to fit into something that you have long since outgrown and people will suddenly notice what was under their noses all of the time.

It's nice when people mention these things unprompted and all of the effort will be worth it. It doesn't matter what others are doing - it's your life, health and happiness that is at stake here.

Well done on the 3 stone which is, frankly, amazing. Keep it up!

RottnestFerry · 10/06/2019 14:23

rottness I don’t know how many calories I normally eat, probably not 35,000 though!

As somebody else pointed out, the 10 lbs is probably a combination of fat and water. It doesn't really matter though if you get the result you want.

GooodMythicalMorning · 10/06/2019 14:35

yeah Nobody noticed when I lost 3 stone, everyone noticed when I lost 6 though!

EchidnasPhone · 10/06/2019 14:39

Similar to GooodMythicalMorning I had 6 stone to lose and people only noticed after 4! Am currently at a healthy bmi and maintaining my loss. Definitely just focus on all the reasons you’re losing weight and follow your own path.

YouSayPotatoesISayVodka · 10/06/2019 15:03

3st! You’ve done amazing well done! As for your friend... if she’s telling people she feels great already lost “loads of” weight then I guess out of politeness people say things like “oh yeah I can so tell you have you look great!” I know I’m guilty of that even when I don’t even notice a difference. It has to be really noticeable for me to realise someone has lost any weight at all.

KylieKoKo · 10/06/2019 15:16

I lost 2 stone a few years ago (and have pretty much kept it off)

After the first stone or so I started to buy new clothes that fit my new shape and then people noticed. Are you still wearing a lot of the same things?

KylieKoKo · 10/06/2019 15:17

Also I rarely notice weight loss unless it's drastic. I just don't pay that much attention to my friends weight.

Holibobsing · 10/06/2019 16:38

You remember the tale of the hare and the toitoise? Keep going o.p. It takes me 2.5 stone to go down a dress size. I bet you're feeling lighter and feeling better? Chipping away at weight is so much better than dropping 7lb - 1 stone, which zings back on

PregnantSea · 10/06/2019 22:29

3 stone is absolutely loads of weight, you've done amazingly well. And you've done it gradually which means you've lost fat and it will stay off.

The bigger you are, the less noticeable the weight loss is at first. If you've got another 3 stone to go then I would imagine you're getting into the more noticeable range now. I bet in a couple of weeks time if you keep it up you'll need to buy new clothes and suddenly everyone will start to notice.

I also agree with others that maybe she's banging on about it so they had to say something - I don't normally comment on weight loss unless I am very close to someone and I know they're dieting. For all I know someone might have cancer or an eating disorder or be under extreme stress etc and so I don't like to draw attention to their weight. It seems rude to me.

Juniperjunojunijune · 11/06/2019 06:44

Yes, it is possible. I didn't a diet which is what surgeons recommend to overweight patients who need to lose weight before surgery. It's a diet which aims to lose weight in a week to get patients down to a healthy weight for the surgery. Within a few days I'd lost visible weight. I am guilty of snacking and eating food which doesn't suit my body (for example, I LOVE bread and pasta but have a wheat intolerance which can mean wheat makes me put on weight really fast) so when I cut it out I lose weight really quickly. It's definitely possible.

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