Overnight guest opinions

[Zippy1808]

So last night I was woken up by my bf who had come home from the pub telling me he had brought home a bloke to stay on our sofa for the night because he has lost his keys. All my boyfriend knew of him was he drinks in the pub, they say hello and talk about football and only last night found out his name. So in my opinion a complete stranger. We have an 8 yr old daughter who was woken up by them both chatting loudly and started to cry because she was scared. Although me and my bf calmed her down she still wasn’t happy. This morning the man left early thankfully and I told my bf that I was angry as he could have a criminal record and we don’t know his name or where he lives to prevent this happening again. However, he thinks I’m sick to have such thoughts and is angry that i didn’t get up to make the fella breakfast.

What are other people’s opinions as according to my bf I’m overreacting and no one else would have a problem with this kind of goings on?

Okay, no, I’d be angry. Perhaps not as much as some but still.

It was very thoughtless and irresponsible.

Men don't see other men as a potential threat in the way women do. They don't have the experience of being vulnerable. It was still a dick move.

The breakfast thing is misogynistic beyond words.

Thank you all for your comments it’s been illuminating to see that it’s not just me that thinks I deserved more respect in this case and was right to be annoyed. I know bf has been a prize winning dick but is usually not like this and actually brought me breakfast in bed on Saturday. So the breakfast comment is more tied to how he sees me as out of order for being objectionable to his ‘guest’ and so annoyed I’m not falling over myself to be hospitable as I am when we have had family or very close friends to stay in the past. Made me question his priorities in our relationship though. He is a good man but I won’t be having a repeat of this.

Is he in the habit of going to the pub regularly, on his own, using YOUR family money to pay for alcohol? Is that a fair way to conduct your family finances? I’d say probably not.

Seriously? The issue here is that the OP’s partner invited a virtual stranger home - not that he might have a few pints every so often. Is literally every penny ‘family money’?