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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to wonder why you'd park in someone's allocated space

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victorioussponges · 09/06/2019 09:30

and not leave a note or anything?

We live on an estate with a combination of permit parking and a small number of allocated spaces. The permit parking is a bit competitive but you can generally find a couple of spots of an evening. The allocated spaces have house numbers and are off the road in a garage area.

Yesterday evening we came home at around 7pm to find someone in our allocated space. No note as there has sometimes been in the past. At some point around midnight they left.

On this occasion it was no real bother as we don't currently have a car, and it just so happened that my parents weren't staying as they often do on the weekends. But this person can't know that anyway. AIBU to think that takes balls? I just can't imagine ever feeling comfortable doing it

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Finessia · 09/06/2019 09:33

I might occasionally just for a few minutes if I needed to, for example, drop something off with a friend and no other spaces were free.

I can’t think of any circumstances where I would park in someone’s allocated space for multiple hours though.

Iamthewombat · 09/06/2019 09:37

Because the person in your space is selfish and only cares about their needs being met. It’s that simple. Or it’s a friend of one of your neighbours, and the neighbour has said, “park in victorioussponge’s spot, she seldom uses it”, which means that the neighbour is a CF.

Badwifey · 09/06/2019 09:37

Maybe a neighbour has noticed that it usually empty and told their visitor to park there as it's unused.

justeatasalad · 09/06/2019 09:39

What @Badwifey said although some people have parked across my drive ( I have a car ) and I'm like why

miaCara · 09/06/2019 09:40

Or maybe its a newish neighbour with no car who doesnt understand the allocated spaces rules for visitors .
Perhaps they have their own but forgot the number.
Maybe there were several empty spots and they thought it was simply a car park for the area.

redstapler · 09/06/2019 09:42

Can you park behind them and put a note on their windscreen so they can't leave without calling you to move your car? inconvenience them as they have inconvenienced you.

justeatasalad · 09/06/2019 09:44

The op doesn't have a car @redstapler

Iamthewombat · 09/06/2019 09:44

She doesn’t have a car at the moment.

Original poster

victorioussponges · 09/06/2019 09:47

Thanks all. I can imagine it might be someone who's seen that we don't use it all the time, but even then it's a bit of a punt so wouldn't you leave a note? Especially if you're planning to be there from the afternoon/evening til midnight? Not just popping in...

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youarenotkiddingme · 09/06/2019 09:56

Some did this to me - once!

There's a pavement with dropped kerb then my space. I parked them in. I didn't leave a note. The person knew to knock my door though and I had the great pleasure of responding
"Well i didn't know it was your space"
With
"Yet you knew to knock my door to move my car"

It's never happened again

FourForYouGlenCoco · 09/06/2019 10:02

Meh, I can’t get worked up about this. We have designated parking for houses and lots of free street parking nearby. Came home yesterday to find a whacking great van in my designated space. Neighbour next door is moving, so I figured it was the new neighbours who don’t know the system. I’ve come home before to work vans in the space when other people in the close are having work done. I did what I did yesterday - park somewhere else til they’ve moved and get on with my day. Maybe if it happened repeatedly I’d say something (nicely!) but if it’s not a repeat offender I really don’t care. Appreciate I may be in a minority on MN though!

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 10:03

Because people are selfish, inconsiderate and rude.

It's never acceptable to use somebody's space even "for a few minutes" unless there is a real emergency.

What CF thinks it's ok because it's usually empty!

CitadelsofScience · 09/06/2019 10:04

We are having this issue at the moment. Every house has two numbered parking spaces and then there's a limited number of visitors parking. We have one car so don't use the other space unless we have visitors. Someone keeps parking in our space for hours on end, we know which house they're visiting.
So my dh has started to park the car across both spaces in a variety of directions, it makes him look like he's the crappiest Parker in the world but if people are going to be so rude, he doesn't care

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 10:04

FourForYouGlenCoco
you might care if you were unable to park anywhere else!
The whole point of choosing a property with a parking space is to be sure you can park when you want and it's always available.

Shodan · 09/06/2019 10:07

This happened to me once.

Came home to find someone parked in my allocated space. As it was a small car park, and the clearly-marked visitor spaces were also full, I parked across the back of the car in my space.

A couple of hours later a very irate woman banged on my door demanding to know why I'd blocked her in. I pointed out that she had parked in my paid-for space, and she started ranting about how bitchy I was! I told her I'd move my car this time and when I'd finished my meal, then shut the door I ambled out ten minutes later and moved it and she was still huffing and puffing...

JaneGlorianaVillanueva · 09/06/2019 10:09

This is a pet peeve of mine!

We live in a new build estate so we have "allocated" parking. It means that we have 2 spaces right outside our front door (so basically a drive) but it's also right next to two other spaces that belong to my next door neighbour that acts as their drive. So in effect its 4 spaces in a row that have our two front doors next to each other.

They have huge numbers on to show who they belong to but as they line up with our front doors there's be no question as to who the spaces belong to even if they weren't numbered.

On occasion I've come home and found that someones just pulled up on my drive and pissed off and I've no idea when they'll be back!

So rude as I didnr spend ££££££ for other people to use my drive!!!

NotBeingRobbed · 09/06/2019 10:11

Pure entitled narcissist selfishness.

Itssosunny · 09/06/2019 10:15

Ok, they didn't leave the note but you could have left the note for them.

Comps83 · 09/06/2019 10:17

I came home one day feeling quite ill and had also been stuck in traffic for 2 hours on a journey which should have been 30mins
Imagine my horror to find someone parked on my drive, my actual drive in front of my actual house
I felt too ropey to do anything about and went straight to bed
If it ever happens again I will block them in . CFs!!!!!

1moremum · 09/06/2019 10:17

Oh! A Parking Thread! Joy! makes popcorn

Jaxhog · 09/06/2019 10:36

It's never acceptable to use somebody's space even "for a few minutes" hmm unless there is a real emergency.
Or you have permission from the owner.

It's quite selfish to do this, and NOT acceptable to then park in someone else's space. I would leave a large note on the car the first time asking them not to park there. Then if it happens again, ring doorbells until you find the culprit.

dreygrey · 09/06/2019 10:57

I would leave a large note on the car the first time asking them not to park there

Same. The second time I'd use a pritt stick, the 3rd time it'd be superglue.

Lockheart · 09/06/2019 11:07

Maybe they didn't realise it was an allocated space. 'Never attribute to malice that which can be explained by ignorance' and all that.

I accidentally parked in one once. It wasn't "entitled narcissistic selfishness", I was in a new area for a job interview (so nervous and in a hurry) and just didn't realise. My fault, not because I didn't give a shit, but because I made a mistake.

EmmaJR1 · 09/06/2019 11:16

I used to have this all the time at my old house. I blocked them in every time.

I was a shift worker at the time so would arrive home stupid times of night and not be able to park. I also left notes along the lines of "if you act like an arsehole when parking so will I"

happyhillock · 09/06/2019 11:24

But you don't have a car at the moment!!, why are your parent's more entitled to use that space anymore than anybody else, you don't have a car, so it's a free space at the moment.

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