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AIBU?

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Original poster

to wonder why you'd park in someone's allocated space

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victorioussponges · 09/06/2019 09:30

and not leave a note or anything?

We live on an estate with a combination of permit parking and a small number of allocated spaces. The permit parking is a bit competitive but you can generally find a couple of spots of an evening. The allocated spaces have house numbers and are off the road in a garage area.

Yesterday evening we came home at around 7pm to find someone in our allocated space. No note as there has sometimes been in the past. At some point around midnight they left.

On this occasion it was no real bother as we don't currently have a car, and it just so happened that my parents weren't staying as they often do on the weekends. But this person can't know that anyway. AIBU to think that takes balls? I just can't imagine ever feeling comfortable doing it

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CitadelsofScience · 09/06/2019 11:26

happyhillock really? We pay for spaces so it's common courtesy to ask. It is NOT a free space.

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 11:27

But you don't have a car at the moment!!

most ridiculous comment of the week.
why are your parent's more entitled to use that space anymore than anybody else why do you think!?!?!

there's currently no one in my spare room either, does it give the right to any squatter to pop in?

GertrudeCB · 09/06/2019 11:30

It's not a free space, they pay for it !! Ffs .

Bibijayne · 09/06/2019 11:32

@happyhillock we, because OP has paid for it?

In fairness I had an allocated space that I didn't use. I told my lovely elderly neighbour that it was okay for her visitors to use it most weekdays if they popped over as family and friends visiting me would usually only be over on a weekend. But that was an agreement. She also kindly accepted my post/ parcels when I was at work.

The issue here is no communication.

happyhillock · 09/06/2019 11:34

@CitadelsofScience
You don't have a car at the moment, why do you object so much to the space being used when your not using it? Where do your parent's park when you have a car? I wouldn't be bothered about it if i wasn't using it, it's really up to you if you want to pay for sonething your not using.

blackcat86 · 09/06/2019 11:35

Pop a note on the car next time. I found out that I was quite accidentally parking in allocated spaces because they weren't marked at all. Once I knew, I obviously didn't do it again. Sometimes calling CFs or accidental CFs in my case is all that's needed

starzig · 09/06/2019 11:38

Put some tyre spikes in your space

YesQueen · 09/06/2019 11:43

My neighbours have been doing it for 11 years and still act shocked when I ask them to move

Kazzyhoward · 09/06/2019 12:01

It's never acceptable to use somebody's space even "for a few minutes" hmm unless there is a real emergency.

Fully agree. I regularly get people parked across my drive to "pop in" to the church, or a shop, etc. I don't give a shit whether it's for a minute, 5 minutes, or a day. You're inconveniencing me. It's not just blocking my car in the drive when I want to get out. It's also meaning I can't pull into my drive when I return, which in my case means having to drive past, and drive to the other end of the village to turn around as I can't just sit and wait as I'd be blocking the road (which is narrow, single lane) and there are usually no other parking spaces and unlike others, I'm not the kind of arrogant, inconsiderate pillock who'd park blocking someone else's space/drive, even for a few minutes. Our neighbour once missed a hospital appointment because some brain dead moron parked across her drive and she couldn't get her car out. By the time she'd got a taxi, she was late at the hospital and they refused to see her.

CripsSandwiches · 09/06/2019 12:05

It was probably a neighbour who noticed you didn't have a car and told their guest to just park there. People used to block my drive when we didn't have a car (annoyingly it would also tend to coincide with the day we were due a visitor or had a delivery coming).

justeatasalad · 09/06/2019 12:50

My neighbours son would park in other neighbours drives if they knew they weren't using it like if they knew they were on holiday . My mil once came home to a car in their drive was a neighbour visiting no idea who but they didn't seam to think anything wrong with parking in their space .
Some people are quite entitled . I'd rather park down the street than park over on or near someone's drive/space but then I'm considerate.

AnneElliott · 09/06/2019 12:57

I once found cab driver actually on my space. I parked across, blocking him in. He banged on the door with an attitude and so I refused to move.

He called the police, they turned up and advised him to apologise rather than get shirty as that was likely to get better results

When I lived in a flat with allocated parking I once had DWP fraud lot parked in my space. I told them to move, they tried to say their badge/ID gave them rights to park there. I laughed, got out my immigration badge and told them that gave me powers of arrest.... they moved sharpish!

CitadelsofScience · 09/06/2019 13:43

@happyhillock have you actually read mine and others comments or are you just being deliberately obtuse today? We DO have a car and we pay for our space and the upkeep of the parking area with service charges. I'm not having any old Tom, Dick or Harry rocking up and parking in our PAID for space without some common courtesy ffs.

happyhillock · 09/06/2019 14:07

@CitadelsofScience
Yes i have read your post and the other's, i was replying to the person who put on the original post, i know she/he has paid for a parking space but she/he doesn't have a car at the moment so the space isn't being used by the permit holder, so the permit holder is complaining that other people are using it, if she/he had a car there wouldn't be a space would there? what is the point of getting hot and bother over a piece of ground your not using, i wouldn't be paying for something i'm not using, My Daughter lives near to our two football team's ground she has a parking permit on a saturday during the football season she can't get parked due to fan's using her and other people's spaces, and it's the same if there's an evening midweek match, she say's what's the point moaning about it on a Saturday her space will be empty by 5pm, midweek game her space is empty by 10pm, if she need's to be out during games she just moves her car when the game is over

YesQueen · 09/06/2019 14:12

@happyhillock I don't use my space during the day but that doesn't mean anyone else can use it. I paid for it, it's on my deeds and I own it. So it's like someone parking on your driveway if you don't have a car

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 14:25

happyhillock

what pillock thinks they are entitled to something that doesn't belong to them?

My summer house is not for grab when I am not using it.

My wardrobe is not for grab when I am not using some of the clothes in it

My parking space is not for grab either, I might have visitors, a delivery, a taxi and I pay for the convenience of having a free space when someone needs it.

SpeckofStardust · 09/06/2019 14:36

I see your point happyhillock in that it’s kinda like ‘borrowing trouble’, and ‘ifs and buts’; OP actually wasn’t inconvenienced so should wait until she actually needs to park before worrying about it? That said, OP does pay for it, she likes to keep the space free for use by her visitors and the cf parker had no way of knowing that space wouldn’t be needed during the time they took advantage. It’s still wrong and OP is not unreasonable to want to have s9mecsay over who occupies space she pays for. I mean, technically, I’m not using the patio and backyard that I pay for right now but I’d be a bit put out if some randoms wandering past saw how pretty and relaxing it looks on this lovely California early morning while it’s still cool and decided to just walk in and set themselves up to enjoy a picnic breakfast out there.

YesQueen · 09/06/2019 14:45

The issue is you set a precedent too and by the time you need your space, you can't get the fuckers to move bitter experience

Scabetty · 09/06/2019 15:02

I would pop a note on next time as it might become a regular occurrence. My neighbours have been washing their car on my drive when I am at work and don’t know why I find that a piss take. They could have asked but no. Apparently they can’t see the problem and now ignore me

makingmammaries · 09/06/2019 15:08

Yeah, my neighbours used my outside tap to fill their swimming pool. It’s true that I wasn’t using the tap at the time.

OP, can you put a bollard in your space?

NannyRed · 09/06/2019 15:22

You said yourself you don’t have a car.
One of your neighbours had visitors and told them to park in no17s space because ‘they don’t have a car so they won’t mind you using their space’
I wish everyone had such trivial worries.

Purpleartichoke · 09/06/2019 15:28

Some people are jerks. I have an allocated space and find that it’s the same people who park in it time and again, even when other nearby spots are available. My spot just happens to be close to the door.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 09/06/2019 15:34

I used to have a paid-for allocated space (there were only 4 spaces for 10 flats - one was the landlord's, one was the maintenance chaps, one was for visitors and only one was for a tenant - it was first dibs as to who got it) and the amount of people who took my space - despite large signs saying "PERMIT PARKING ONLY" - was mind boggling. Especially when they could park on the street 200 yards away for nothing during the day.

The landlords even put up a sign in the hall AND sent a letter to every flat but still people parked there - they were "just visiting", "just dropping something off", "Oh sorry I didn't see all the signs", "I don't see why it's a problem", "Can't you park somewhere else?".

Ultimately it's because a lot of people are idiots who don't think before they park. They're the same people who park in gateways in the countryside.

crazycatgal · 09/06/2019 15:41

When someone did this to me I left a passive aggressive note. It was a neighbour's boyfriend who was visiting and didn't want to park on the street. Nobody has parked there again but if they do i'll park behind and block them in.

Nearlythere1 · 09/06/2019 15:48

Get a bollard or chain put on it

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