Things other people do that you just don't 'get'

[DebbieFiderer]

Mine are -

Starting to drive off, then putting your seat belt on whilst trying to control the car at the same time. Why? It can't save more than a second, looks awkward, and is dangerous!

Putting bananas into a little plastic bag before putting them in the trolley - the only reason I can see for the plastic bags is to keep loose veg together, or to keep edible parts clean, neither of which applies to bananas, so what's the point?

Taking shopping trollies back to the trolley park but not actually connecting them up with the ones already there - you've done about 95% of the effort, is it really that hard to make someone else's life a bit easier by putting it away properly?

( Yes, mine do seem to be mostly supermarket related but I suppose that's where I come across other people most of the time!)

Actually, I do have one non-supermarket one - people only using one half of a set of double doors when there is a queue of people all wanting to go through - they all line up patiently to go through the one door rather than just OPENING THE OTHER ONE!!

"I don't think you need to be Geoff Capes (showing my age there!)" I got the reference but i agree I suspect anyone under 40 is unlikely to 😂

"Slavishly following fashion regardless of comfort or whether it suits the person" I very much remember reading a magazine article on style v fashion and it stuck with me. I'd never been a "fashion victim" anyway but it gave me even more confidence to wear what suited me rather than what was in fashion JUST because it was in fashion. I was a very petite (I'm only 5'2") very slim (size 6/8) early 20-something at the time and the fashion at the time was very much for very baggy clothes and lots of layers which frankly just drowned me and made me look like someone had tipped a box of rags over me! I'm also a redhead and the colours that were in at this point (fluorescents and other brights) just clashed and made me look garish. As I've aged (and gained weight) I've stuck to what suits me, what I'm comfortable in both in terms of shape and colours, I don't always get it right who does? But I mostly look presentable (despite the lack of ironing 😂) and am wearing clothes that flatter my shape and colouring.

I'm trying to get this across to dd (18) but mostly failing, she's also very slim but tall, but lacks the confidence as yet to rail against wanting to "fit in" so unfortunately sometimes is wearing clothes that make her look even slimmer than she is, but also like she is wearing things that aren't the right length for her (admittedly this is difficult for her to find too) and also colours that aren't suited to her colouring (she is very dark with dark olive skin but some of the colours she's wearing make her look a little jaundiced/sallow). And not just because I think there's other things would suit her better but because she's denying herself things she likes and knows suit her because she's worried others will mock them. This isn't helped by the fact that the fashion for youngsters these days seems to me very conservative and prescriptive - they all look the same! Long dark hair, ripped jeans (but only ever blue possibly white in height of summer), pastel or neutral coloured tops and accessories. You can't even tell what "tribe" they belong to unless it's something like goth. Yet for my generation (80's into early 90's teens) and before (my mothers also commented similarly she was a mod, one sister a rocker, 2 were hippies) there were specific fashions depending what music, film, ideologies you were into. I was a weird mix of hippy and rock chick with a little androgyny thrown in, there were New Romantics, post punks, yuppies or yuppie wannabes, denims, jocks and new mods (I'm sure there were more) and you could tell "what" someone was from their dress - certainly out of school at least.

"People who buy a house in a lovely little village, near the several hundred years old church and them complain about the noise of the bells and fight to have them remove.

Not only I don't get that, but I really hate the entitled fuckers." Absolutely with you here! This happened in the village I used to live in (I'm still in touch with friends from there and on the FB page for it) new person complained to the council ONE person and the council agreed to stop the bells! Which had been rung for almost 1000 years! If you don't like it don't bloody move there! I used to live the house right next door to the church and I'm a light sleeper and even I coped! Your body learns to tune it out - they'd been living there iirc less than 3 months when they complained!

"Same with people who buy a home near a live music venue and then complain about the noise so they lose the license. I bloody hate them." Agree - or a pub, school, train station or airport and then bitch about the noise/how busy it is - what did you expect?!

I think there should definitely be a law brought in somehow that means they can't complain if they moved there AFTER the noisy/busy environment had been there and so there is a reasonable, common sense expectation that there will be a certain level of noise/activity.

Totally agree on the heating too, I've got mine on its 9°c here and I'm bloody cold! A week or so ago it was only 11°c at noon! So I'll have the heating on thanks irrelevant that it's June, it's easy enough to turn on and off as needed.

However I'm also the same re eating times - if nobodies hungry at "dinner time" eat later, if people are hungry earlier and it can be done eat earlier, this idea that people are hungry at the same time every day is bonkers! And if ones hungry and the other/s aren't be flexible. I couldn't eat dinner as early as 5pm even 6pm is a bit of a push but dd trends to prefer earlier so we work around that.

"People who co sleep/refuse to attempt routine/sleep train their children then complain how little sleep they get and how exhausted they are." Equally those that refuse to try co-sleeping but complain that nobodies getting any sleep etc when co-sleeping could be the solution. Being opposed to trying anything that can make life easier purely on "principle" is nuts!

"People who demand feed!!"
Genuine question why is this wrong? I demand fed dd - bf and then later ff and it was never really a problem.

Able-bodied people who choose to have a 'strip wash', when getting in a nice, hot shower is quicker, and so much more satisfying and effective.

People who reference, pick apart and reply to other posters who have contributed to a thread that does not require to be answered. Can't just state what you "don't get" and move on...

Can't just state what you "don't get" and move on...

I don't get why having endless list would be better than having some kind of discussion. It's light hearted you know, it's not even about what you find infuriating, sounds reasonable for people to answer and have an opinion on their own.
Can't you take disagreement at all?

It's more fun to have a back and forth conversation than just read a list of what other people don't get though.

Yes, it does seem to have degenerated into "What I find infuriating" rather than "I don't understand the motivation behind this".

On the baby sleep topic - sometimes it's just what you feel is right. But it can be cathartic to have a bit of a moan about things as well. People moan about all kinds of aspects of having children, you could say well why did they have kids if they were just going to moan about it? If it was so awful that I was on my knees I might be inclined to do something about it. I do get enough sleep. But less than I did when I didn't have a baby. And the getting up for the day at 5/6am is not my favourite (but I suspect would happen regardless of where DS2 slept).

I do try to keep my moaning to a minimum and among parents who feel similarly to me rather than direct it at random people in general though.

I am in the South East. It's not "nice" especially, but we just happen to live there.

I'd say that cheap venues were absolutely plentiful, halls, barns and so on were available. MIdd-range hotels and venues had some choice. Stately homes and nicer venues still had a lot of choices. The really posh London hotels - which I didn't chose, my god the price - only had something like 1 day available, probably due to cancellation!

I did get married on a Saturday too!

Put it this way, if you organise a big birthday party for someone, you won't book it 3 years in advance - most people won't. If you have your eye on a very specific venue, there is a risk it's booked but if you are pretty open minded there really isn't any need to panic. You just need to make quite a few phone calls.

I don't get how someone who wants to get married can be bothered to wait for 2 to 3 YEARS!

Fiona Able-bodied people who choose to have a 'strip wash', when getting in a nice, hot shower is quicker, and so much more satisfying and effective.

I don't get that either. Instead of feeling clean all over, you are just clammy and cold in bits and still half-grimy!

Not do any exercise

If not suffering from condition that prevents you exercising, I can not understand how people can not exercise. At all.

Exactly Buzz!!

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I should add that I didn't have a specific date in mind, I just wanted to get married between June and September on a Saturday, that probably helped a lot re: availability!

I don't get why people choose a wedding venue miles away from where they live, unless it's a destination wedding, then get caffeinated when guests decline the invite.

"If not suffering from condition that prevents you exercising, I can not understand how people can not exercise. At all."

Lol. Maybe they really dislike it. I can just about force myself to go to the gym once a week and even that takes a lot of psyching myself up. I stopped going a couple of years ago because my local leisure centre closed and it took me two years to find somewhere else and get back into the swing of it.

Anybody know the link of the thread "keys at face height" please...I'm intrigued

"Not everyone works 9-5 though."

I have for most of my life. Finish at 5, home by 5.30, eating at or by 6. E
Obviously, I don't have an important job like most mumsnetters so I don't do unpaid overtime or have a long commute to a career job, just a simple life.

"Able-bodied people who choose to have a 'strip wash', when getting in a nice, hot shower is quicker, and so much more satisfying and effective."

It's not quicker to wash your whole body as opposed to face, pits and bits.
Plus being in water dries out the skin. I put body butter on after every shower so that adds to the time it takes.
Also, my shower's not a power shower so I need the heating on to get in it anyway, same as a sink wash.

It was posted earlier drum.

Snap chat filters and heavy makeup - everyone is obsessed with looking fake , no wonder men are scared with sleeping with a woman they've met wearing makeup on ! I went to drop something off at my neighbours and saw her for the first time without makeup , I nearly asked if her daughter was in !

Are men scared of sleeping with women?! Wow.

I love it on the rare occasion that we are all able to eat together as a family. Unfortunately DH doesn't get home from work until 8pm so the kids have their dinner at 6ish and DH and I eat together once he is home.

DH recently had 4 months at home due to a change of job ( gardening leave ) so we were able to all eat together. I loved it but the kids started moaning about having to eat dinner in the dining room each evening ( and having to chat to us ) rather than eating it quickly in the kitchen before dashing back to their room to get back to playing Fortnite.

It's not quicker to wash your whole body as opposed to face, pits and bits.
Plus being in water dries out the skin. I put body butter on after every shower so that adds to the time it takes.
Also, my shower's not a power shower so I need the heating on to get in it anyway, same as a sink wash.

Not making it seem any more appealing than just getting in the shower.

@category12 with a username like that ....

I don’t leave work until 6 most nights so toddler has quite cereal or toast and then bed and we eat anywhere between 9-10.

Now this I don't get at all, unless you have a weird schedule and go to bed at like 2am. Having dinner shortly before you go to sleep is a terrible idea!