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Things other people do that you just don't 'get'

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DebbieFiderer · 08/06/2019 07:44

Mine are -

Starting to drive off, then putting your seat belt on whilst trying to control the car at the same time. Why? It can't save more than a second, looks awkward, and is dangerous!

Putting bananas into a little plastic bag before putting them in the trolley - the only reason I can see for the plastic bags is to keep loose veg together, or to keep edible parts clean, neither of which applies to bananas, so what's the point?

Taking shopping trollies back to the trolley park but not actually connecting them up with the ones already there - you've done about 95% of the effort, is it really that hard to make someone else's life a bit easier by putting it away properly?

( Yes, mine do seem to be mostly supermarket related but I suppose that's where I come across other people most of the time!)

Actually, I do have one non-supermarket one - people only using one half of a set of double doors when there is a queue of people all wanting to go through - they all line up patiently to go through the one door rather than just OPENING THE OTHER ONE!!

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MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 08:30

Adults 'gaming '. FFS.

that!

DirtyDennis · 09/06/2019 08:31

@Phoningliz No, I read the thread title and posted accordingly. These are things I don't get

LivinLaVidaLoki · 09/06/2019 08:33

People who go on all inclusive holidays to places and never leave the hotel then complain the whole place is shit.
I understand that there are destinations where its advised to not leave the complex to wander alone and that's different.
However I have a friend who went all inclusive to a lovely Greek island, when she came back I asked how her holiday was and she responded by telling me Greek food is shit and she is never going back there as there were too many people and she felt bored after the first few days. But then it turns out that in the whole time she had been away she had never left the hotel complex, not once, but is quite happy to tell everyone how shit this island is as she hated it....despite never seeing any of it.

ssd · 09/06/2019 08:34

I don't get getting engaged, I don't see the point and think it's a lot of faff over nothing

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 08:35

It reminds me of the opposite, people who have "done" a country after spending 5 nights locked in a resort or campsite, or had life changing experience in a country they discovered for... 2 weeks GrinGrinGrin

cracks me up every time

poglets · 09/06/2019 08:35

My husband... making a cup of coffee which he overfills and is too hot then proceeds to walk round the house spilling it.

EVERY DAY. 😡

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 08:36

I don't get getting engaged, I don't see the point and think it's a lot of faff over nothing

think about it like buying a property.
Getting engaged: you exchange (even if it's not binding)
Getting married: you complete Grin

I loved being engaged to be married, even had a party!

pictish · 09/06/2019 08:37

missmouse - what’s wrong with gaming? I see a lot of comments about this on here. They often refer to adults playing ‘children’s’ games and portray them as lacking somehow.
I don’t game...in fact I have no interest in gaming whatsoever...but I am aware that these are definitely not children’s games and many adults enjoy playing them as a pastime. I don’t get the beef?

We all have things we like to do. I like to read and Facebook and mumsnet of an evening in my down time. You obviously mumsnet yourself. Why is your method of wasting time better than gaming?

It’s a genuine ask. People are very disparaging of gaming on here (so it’s not an unpopular opinion) but I haven’t had anyone explain specifically why. All things being equal and everyone is enjoying the same amount of down time, what does it matter if it is spent gaming?

parkrunhun · 09/06/2019 08:40

Believe in a god ! Surely now that people can see what goes on in the world, all the bad things that happen to good people (children dying horribly of brain tumours inspite of the targeted prayers of millions) and the good things that happen to bad people(trump & hundreds of rich white male rapists etc) , it must actually take more effort to dispel the logic and ignore the compelling evidence that there is nothing in control of this rock we call earth !

GreasyFryUp · 09/06/2019 08:41

I do the seatbelt thing. But only when driving away from home as it's a quiet road. No idea why and it's just a habit now.

Fireandflames666 · 09/06/2019 08:42

People who still smoke at bus stops and outside shop entrances. I don't want to breathe in or smell like someone else's nasty, dirty habit.

People that get drunk and pee/puke all over the place, it's absolutely disgusting.

ssd · 09/06/2019 08:48

Morondela, I think that's what I don't like about getting engaged, it's like you are signed off to someone without it meaning anything... In the same way I don't get being walked down the aisle or being given away by your dad... Like another man owns you now... Yuck

And as for the man asking her fathers permission to get married... Blows my mind...
I just don't get most of the fuss around a wedding..
I've been married over 20 years and managed it without any if the fuss so many women see as vital to getting married

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 08:51

it's like you are signed off to someone without it meaning anything...

I take it more as an agreement between 2 people, men get engaged too!

I like the walking down the aisle too, but as the groom walks down the aisle with his mum too, I think it's nice.

Bridget1983 · 09/06/2019 08:51

BLW! Glad others have said it - just don’t get it, surely it’s just what everyone does with babies - start giving them food at a stage when they start indicating they want food 🤔

SoCockneyItHurts · 09/06/2019 08:54

Hideous headbands on babies and pierced ears on babies.....both are cruel and ridiculous

ssd · 09/06/2019 08:56

I didn't even know the groom walked down the aisle with his mum.
I guess I show be saying I don't get wedding protocol.

Boysey45 · 09/06/2019 08:57

Baby showers, how many presents do people actually want? Everyone usually buys after the baby is born and then maybe for the christening if they are having one.

Phoningliz · 09/06/2019 08:59

No, I read the thread title and posted accordingly. These are things I don't get

Seriously? You don't understand why people would drive, eat steak, put tomato ketchup on their food or like potatoes? You can't comprehend why some people use subtitles or shower gel? You can't get your head around people going for a drink with their partner or wanting to watch a film at the cinema?

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 09:07

didn't even know the groom walked down the aisle with his mum.

Not all of them do, but many come in just before the bride.
Some flower girls come before the bride, some prefer them to follow.

There's no real rule for weddings anyway, if the bride wants to enter first with the groom, she can too. It's unusual, but why wouldn't she, it's not disrespectful even in church.

Fireandflames666 · 09/06/2019 09:07

People who think adults shouldn't play games. You sound like a right bunch of boring, old gits.

notacooldad · 09/06/2019 09:09

I am busy, in the middle of something, or don't want to be bothered. I can't think of any reason why I should answering my door
I'm glad I didn't have that attitude.
We answered the door ( about 2years ago) to an unexpected caller at an unusual time and it was a friend who was fleeing domestic violence. I'm glad we answered and not ignored her.

bebeboeuf · 09/06/2019 09:12

@LivinLaVidaLoki

Came on to say exactly the same as you

Youngandfree · 09/06/2019 09:12

People who think that if you’re going to a wedding you can’t wear any white or black 🙄

MorondelaFrontera · 09/06/2019 09:16

People who think that if you’re going to a wedding you can’t wear any white

some white on your outfit, yes
A white outfit, no, you really can't! Well technically you can, but you look like a rude idiot, so why would you want that?

ssd · 09/06/2019 09:28

Morondela, are you a wedding organiser Grin