Using car horn to signal goodbye

[frankiefirstyear]

A small issue in the grand scheme of things but incredibly disrespectful of the driver to sound their horn upon leaving a neighbours house. A couple of weeks ago this annoyance began. I live close to the end of a dead end road and my house is near the turning area. The car(s) in question turn then beep as they drive off meaning the horn is sounded directly outside my home. Not only does it shock me (it's a new build with excellent windows and doors that are very effective at keeping out noise etc) but it also disturbs my sleeping baby and this makes me so angry.

I'm not sure which neighbour it is but tonight it was 10pm and quite dark due to the weather. Tomorrow I plan to watch to find out who is involved. It's every night ranging between 7-10pm. Other people have young children and I imagine they too won't be happy about it.

AIBU? I was sure horns were only meant to be used to alert others of danger?? I can't remember the last time I used my horn! Should I let it go?? WWYD?

You're right, it's a shit habit.

I hate it too, car horns always make me jump. I also dislike it when people beep their horn to get the attention of someone they know. So annoying!

YANBU, it's very annoying and anti social. There is a family living nearby who have lots of visitors and some of them have this annoying habit of beeping the horn several times as they drive away. The family are quite annoying and unneighbourly, so it's typical that the annoyance is coming from their visitors: morons visiting morons! No matter what time of day or night, a car horn is the sort of sound that can make you jump, and only selfish morons use it to say goodbye, IMO.

You could try a polite word with the neighbours, in the hope that they will be reasonable and ask their visitors to stop the habit. The risk is that they might think you're being overly sensitive and that could escalate the problem, but you won't know unless you try.

I hate it. So inconsiderate.

YANBU.

I hate it too. Unfortunately my relatives do this when they visit, as they know how much it annoys me (I really don’t want them to wake the neighbours) So I no longer see them off by standing at the door, I shut it immediately. And they think I’m rude!

YANBU. The most pointlessly inconsiderate thing I can think of,

Somebody drives past our house every morning at 6.40 and beeps their horn 7 times. No idea why they do it, but it enrages me. Are they driving past a friend who's walking to walk and just saying 'hello'? Do they have a vendetta against a neighbour? Who knows, but I would like to shoot them.

Urgh! My old neighbours did this to each other. As in the husband would beep as he was driving away from his own house and the wife would be standing waving at the gate or back door. Same when she left, he would come out to wave her off and she would beep. Sometimes they left at the same time in separate cars and both beeped at each other. Fucking weirdos.

Why don’t you tell them wineandroses1?

Common as muck as my Nan would say.

YANBU. Tread carefully though.

In our old house the family across the road had standard practice to beep the horn twice whenever a visiting family member left. This included the grown up daughters whose kids were looked after by the mum there daily, as well as others in the large extended family.

Horns were beeping several times a day as early as 7.30am and as late as 11.00pm. But when I was woken by it once and gave them a glare from the window it really soured things and they deliberately sounded the horn even more. One of the reasons why we moved.

Oh wow, I can't believe so many people suffer this! I am worried about voicing my concerns (rage!) in case it does get worse. I think I'd post them a note so it's anonymous 😬 it's bad enough to make me jump but my baby doesn't deserve to be woken up and it's difficult to go back to sleep afterwards.

I feel like a bit of a weirdo having to stand at my window tomorrow night to catch the culprit at it but enough is enough! I'm sick of having my evening/whole night ruined unnecessarily!

Haha i do this. Soz... Kind of

YANBU, this is not what the horn is for.

I live in a 'holiday' village in Cornwall, there are some absolute arses who perform a little tooty fanfare when they commence and cease their vacation weeks at the village boundary. I hate them all with a fucking passion and would like to activate a barrier in the road to rebuff the bastards at first toot. Apart from that totally neutral

would like to activate a barrier in the road to rebuff the bastards at first toot.

Start a go fund me page. People will donate, I promise.

where I used to live sometimes there would be an absolute cacophony of horns, people driving round beeping for ages. I had the impression it was some sort of celebration but it was intensely irritating.

I sympathise.... and can i just put a little other side? My elderly mum is nearly 90 - up until recently she was mobile / active... she's gone down hill a lot... needing carers, using wheelchair etc. Its always been a thing for her to wave from the window, as i drive off after visiting. She's always been a big waver, says goodbye about 50 times before putting the phone down etc, know what i mean? Anyway... since she cant get to the window to wave goodbye... she's started saying, "give me a little toot". I'm reluctant for all the reasons above.... but want to keep her as happy as possible before she passes. What to do? Please tell me the OP isnt in Portslade, E.Sussex?

MsVestibule do you live near me? Most mornings between 6-6:30am we have one bastard which toots his cheery fucking horn as he passes at 30mph. Who the fuck are you tooting at 6am????

So damn rude and anti-social, and if I hear it one more time I'll be reporting you and your shitty horn 🤬

Sorry for the rant, I feel much better now 😂

Bet they’re the same arseholes who stand having idle small talk outside people’s houses, screaming with fake laughter eg. ‘It’s been cold these days’ ‘aye but surely we’re due a good heatwave, get the barbecue out ’ shut the fuck up, there’s no need for it. Tell your guests to not behave like infants left alone in the drivers seat of a car, try to make being around other humans as bearable as possible, for fucks sake.

We get this too, after many shouts of 'Goodnight' 'Goodbye' 'See you next week' etc.

And lazy buggers not getting out of the car to ring doorbells on arrival, just keep beeping until someone comes out. There are places to park, they know this as they are already in them, so just heave your lazy buttocks out of your sweaty plastic seat and waddle up to the door and exercise your nose picking finger by pressing the bell.

@staceyflack - you have a free pass on this one, because you're doing it to please your elderly mother. Hopefully you don't do it late at night or early in the morning though.

For anyone else with no such reason - just stop it, you selfish morons! A car horn is not a toy, and you are not 5 years old!