A bit awks 😬

[Sundancer77]

So, I’m a teacher (currently not teaching at a school etc) but I do private tutoring. I’ve been tutoring a girl once a week for around a year and a half at her house nearby.
Mum and me get on well, I wouldn’t say we’re ‘Friends’ friends, if that makes sense, but friends on Fb, have lots of mutual friends, she bought my baby gifts and kindly passes stuff on to me that her Dd has finished with.
Anyway, at the weekend, I was at the beach with dp and it got very windy so started to pack up and I walked up to the car, in the distance I noticed a small group looking over, it took me a while to notice (I was a distance away) then I clicked it was this Mum, was about to say hi (well, wave etc) but noticed she kind of looked away, or I did, I’m not sure..but it seemed to become one of those situations where you pretend not to notice one another? She’s very sociable and hasn’t met my baby yet, so I would’ve been happy to go and say hi.
I headed to the car (the turn off was quite a bit before them)
When I got in the car I felt a bit weird about it..like ‘Did she ignore me?’
Today was tutoring, so I went as normal and felt a little awkward, but she wasn’t there and husband let me in and she didn’t come back whilst I was there (is normally always there)
Sounds a silly situation and dp has just looked at me as if I’ve got two heads when I explained it’s made me feel awkward/a bit hurt?
I’m wondering if she didn’t want to see me or thought I didn’t? But either way, we definitely saw each other and its become awkward 🤷‍♀️😬

I think you may be overthinking it, likely it has nothing to do with you at all.

*Mum and I

She could have been with other school mums and didn’t want them knowing her child was being tutored. I wouldn’t but some peopledon5 like others knowing.

Tbh I would probably mention it next time you see her, just along the lines of “were you at the beach the other day? Thought I saw you but when I looked again I couldn’t see your face properly” or something similar.

Or she could have very bad eyesight 😁

I think I'd have looked at you like you had 2 heads if you started describing that non-situation to me, too.

Waaaaaaaaaaay overthinking this.

IMO she doesn’t want her friends to know that her DD has tutoring.

😂 Yes, probably is overthinking but it did make me a bit ‘Huh?’ at the time, that’s all 🤷‍♀️
She was with an older guy and a girl, just seemed odd 🙄

If you’re really worried you could mention it casually - say you thought you saw her at the beach, but you didn’t want to approach her there as some people like to keep tutoring a secret.

But tbh I’ve accidentally ignored loads of people then just ignored that it happened, so I wouldn’t worry.

She probably thought

• 'there's DDs tutor. Isn't it? Did she see me? She's looked away. I wont wave and make myself look a tit'.

You've thought

• 'there's pupil's mum. Isn't it? Did she see me? She's looked away. I wont wave and make myself look a tit'.

@yearinyearout I was going to do that today as thought that was what a normal person would do, but she wasn’t there. Isn’t a big deal, just a bit awkward 🤷‍♀️

You’re over thinking

Maybe she didn't see you? Half of the time I'm semi-oblivious to other people and have even walked right past my bestie without realising she was there (luckily she knows what I'm like!).

I think I might do that sort of thing (what she did) because I'm not sure whether I recognise someone or not and it's embarrassing to keep staring! I think the suggestion of I think I might have seen you is a good one.

Yes @laiste I think it probably is a bit of that, shame she wasn’t just there today

How is it awkward if she's not there to be awkward with?!

You'll only be able to tell if anything is awkward when she IS there again surely?

You sound a lot like me. Overthinker :)

So she wasn't with her dh and dd at the beach?

She's not having an affair is she? Not with her Husband that day?

Then I asked my friend and she said she does that all the time, if she can get away with it as can’t be arsed talking to people on the supermarket etc, regardless of what she thinks about them. I suppose there could be an element of that on both sides, I’ve sometimes walked down a different aisle to avoid a neighbour or whatever 😆

Ha ha @laiste, but doesn’t the fact she wasn’t there today, when she always is, make it more awkward..now, that’s overthinking 🙈 if nothing had happened-she didn’t ignore me or thought I ignored her..she’d surely be just there like ‘Hi’ 🤷‍♀️🤣
I am half joking about this part 👆tbh

Tbh I would probably mention it next time you see her, just along the lines of “were you at the beach the other day? Thought I saw you but when I looked again I couldn’t see your face properly” or something similar

this

but no reason to feel awkward she either

1. didn't see you or wasnt sure it was you
2. didn't want to acknowledge you for some personal reason ( embarrassed about tutoring/affair/ skiving off work etc.)

none of these reasons give you anything to worry about.

She was there with a much older man and a young girl but not her Dd, def not affair as she is friends with older guys and their dogs etc

If she was at the beach (which i'm assuming is near where you all live) with an older man and a girl at the weekend and now is unusually absent from her house with the DH doing the usual duties, i would guess that she's got family over and is out and about with them.

But if in fact she is actually hiding from you because she feels awkward about not waving at you then you are at equal awkwardness and you can pretend you don't know what's going on and easily not feel awkward any more and have the upper hand.

THAT my friend is proper overthinking