To think nursery shouldn't be putting pictures of children on FB?

[m4rdybum]

Going back to work soon and getting everything in place for DD to go to the local nursery.

Whilst having a look at various nurseries in the area, I found their FB page and liked it, thinking it would provide updates etc. Its actually pictures of all the children (ranging from babies to after schoolers) on their various days out/doing activities.

This is just a normal business page and not a request to join group. I understand that they (most likely) ask parents to sign consent forms for pictures to be taken, but I would expect them to be used within the nursery, not posted publicly on FB.

Am I just being a bit PFB?

Of all sexual abuse of children it's in the 90-95% that is known to the family. 50+% a family member. So let's be honest it's far more likely a perpetrator is in your home than looking at a nursery website. Also swimming pools, parks, hospitals all far more likely than hunting on a static photo.
As for you child's future boss might see them, get a grip, do you think they will be turned down for a job because they once painted a house in nursery with wonky walls. I also hope you don't allow any of your images to back backed up to the cloud or amazon photos as based on that theory you have no idea how they could be exported in the future.
I don't let my child play round a house unless I know the parents well, I don't let her walk to school or play outside alone however a photo on the school website, really its a non issue.

I’m a bit worried about parents asking why they wouldn’t give consent. Because it’s a massive invasion of your child’s privacy to publicly exhibit their childhoods online. One day they’ll be grown. How would you like it if your employer could search and find photos of you as a kid splashed all over social media. I respect my kids privacy, and I don’t want to take that choice away from them.

We don’t know the effects of this goldfish bowl, over sharing from birth Facebook generation yet, but I can’t imagine it’s doing them any good. Parents are being sued by their kids in France. I personally think we’ll look back and be shocked at our lax attitude to social media, safety online and privacy. Sorry rant over. I hate Facebook.

You have to sign a consent form - I'm sure there'll be photos where some children have been blurred out too.

I would have loved it if my life had been documented the way DD's has actually! My mum has barely any photos and no videos of us growing up.

One day they’ll be grown. How would you like it if your employer could search and find photos of you as a kid splashed all over social media.

Do you really think a future employer is going to vaguely interested in this? And employer would look at a persons own FB. Which they would have has children. They dont go trawling you education settings for year for photos of you as a kid.

Nor is an employer going to go through your mums Facebook for 18+ years to look for photos of you.

One of my employers did have photos of me as a baby. Loads of them and put them up around the office when I turned 30. My brother worked with me. He got them off my mum. I loved it.

I totally get you reservations. I respect your choice and understand your feelings on privacy. And yes teens who have their own Facebook need to be careful.

But the employer argument doesnt stack up.

People are naive about social media. I can think of several instances where employers have done just this, going back years. Also lawyers search social media regularly in support of their cases.

I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to sound judgey of other parents.

Same here we had to sign consent for photos internally and separately for any used externally on social media etc

Also lawyers search social media regularly in support of their cases

Yes. A person's own social media. Not their nursery, school or parents one!

I can think of several instances where employers have done just this, going back years. Also lawyers search social media regularly in support of their cases.

They have searched years back to a persons nursery or their parents Facebook because photos of them finger painting helps their case?

That has not happened. Searching a persons own Facebook to see what sort of person they are, or comments and views they hold. Maybe.

Not photos of them at nursery or at home as a minor.

Just to be clear, my concern isn't about what a random potential employer might think, my concern is about what my son might think about his whole life being recorded online. Hes not old enough to make the choice yet about what gets shared about him, so I'm making that choice for him and limiting his exposure until hes old enough to decide for himself. He might hate the fact that there aren't many baby pictures of him online in which case he will be free to load them up and share them away. But if that's not what he wants then I've protected that choice for him. He's not losing out at all by me maintaining his privacy at this point.

And for the record none of his pictures are saved in the cloud, they are kept on hard drive or printed and displayed at home.

As many have pointed out, there are lots of ways to parent, and most of them are correct. You do.what you feel is right for your kids.

🤣🤣🤣 at the idea of an employer searching an applicants social media and going back to their childhood.....'uh oh little Jenny was writing her J's backward until age 6...she's not the candidate we're looking for!'

Employers look at social media to see if you're the right fit and not a liability or likely to bring the organisation in disrepute. They aren't in the least bit interested in what you did in pre-school.

Keep your kids off social media if that's what you want to do but don't be making up bullshit excuses like this 😂😂

YABU you need to sign a consent form both at school and at nursery. If you don't they don't post the pictures or name.

You sign a consent form so if you don’t want your child to be on social media, they won’t be. It’s the same at school.

katmarie I get your point. And I believe every parent will do what they think is right in this situation.

I just don't agree about the pps employers concerns or the other pps concerns about lawyers regarding nursery or school photos.

You have to opt in/sign a consent fr your child's photo to be put up.
Generally our creche put smiley faces onto the children to make them unidentifiable if parents haven't consented.
Personally i like to have photos of DD and see what she gets up to. My family lives abroad (in various countries) so sharing the photos on facebook (either from nursery or my own) is a good way for me to keep everyone in the loop/ share photos of DD.

Many parents are fine with this and it shows what the nursery does. They shouldn't post your childs photos without consent.

For our kids we withheld permission for anything public during primary school then let the kids choose after that. We explained our reasons discussed the pros and cons and they made their own choices.

Speaking generally with regards to photos and facebook; say you were in the park and were taking photos of your DC, perhaps to share with family on fb or whatsapp or whatever, if you got another child in the photo in the background by accident - would you ask their parents permission to share that photo? On the other hand if someone was taking photos of their DC and they happened to capture your DC at the same time would you ask them to delete the photo?
Just interested in people's opinion

It's just crazy that normal activities need sanctioning.

Everything is pixelated out now. Having pictures of kids in a nursery doing kids activities it just not a problem. Parents attending school sports days, and nativity plays, and taking photos is not a problem.

The faux/unreasonable concern in the UK for virtually every normal activity is absolutely ridiculous.

Future employers will have photos of themselves splashed all over sm themselves

I have two dc who are old enough to be on sm themselves and no they aren’t bothered by it

One has children himself

Too many themselves there 🙄 back to bed for me

I always try not to get children I don’t know in pictures I’m taking. I wouldn’t be bothered if people got my dc in pictures of their children