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To think nursery shouldn't be putting pictures of children on FB?

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m4rdybum · 04/06/2019 21:16

Going back to work soon and getting everything in place for DD to go to the local nursery.

Whilst having a look at various nurseries in the area, I found their FB page and liked it, thinking it would provide updates etc. Its actually pictures of all the children (ranging from babies to after schoolers) on their various days out/doing activities.

This is just a normal business page and not a request to join group. I understand that they (most likely) ask parents to sign consent forms for pictures to be taken, but I would expect them to be used within the nursery, not posted publicly on FB.

Am I just being a bit PFB?

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WonderTweek · 04/06/2019 21:41

Our nursery asked for our consent but even then they only post unidentifiable photos on a private group for the parents. I thought this was lovely and considerate as I'm a bit of a tinfoil hat type person when it comes to data protection. Equally most people I know don't have issues with having their kids' photos online so it really is up to the parent.

hsegfiugseskufh · 04/06/2019 21:45

Our nursery does it. We have signed about 100 consent forms. Doesnt bother me at all i like seeing what they get up to. They used my childs picture on all their promotional material last year and that didnt bother me either!

PositiveVibez · 04/06/2019 21:47

Hardly a trail of photos all over social media though is it?

A few baby pics of them in nursery is hardly going to perturb them in later years.

If there are still toddler pictures up on these nursery websites when they are older. I'm sure they could contact the nursery and demand they be taken down

Scotinoz · 04/06/2019 21:49

My kid's nursery has a public FB page. They post updates of what the kids have been up to most days. I was asked to agree or otherwise to pics being used on social media. I said no, and both kids have been 100% blanked out over the past nearly 3 years.

Noonooyou · 04/06/2019 21:51

Just sign to say you don't want them to take photos. It's really a non issue and you're being a bit judgemental about parents who are happy with it.
I think it's a great way for them to promote their childcare setting.

Dreamingofkfc · 04/06/2019 21:53

I don't understand why people wouldn't consent? I like seeing what they are up to. I don't give the children I don't know a second thought. They are only identifiable to those who know them so what's the issue?

FangsTasticBeast · 04/06/2019 21:55

Why? Because it’s pictures of my son playing with friends etc at school why not 🤷‍♀️

WildfirePonie · 04/06/2019 21:59

You don't know who is looking at the pictures though... What if some pedo is checking them out?! They will know your kids name, which school/nursery they attend, etc etc..... Think about it.

JonSnowsFurCoat · 04/06/2019 22:12

My nursery does it. I signed the form. They don’t do it often, maybe every couple of months they’ll put pics up of them for special occasion. Like Xmas, Easter, Mother’s Day, Fathers day etc.

CostanzaG · 04/06/2019 22:14

Wildfire...they don't generally put names on. It's usually 'look at what our toddlers did today'

UnderPompeii · 04/06/2019 22:16

They shouldn't put names on.

Manclife1 · 04/06/2019 22:16

@WildfirePonie point to 1 incident of a sex offender doing this with a nursery FB page. Besides, which more is posted on personal FB, instagram and twitter accounts.

yellowgreenbluepurple · 04/06/2019 22:17

@WildfirePonie they might know which nursery they are at but they don't have any reason to know the kids name. But they could also know which nursery they are at by seeing you drop them off or walking past whilst they are playing outside. There could be a pedophile living opposite you or teaching in your kids school. There could be one in your family.

katmarie · 04/06/2019 22:18

My sons nursery does it, they asked if I consented, I said no. For one they have a parent app where they send me and my dh pictures of what ds is doing so they don't need it to be on social media for me to get to see what hes up to.

For another I want my ds to have as much choice as possible about what images of him are saved publically on line in the future. Once a picture is out there, it's out there. As things stand my ds isn't old enough to make the decision of what a future boss or potential partner might find if they Google him, so I make that choice for him by limiting as much as possible what goes on social media. We have boatloads of baby pictures, if he wants to add them to his social media when hes old enough to make the choice, then he can.

boomboom1234 · 04/06/2019 22:19

You have to sign a consent form so if you haven't your child would not appear.

Passthecherrycoke · 04/06/2019 22:19

Eh @wildfireponie? How would they know your child’s name? And if a child sex offender wanted to go and kidnap and rape a child why would they check out the FB page first to select a particular kid rather than just go there and grab whichever one is easiest?

Starlight456 · 04/06/2019 22:21

If you don’t want to sign don’t however one thing you do need to learn is there are many different ways to raise a child. Most are right . Don’t sweat why others don’t do it your way

yellowgreenbluepurple · 04/06/2019 22:22

At the end of the day it's just another parenting decision to be made. Some people are fine with it, some aren't. It really isn't anyone's business but the parent of that particular child. Just do what's best for you.

katmarie · 04/06/2019 22:34

@starlight speaks great sense

Proseccoinamug · 04/06/2019 22:39

Our school have an open Facebook page. Consent needed for photos. I have no issues with it.

Those without consent are removed from the photo.

Children’s names aren’t posted online.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 04/06/2019 22:39

What if some pedo is checking them out?! They will know your kids name, which school/nursery they attend, etc etc

Aren't paedophiles a gazillion times more likely to be known to their victims? So member of the family, mum's boyfriend etc.

OP don't get wound up. Don't give consent if you don't like your DC being on social media. Job done.

Purplegecko · 04/06/2019 22:55

It's kind of advertising. DD and I were photographed professionally by the charity I volunteer with to use for promotional materials (it's young woman/single mum orientated so makes sense). I don't have social media, don't get tagged in any photos posted to our childminder's fb page, she looks much like every other little girl with blonde hair. I don't think DD will grow up and be horrified that there is a picture of her on a slide when she was 3 on a website that will most likely be as dead as MySpace by that time. There aren't names posted. Do you honestly think a nonce is going to trawl Facebook looking for nursery pages, drive to this nursery, and ask for this child by name and expect to be given the child?

Not giving consent for these photos to be posted is very valid, where children have been removed by social services from a parent's care with no further contact, just as one example. It's absolutely OK to not want your child's picture on the Internet, that is 100% your choice as a parent.
But those of us that do consent aren't opening our children up for some horrific occurance, it's not that deep.

Jengnr · 04/06/2019 23:17

What are the ‘long term consequences’ of facial recognition software?

People might know my children were once babies? Oh the humanity!!!

And as for the random paedos knowing where they go (?!) Our nursery has very robust procedure. At least two of the staff at our nursery know my family personally. When I’ve dropped off and said ‘X is picking up, Rosie or Jim can confirm who they are’ it’s never been good enough. They’ve had to take id and have a password.

2toddlers · 04/06/2019 23:21

My daughter’s nursery post pictures on twitter everyday, I love it. I know what she’s been doing without having to ask. I gave my written consent to it though.

I don’t really know why people get so worked up about this I mean unless you cover your child’s face in public everywhere you go I can’t see what harm a picture of a child drawing etc is going to do? Unless your child is adopted, you are in witness protection or work in some area where your family is a potential target I can’t really see the issue?!

Iwrotethissongfor · 04/06/2019 23:36

The nursery my child goes to doesn’t have any pictures of kids on their FB. The open FB has photos of things they’ve been up to (photo of their chicks hatching, new books, garden rearranged etc) and they separately have an online portal that I log into where they put up photos and videos of my child with wee notes. Other children are in these and you sign forms both to consent to your child being in background of other people’s photos and that you understand their rules for sharing those photos with other kids in them. I really like that they’re so organised about it and we all know where we stand.

I wouldn’t go by smiling photos of kids on a FB Page to say it’s a good nursery anyway for those saying it’s an advert - word of mouth and your impression on your visits are most important to me, together with Care Inspectorate reports but these can be limited in value. And it’s also different from sharing on your own social media as you restrict it to your own friends and control who sees it. You have no control over who follows the nursery on FB and sees/shares the photos. It’s doesn’t take much imagination to see what sort of people might look up these things and there’s absolutely no benefit to me so why would I risk it?

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