To want to book a private early scan in these circumstances?

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I'm 6w1.. I had a MC 6 weeks ago.. Literally must have finished the MC and ovualted within the normal frame.
After the MC I have negative tests. Had no clue I was even Ovualting ( I'm normally irregular and need clomid and metformin to ttc due to pcos) so you can imagine the first time just got head around it and it was taken away from us..( we had a massive stress factor and I'm not sure if that was anything to do with it) Then I really couldn't believe it when a month later I decided to test as my breasts killed and it was postive again.. As we're many more.poas addict here!
We're so excited.
However I'm at the same gestation that the last one didn't stick. And I'm terrified.. I keep poas. Midwife isn't for another 4 weeks. They've said scan will be at 13 weeks or maybe a tad longer as long lists.

I feel I need to see a heart beat. DP tells me to relax and it will be fine.. But no one knows..
Its £80 which we don't really have this month but there's ways around it..
He's said if makes me feel better then do it.. But I'm scared the fear will always be there and that it will be a waste.. And more scared there will be no HB.

YANBU, however might it be better to wait another few days/a week so you are getting the best value for money out of the scan, as there’s nothing to see before 6 weeks, and if your dates are a bit out then it could be a waste of your £80.

I tried to figure out from your post if there was an margin for error in your dates or when you tested but couldn’t tell.

Omg don't even think about it, just go.

Stress will not have caused a miscarriage so throw that thought away. Nothing you did will have caused the miscarriage.

In your position,yes I'd have an early scan but maybe try to get to seven weeks as there should definitely be something to see at that point.

Also as money is an issue shop around a bit or check Groupon etc, you should be able to get a cheaper price than £80.

Good luck.

I totally get your need for the early scan; I have had them before for reassurance. It might be that you have an early pregnancy unit (EPAU) at your local hospital and they may be able to book you in if you explain your circumstances and there would be no charge.

I don’t think many places would see you until you are 7 weeks at the earliest, especially if you are paying; I think this is because the chances of seeing the heartbeat so early is quite slim and is therefore counterproductive and makes you worry more.

I really hope everything works out for you.

Thanks. No margin on dates MC was 22 April. (, altho that pregnancy may not have been as far as 6wk)
I had postive test on 17th May. So was very early when found out.
I will look at booking for the weekend or Monday. Did look. On Groupon but nothing nearby. So will return to clinic we had dds 4d scans etc.
My heads all over the place atm.

In your situation I think they early pregnancy team at hospital should give you an early scan. If I didn't have £80 spare then no I wouldn't recommend a private scan. It is so early and will only reassure you for that day and as harsh as it sounds the next day you will go back to worrying again. Pregnancy after miscarrage is so stressful. Hope everything works out for you.

My gp tried EPU a week ago to make sure was in right place as had pains one side but they wouldn't scan unless blood test showed unusual results. Luckily them results had increases the way they should for a uterus pregnancy.. The pains still there but I did have that with dd too.. But still a worry andv they dismissed it.

YANBU, I did exactly the same. Had a MC and then found myself with a positive test 4 weeks later.
We had an early scan at 8 weeks to put our minds at rest.
Congratulations

I would, but wait until you are definitely 7 or 8 weeks as it would be awful to go and them say they can’t see a heartbeat but that could be because it’s too early. Wait until you know that if everything’s ok they will def see a Heart beat (7-8 wks).
In one area I lived you could self refer to the EPAU for an early reassurance scan after a miscarriage so maybe check if that’s possible? Where I live now you can’t do that so I paid for one privately.

Oh, yes, book it in! Get a private 7 week scan. There's no harm trying to reassure yourself and in this situation I would be keen to see what's what.

It's an entirely sensible use of £80. Also, I think your DP (who sounds lovely) does also need to work at making sure he's acknowledging you are frightened. It is normal that you would be. And if you are still frightened after the scan, that is normal too. It won't mean the scan was a waste. You'd be a really unusual person if you never worried during pregnancy, especially a pregnancy after a miscarriage.

I'd wait till 8 weeks. There should definately be a heartbeat then for a healthy pregnany. Now it would be a hit or miss if you see a heartbeat and that might make you worry more.

I think if it puts your mind at rest it's worth it. I would probably do it.

I paid for early scans after a miscarriage, I couldn’t settle until I knew there was a heartbeat, so it was the best thing for us to do. But, as others have said, try to leave it for at least another few days, to give yourself the best chance of seeing anything. I can’t remember at what point you would expect to see heartbeats etc (youngest dc I saw nearly 9), but the longer you leave it the better chance of seeing what you are there to see.
Again, it was a long time ago, but I tried to get an early scan from the EPAU and got nowhere. They said they would see me if I was either bleeding or in pain, but I wasn’t and didn’t want to tempt fate by fibbing about it. Maybe this has changed now though?

Thank you. Can't self refer. Even tried via the midwife Community hub.
The 80 as I said isn't ideal but we can cut it other ways if needed.. Its just been one of them months. Car tax x 2, 1 x mot u name it its been this bloody month lol.

Right gonna ring them now... And see if they have one for 7 weeks.

With dd I'm pretty sure I was 6.4 for a hb. But like you say don't want to risk it being too early.

Congratulations! I know how stressful it is - I had two MC in quick succession before getting pregnant with DD1. Having said that, if I was you I would hold off - I know it's a long wait til 13 weeks - but even a successful scan at an early stage doesn't guarantee anything. I had a scan at 8 weeks with my second pregnancy and a heartbeat was there but I still MC at 9 weeks. A scan can only tell you what's happening right at the moment of the scan, anything can happen afterwards. Also the early scan is an internal scan and it's pretty uncomfortable and invasive.

I'm really sorry if this sounds horrible, I'm truly trying to be helpful - I waited til the 13 week scan at my third pregnancy on the basis that a scan doesn't protect you from anything so it actually didn't put my mind at rest, and I'd just wait and let nature take its course. I also read in my pregnancy book that a positive scan at 13 weeks means a 99% chance of a successful pregnancy so I thought I'd rather wait and find out then.

However having said all that sometimes you just really need to do whatever you need to do, especially when you're pregnant

Thank you for all your views.
I've just booked one. Il be 7 weeks.. I know there's risks after it. But I just need to see.
I messaged dp and he's said he's glad I did as he feels he needs to see. Managed to get an evening one too so don't need to take the kids as can get a sitter.. Altho they allow kids I'd rather not on this one.
6 days to wait

I was about as far along as you when I had my first scan (due to pains down one side) they had to do an internal scan rather than usual ultrasound on the stomach. Would a private scanning place offer an internal scan as I don't think they can get accurate readings so early any other way?

I've got my fingers crossed for you. I was in a similar position when I had my scan so I know how nervous you must feel. I was constantly in the loo wiping to make sure I wasn't bleeding.

I am glad you have decided to go for a private scan.

EPAU's (sadly) are not there to provide reassurance. They are there for women who have concrete symptoms - IE women who are bleeding and or in pain.

Given that miscarriages are horribly very common (the stat is 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage) you can't have everyone popping in for a "reassurance scan" and I hate it when such drivel is spouted.

Yes some EPAU's may offer you a scan if you go in, but that means you could take the space of someone who needs it. I am glad my EPAU has a policy of no reassurance scans.

Sorry if I sound unsympathetic. I promise I am not - I have had 5 miscarriages, many visits to the EPAU, many early scans due to bleeding / suspected ectopic.

But never, ever have I gone in for a reassurance scan! Those I have paid for.

Yes they said it would be internal and was I OK with it..

I've got to the point I'm. So nervous but also excited? Makes no sense I know

I wanted an EPU one due to pain on right side. Doc requested it. But they did blood tests as the results would show hcg levels rising in such a way they'd know it was all in the correct place.. Or something along them lines.
With my dd I needed it due to pain and bleeding but was under fertility unit and was seen same day at the EPU. Luckily she was fine.

Please try to wait, but ask if there's any chance of a dr or nurse at the go using a Doppler so you can get reassurance

I really wouldn't bother with how early on you are, I know it's difficult but realistically you will still have the same fear up until your 12 week scan if you got scanned now or not because unfortunately, as everyone knows anything can happen within them first 12 weeks.
Save the money and the stress.

Good luck OP

I personally don't think there is any point this early. I'd wait until at least 8-9 weeks.

At 5 weeks or so you might see nothing as it's too early, but it could still turn out fine.

On the other hand a scan this early can't predict what is going to happen in the next few weeks.

My ob/gynae said that once a heartbeat is detected, then the pregnancy has an approx 94 per cent success rate, so definitely reassuring. I also wanted to rule out the horrors: ectopic pregnancy, blighted ovum etc! If you go after 8 weeks you'll also be able to avoid the vaginal scan, which is unpleasant