To want to book a private early scan in these circumstances?

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I'm 6w1.. I had a MC 6 weeks ago.. Literally must have finished the MC and ovualted within the normal frame.
After the MC I have negative tests. Had no clue I was even Ovualting ( I'm normally irregular and need clomid and metformin to ttc due to pcos) so you can imagine the first time just got head around it and it was taken away from us..( we had a massive stress factor and I'm not sure if that was anything to do with it) Then I really couldn't believe it when a month later I decided to test as my breasts killed and it was postive again.. As we're many more.poas addict here!
We're so excited.
However I'm at the same gestation that the last one didn't stick. And I'm terrified.. I keep poas. Midwife isn't for another 4 weeks. They've said scan will be at 13 weeks or maybe a tad longer as long lists.

I feel I need to see a heart beat. DP tells me to relax and it will be fine.. But no one knows..
Its £80 which we don't really have this month but there's ways around it..
He's said if makes me feel better then do it.. But I'm scared the fear will always be there and that it will be a waste.. And more scared there will be no HB.

Thanks again for input. It's booked for when I'll be 7 weeks.
I've had many internal scans fog various reasons over the years and tbh I've never found them an issue for myself.. Altho I still dread them.
Thank you again.

Hi OP. I had an MC where baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. My next pregnancy I had a scan at 10 weeks which was great as it assured me we had got past that point. She's 18 months now. Good luck!

I've had two private early scans with 2 different pregnancies (I had an early EPU one with my first dc as I had bleeding, but that was different, the other two were purely reassurance scans). One of those showed a missed mc. It was upsetting, but I am very grateful I had the scan and I have no regrets. It gave me time to prepare (I worked about 3 hours away from home and if I had mc at work or on the train or somewhere else far from home, it would have been awful). I think having that time to get my head around what was happening was really valuable for me. The outcome is the same. I don't think there is any point in not knowing what's going to happen.

I got pregnant again the next month and I had another private early scan (both around 7-8 weeks). This showed a healthy baby that measured exactly right for dates. That was also very reassuring.

Pleased you have it booked and all the best.

I had a post ivf scan at just over 7 weeks and whilst we saw 2 heartbeats one was much slower and measured smaller than the other (so we prepared ourselves that one may not make it).

By 9 weeks she had totally caught up (although was always the smaller twin. 9 years later there is still a fairly big size difference). So just goes to show those early days are full of surprises and uncertainty.

I wouldn’t do it personally but understand why you want to.

I had two missed miscarriages discovered at the first scan, had no symptoms of miscarriage whatsoever. With the second one I paid for two private scans at 6 and 7 weeks, saw a heartbeat both times and felt really reassured. Still miscarried at 9 weeks and found out at the 12 week scan. I think it was doubly devastating after the false reassurance of seeing the heartbeat twice.

When pregnant with DS (following the two miscarriages) I didn’t have a scan at all until I was 13+6. I preferred doing it that way, it helped me emotionally to bypass the whole first trimester and then actually see that he was ok in there.

Also at private scans they have a massive screen directly in front of the bed so you can’t avoid looking. I couldn’t have coped with this when I’d miscarried, I chose not to look at the screen.

Well. Today's the day. Nervous is an understatement. Feel Sick with the worry more than I have already been feeling sick.

Hope it went well for you op. Sending positive wishes!

I'd wait a few days and then do it. I did and no regrets.

I understand your worry after the MC. And I get why you want a scan ASAP.

But having been there, I can truthfully say the scan reassures you for a very short period. The day after and you have a ‘pain’ and you’re back to square one with your fear. It gets a little easier once you can feel the moving, but as a serial MC lady I can honestly say I didn’t relax for the entire 9 months of my first term-pregnancy.

Good luck

chances are you cannot see the heart beat yet. Can you wait another week or two?

sounds like the baby was planned but his will you cope financially if even £80 for s scan is a stretch?

What? Won't see a heartbeat at 7 weeks? They said this was the best time?

you may think you are 7 weeks but may be a few days behind. meaning no heartbeat and endless panic.

And yes will. Cope financially. This was just a tight month. Both car tax and mot and being a 5 week month for dps pay. Plus a few other unplanned expenses.

I think you’ll probably be able to see a heartbeat at scan at seven weeks, I always have (4 times). I think most places are pretty reasonable and will invite you back again if they can’t complete a full scan because dates are wrong.

How did it go OP? 🤞🏼

Really good. Strong fast HB. Feel quite relived xx

Have a look on groupon for early scan offers, I’ve seen some decent deals

Congratulations op, glad it went well 😊

Worth finding the money for it. Congratulations and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Congratulations! Hopefully you can relax a little bit now

Congratulations OP, glad everything went well xx