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Can my uni throw me out immediately? Really upset pls help

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incrediblydistraught · 04/06/2019 11:31

Late paying last installment for my masters degree, having some financial difficulty. I went in and spoke to them and asked if would be ok to finish paying by August followed up with call last week.

They have suspended me now and can't access any of my student accounts. I have called and am really distraught I can't fucking cope I have just spent £8000 and a whole year trying to make myself more employable AND THE WHOLE THING IS A FUCKING WASTE.

Nobody could say if they will let me finish. I don't know what to do I feel so misled as far as I knew it was ok to finsih paying by August and then suspending my email how the fuck can I communicate with anyone at the uni to even try t o resolve it????????

Shaking with fear no matter what I do how hard I try it all gets taken away from me I am a laughing stock. I have paid £8000 all for nothing, my grades are all good and its all for nothing.

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Kedgeree · 04/06/2019 12:28

How much do you owe and are you really able to pay it back by August? Do you have a history of late payments? All these things will be factors in the University's decision, but as others have said, they won't just bin you off. Is there a hardship fund you can apply to? Those are usually very accessible and you don't necessarily have to have massive hardship - I was given a grant to pay for my travel expenses because I lived right on the furthest border of what they considered to be their "catchment" area. It was a big help but I could have managed without it and only applied because one of my tutors suggested it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

suki32 · 04/06/2019 12:28

Go and see your student representatives/ council/ union. They are there to advocate on your behalf. There will be a solution and they can help you find it.

DogInATent · 04/06/2019 12:28

If I email them tonight is that in good time?

Not really, but you've left it too late today if your appointment is that close. Email this afternoon and ring tomorrow. It is not intrusive.

Yes, there's hope. But only if you pull your finger out and start getting proactive. No one is going to do this for you - least of all if you haven't told them about it.

LoveTheLakes40 · 04/06/2019 12:29

Re your new medical device and the fact that you are clearly stressed and anxious. Could you get a doctors note and suspend your course until you are feeling better/can afford to pay?

JangoInTheFamilyWay · 04/06/2019 12:30

I'm a university academic. Call them, either your personal tutor or head of degree. If your tutor isn't normally responsive just go straight to the head of degree. If you haven't actually been told your appeal has failed don't assume it has. Stopping your email is likely just an automatic process. A conversation now can only help.

Don't email off a private email, they may not read it (usually against policy to communicate that way) you are not being intrusive.

Basecamp65 · 04/06/2019 12:35

My daughters Dad was paying her 3rd years fees and then came up with nothing - not a single penny. She was not allowed to graduate until the fees had been paid which took her a year - but it did not affect the work she had done nor her overall grade.

It may be a difficult time for you but I am sure the uni will find a way you can get your degree even it is a bit delayed.

You need to keep trying to get an answer from finance but in the end you may have to go to the academic team and speak to them - this will not be the first time this has happened and they may know how to sort it out. The student welfare team will definitely have dealt with this many times and know the best way forward.

1tisILeClerc · 04/06/2019 12:37

{ Call them, either your personal tutor or head of degree. }
As has been said, Uni's don't like losing students and will do whatever they can.
If your attendance, work and payments have been good so far the chances of getting 'dumped' are low.
OH is a course tutor and it is hard finding 'excuses' for students who at the end of a year have only attended a handful of lectures/seminars.
YOU have to be proactive however, this is not primary school and the staff are not mindreaders.

Bezalelle · 04/06/2019 12:40

Firstly, calm down. This will be part of the learning experience. Don't fall apart. You can do this.

Get in touch with student services and explain the situation.

RedSkyLastNight · 04/06/2019 12:42

Agree with others who said that you need to be more proactive.
Ring your tutor.
Ring the woman in finance.
Ring the student welfare people.

Do not rely on email - the person you are emailing might be away, or not realise how urgent this is.

LolaBlue87 · 04/06/2019 12:48

Depending on which university you are at, your students union will likely have an advice service who will have dealt with stuff like this before. They’ll be able to help you.

fedup21 · 04/06/2019 12:52

How much do you owe.

I think this is a massive priority-huge. Cancel having the device fitted and then ring as many people as you can!

It sounds like you are putting off dealing with this. Don’t.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/06/2019 12:53

You need to call your tutor to help the other end. There is always a pastoral element in their job. Calling isn’t intrusive.

PurpleDaisies · 04/06/2019 12:53

I think this is a massive priority-huge. Cancel having the device fitted and then ring as many people as you can!

Did you miss it was a medical device? That’s the priority. This can wait until tomorrow.

GraceSlicksRabbit · 04/06/2019 12:58

If they didn’t tell you that your payment plan had been rejected then it hasn’t been rejected. You are overreacting massively and catastrophising. Can I gently suggest that your employability might be improved by having counselling for anxiety as well as getting your Masters (which you undoubtedly will).

Do you have anyone in real life to talk to about this? You clearly need someone to hold your hand and get you out of this spiral and in a frame of mind to make rational decisions.

FatherBuzzCagney · 04/06/2019 13:00

As well as speaking to student services, get in touch with your student union advice centre (or whatever it's called where you are). They are normally excellent at supporting and advising students. They will have helped dozens of students in your situation.

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incrediblydistraught · 04/06/2019 13:04

I'm I the bus but soon will have to put phone off for a bit.

I am trying my best and it's not helpful to be told I'm avoiding it. I called and spike to the finance woman who has promised to get information to me .

I really really need to go to this appointment I have been waiting a long time and it's really important in terms of my quality of life, and affecting my ability to functin at my best.

Am crap at multitasking so need to focus one thing at time. I do not want to send a panicky incoherent ramble email on the bus to one of my tutors I need to focus and not come across as a fucking idiot. I need to calm down, and suggest in email a call and be calm so don't start crying on the phone then. I cannot do everything st once and right now I'm overwhelmed I. The extreme.

Already nervous going to this appointment and now all the nerves are bursting out with the added pressure.

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sashh · 04/06/2019 13:04

Call the student union this is what they are here for. They can accompany you.

Most universities have some form of hardship fund and there are grants around, OK they are not well advertised but they exist.

I got payments from a few when I was at uni, a few thousand. PM me if you want and I'll try to guide you to ones that might help out. There are some obscure sounding ones and ones linked to certain careers and locations.

Branleuse · 04/06/2019 13:05

I got kicked off my OU course once for some student finance fuck up. I had to quickly get a loan from my mum to pay the installment while I was waiting for student fincance and then paid her back once it went through, and was allowed to rejoin the course. Very stressful. You have my sympathy, but it will get sorted

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incrediblydistraught · 04/06/2019 13:05

Thank you for all the advice and support.

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RosaWaiting · 04/06/2019 13:07

OP "I don't think I can call any academic staff, it feels intrusive."

they probably have their phone numbers on the website. The work phone is there to be answered, you are not intruding

Whosorrynow · 04/06/2019 13:08

OP I don't know enough about these things to offer any specific advice but I have every sympathy for you and I do feel you are being treated overly harshly on here.
I really hope you can get on top of the situation and get everything sorted.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 04/06/2019 13:08

Its not intrusive to call the tutor/head of degree department/students union. They are there to help you. It's their job and your tutor will help you.
You will be able to sort this out as soon as you contact the people who can help you.
Maybe write a brief time line down so that you can easily get them up to date and have all the relevant facts more quickly.
Please don't let yourself get any more distressed by this. You will be able to work through it and resolve it.
Good luck with your appointment today.

BrunetteBuns · 04/06/2019 13:09

First things first - have you been cancelled or suspended? You would have received warnings either way

Whosorrynow · 04/06/2019 13:10

Actually something a little bit like this did happen with my daughter's university course, she was very panicked and upset and it was very stressful for her
(It was sorted in the end)

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incrediblydistraught · 04/06/2019 13:12

If everyone thinks it's fine to call and not intrusive then I feel more ok about doing that. I just would never have thought that was ok automatically. have never called a tutor during undergrad for example but in fairness that's long ago now.

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