To think that someone can stop being aggressive

[kandykane77]

Long backstory but in a nutshell DH has been on and off horrid for ages. Last summer he threatened to beat his son and tried to lock him outside in the dark for being cheeky. I took DS out of his arms and took my son upstairs to calm him down. In January he said a punch in the mouth might shut him up. These incidents were out of character. His horridness is usually being grumpy, snappy, over drinking etc.
AIBU to think these could be isolated incidents?
In retrospect I should have walked out with DS last summer but now I’m thinking it’s illogical to leave someone now for something they did twice in a year and he may well never behave like that again.

FGs can we stop with the name calling and blaming? OP is obviously only just now opening her eyes to the abuse, to why her son sticks to her like glue, to what is happening. I know you lot are shocked, but it is NOT HELPING by lashing out at her!

OP - keep trying WA. Or speak to the DV section at the Police station. Or the HV or support worker for your son. Or the school. Or SS. You know as well as anyone that if your son says anything at school/clubs, then SS may well come calling, and you need to be able to show that you are protecting your son - if that means putting things in place to leave the bastard, then you need to show things are being done. Father's Day is coming up, if your son is asked what he did for Father's day and he mumbles 'I stayed away from him as much as possible' it will raise Red Flags.

Keep trying to get help. And yes, Leave the fucking Bastard.

Keep persevering with getting help for yourself and your DS to get away from this man. You need to get you both out of there, the longer you carry on with this, the more damaged your DS will be.