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Can we get into trouble?

87 replies

Harleyisme · 03/06/2019 07:19

We had our roof redone this week wi5h all drain pipes fascia borads done. Our neighbours ariel was on our front fascia board. So the builders had to take it down and put it back up on there house.
She came round yesterday saying how cheeky it was to touch there ariel and that it wasnt working downstairs that the wore wasnt connected and wanted my 14 year old to go uo and fix the wire. Now shes not been up so cant see how she knows how its not connected as theres no wores hanging down.
Can we get into trouble touching her ariel or are we within rights as it was on our property. Its not been moved by much.

OP posts:
Original poster
Harleyisme · 03/06/2019 08:51

Its not sky just a ariel.
The roofers have come back this morning with a ariel guy to fix it.

OP posts:
IHeartArya · 03/06/2019 08:52

Do NOT pay for it. Her responsibility!

Dof6 · 03/06/2019 08:56

TV antennas require to be aligned to the transmitter mast so it may be where it was because of some obstruction in the path just guessing. You may need a signal meter to set it up properly or at least amke sure the channels are being received.

Fatasfooook · 03/06/2019 08:58

Take it off completely and give it back. It shouldn’t be on your property without your permission

Fatasfooook · 03/06/2019 08:58

So you are paying an aerial guy to fix their problem?

Original poster
Harleyisme · 03/06/2019 09:01

No not paying for the fix. Think the roofing company must have. They have fixed it and gone.
It was a wire apparently. She has about 4 wires running of it from what she was saying to builders.

OP posts:
IHeartArya · 03/06/2019 09:01

I’m beginning to despair. This is not your problem. It’s hers.

IHeartArya · 03/06/2019 09:01

Cross post Smile

charlestonchaplin · 03/06/2019 09:06

The problem is that the aerial isn’t working properly and it’s not easily accessible to check there isn’t any damage to it. It’s also arguable that you didn’t have permission to attach it to her roof. Your roofers could have caused damage to her roof in the process. I can see you were trying to be helpful but it would have been better to bring the aerial down to ground level.

I doubt there is anything they can make you do without resorting to the law, and it is too trivial a matter to bother going down the legal route. It will sour neighbourly relations if you wash you hands of the entire situation. I think you should get someone to retrieve the aerial and give it to your neighbour to sort out. The agreement about having it on your house is probably informal and undocumented and you probably can’t be forced to have it on your property. I am speaking from a layman’s point of view though.

I know the British thing is to have a chat with the neighbours but if your neighbours don’t want to answer their door for whatever reason, just leave a note, people! The ringing doorbell is not a court summons!

charlestonchaplin · 03/06/2019 09:06

Cross-post.

daisychain01 · 03/06/2019 09:08

Unfortunately i didnt think to put note though her door

Lesson learned. You presumably(?) don't know the history of how her aerial ended up on your fascia (it could have been with prior agreement with the previous owner of your property). The fact is you arbitrarily made a change, irrespective of it being her aerial on your property and you ought to have made every effort to advise her in advance about the change. You have the right to revoke that original permission, but you need to have been reasonable, for example giving them prior notice in a letter that you are planning to have your roof repairs completed on x date and you are giving them fair notice to remove their aerial from your property.

Neighbourhood disputes can be easily averted by people being reasonable, considerate and communicative.

What's done is done but to avoid future issues it's worth bearing this in mind.

If they continue to give you issues, just say something along the lines of - you're very sorry but it would invalidate your buildings insurance - then leave it vague. Unfortunately it won't have done anything for your NDN harmony but what's done s done. It will cost them £20-£40 to get someone to sort it, hardly going to bankrupt them and if they can't live without tv for a few days, feel sorry for them! I once had my NDN storm round to complain that my roof scaffolding (for 3 days) was affecting their wife's ability to watch her favourite daytime tv program - oh boo boo diddums!

Safirexx · 03/06/2019 09:09

@JaynePoole Exactly!!! I've been sitting here twitching Grin

Justaboy · 03/06/2019 09:13

Tell her that it should not have been on your roof in the first place unless there is some odd agreement for that . Get a proper aerial rigger in to sort this she can pay for it if it was on your roof but i think theres more to it than meets the eye here.

Roofers and builders are not the best persons to sort aerial problems.

Do NOT let a 14 year old lad up ther it does not have to be that high before a fall can cause injury or death!

Its "AERIAL" and there're WIRES or co-axial cables FWIW

daisychain01 · 03/06/2019 09:15

Post an invoice to them charging them for using your fascia board for their aerial.

Said by someone who clearly isn't the person's NDN and doesn't need to coexist harmoniously 365 days a year!

IHeartArya · 03/06/2019 09:18

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Oliversmumsarmy · 03/06/2019 09:20

Surely if your NDN is getting a signal upstairs but not downstairs then wires must be in place otherwise they would have no tv at all

ReadMyLipss · 03/06/2019 09:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn as it quoted to deleted post.

IHeartArya · 03/06/2019 09:25

I’ll ask for it to be deleted - yes you are right very rude of me.

Apologies op I didn’t mean to be rude.

charlestonchaplin · 03/06/2019 09:26

That poster was being kind to the OP, ReadMyLipss! Several other posters had commented on the correct spelling in quite a blunt fashion and that poster was trying to give a possible explanation for the OP’s incorrect spelling.

daisychain01 · 03/06/2019 09:28

and it's pretty mean people "twitching" just because of a few spelling mistake ffs. Hardly central to the discussion, go and twitch elsewhere if it affects you so badly, not sneer on here.

IHeartArya · 03/06/2019 09:28

I’ve asked for it to be deleted anyway for being rude. Although you’re right - my intention was to give a reason not to kick the op when down.

chuttypicks · 03/06/2019 09:38

Tell her to piss off if she says anything else about it. It's up to her to get someone out to fix it. It's not your problem and it shouldn't have been on your property in the first place. She is BU. YANBU.

1tisILeClerc · 03/06/2019 09:47

daisychain01

As a complete letter it would be phrased differently obviously, pointing out that they had no right to have their aerial on your house in the first place and that if they were going to force you to pay for 'repairs' then you in turn have a right to be paid 'rent' for the privilege they have had.
If it had fallen and injured say the postman, who is liable for the injuries on your property? (You, for equipment that is not yours).

HiJenny35 · 03/06/2019 09:47

Pleased you got it sorted. You did nothing wrong. She was very cheeky to have it on your house in the first place. She saw roofing works being done and she should have approached you and explained very nicely that her aerial was on your property and how much would it be to move it to her own where it should be. It wasn't down to you to go and see her, she was taking the biscuit. Very rude neighbour.

Coronapop · 03/06/2019 09:50

If they never answer the door then just ignore and leave the neighbours to sort it out.
More importantly you should not have sent a child up to look.

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