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AIBU to cry with frustration that my neighbour won’t shut up

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ATrainSeat · 03/06/2019 00:55

We’ve had issues with him before but after a reasonable chat with my OH we thought we’d turned a corner. Evidently not. His front room is next to our bedroom and we’re currently experiencing Queens back catalogue and him and his friends singing. Occasional shouts. We’ve banged on the wall a couple of times and he shouted, ‘I’ll smash your fucking face in’ and ‘I’ll fucking kill you’ and ‘I’ll smash your fucking car in tomorrow’ so now at a loss. Tried to ring non-emergency police but no answer after half an hour on hold. Can imagine they’re busy tonight in the area we live in.

Not sure what to do and just feel like crying at the thought of our early alarms going off for work 😭

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motherone · 03/06/2019 00:57

My husband had this one time in his old house he put his stereo on full blast 6am metallic on repeat and went to work funny neighbor never did it again lol

LarryGreysonsDoor · 03/06/2019 00:58

I feel your pain.
Does he own or rent?
Do you own or rent?
Try the police on 999, he’s threatened you.

TreacherousPissFlap · 03/06/2019 00:59

Please don't call the police on 999 Hmm

LarryGreysonsDoor · 03/06/2019 01:05

So the op should just let someone threaten to fucking kill her?

floraloctopus · 03/06/2019 01:06

I'd phone 999 for that

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ATrainSeat · 03/06/2019 01:07

I don’t think he means it and I think he’s just drunk. But still not going round to speak to him lol. Not going to ring 999 tonight as can’t see that they’d be able to come out anyway, like I said, busy night in our area I’d imagine lol. We do have a number for a police officer we spoke to last time there was issues so will ring them and the landlord tomorrow. It’s just getting through tonight. On our 4th rendition of radio gaga right now. Sadly we don’t have a spare room but seriously considering the sofa...

We own, they rent.

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BastardGoDarkly · 03/06/2019 01:11

Oh OP, what a nightmare (and unfortunate set up of your rooms too?)

I'd definitely debunk to the sofa if you think you'll be comfy.

CoffeeToffeeFudge · 03/06/2019 01:13

Certainly pursue him via the council & his landlord etc, but my life changed when I bought some noise cancelling ear buds when I was trying to cope with a similar situation.

They were @£250 but they provide total silence when I need it.

CoffeeToffeeFudge · 03/06/2019 01:14

In the meantime, pink, brown & white noise on Youtube via headphones will get rid of the worst of it. Or on a speaker if you have one.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 03/06/2019 01:19

Are there other neighbours you can talk to about it too? Join forces to go to the council and landlord?
Contact the landlord every single time. Make it annoying for them too.

happymummy12345 · 03/06/2019 01:39

No real help but I wanted to say I know how you feel. Our neighbours moved in last year. Ever since we have very loud music all day, so loud it's like it's in our own house (my dad thought it was when he came to visit once), accompanied by singing. Or even worse their tv on exceptionally loud I'm their bedroom. It's on the wall directly behind our bed, and it's usually on until the early hours (3-4 in the morning, occasionally later than that).
Granted it's not every single day, but most. They haven't been aggressive or anything so nowhere near as serious as your situation at all, but very annoying none the less. It's like being at a concert or at the cinema, or both in one day.
I hope you are able to get something sorted soon

MLMsuperfan · 03/06/2019 02:09

Neighbour noise can be very upsetting, I feel your pain.

I would never recommend banging on walls, ceilings or floors though. It can easily escalate the situation. Talking face to face, although stressful and sometimes scary, gets much better results.

Topseyt · 03/06/2019 02:29

Contact your local council's environment services department. Ask them about getting a noise abatement order served on him.

If you know who his landlord is, or the estate agent involved in the letting then also pursue it that way.

PunishmentSnart · 03/06/2019 03:09

Are you in Lpool by any chance?

Play your music really loud from tomorrow and go out - he’ll love that with a hangover Grin

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ATrainSeat · 03/06/2019 03:31

Yes in Liverpool . Party still going on and I’ve had an hour of sleep. Honestly so frustrated.

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MaryMuir · 03/06/2019 06:33

I really recommend wax earplugs - they block out almost all noise and are far more comfortable to wear than the foam kind. They were a lifesaver for me when I had noisy neighbours.

Also worth looking on your local council website to see if they have a noise team - I’ve had amazing help from them before, they usually come very quickly and have the power to remove speakers etc.

AnguaUberwaldIronfoundersson · 03/06/2019 06:48

I agree with the above. Police, council and landlord complaints.

Play some music loudly from when you get up. If you have a timer or device you can program, set it off at random intervals through the day.

Neighbour noise is the worst!

AJPTaylor · 03/06/2019 06:48

Many moons ago we turned our speakers to the party wall, wacked it up to 11 and went out from 7.30 in the morning until 7.30 at night. This was after yet another all nighter from our neighbours. It helped.

NeatFreakMama · 03/06/2019 06:52

We had a total nightmare either neighbours a few years ago and so when we got up at 6am got work after they'd gone to sleep at 4-5am we left music on and went to work then to stay in a hotel. They stopped doing it, this was after month and months of us trying to talk to them! We also bought a universal remote that turned their TV off Shock

MegaMonsterMunch · 03/06/2019 06:55

I think everybody is just using this Champions League win as an excuse to act like a prick. Our street has been bouncing for 2 nights. Half aren't even football fans, let alone Liverpool fans, but I understand not wanting to bother the police as there simply won't be enough resource given the enormity of whats going on in town. Is he reasonable when he's sober? If he's a repeat offender, go straight to the landlord as clearly he doesn't understand what is expected of him.

Pppppppp1234 · 03/06/2019 06:59

liverpool.gov.uk/environmental-problems/noise-complaint/

Noise nuisance complaint as well will help,

ASauvignonADay · 03/06/2019 07:02

Could you swap your layout so your bedroom is not next to his living room?

LoafofSellotape · 03/06/2019 07:05

I'd call the police if someone threatened to kill me, fuck that for a game of soldiers!

maddening · 03/06/2019 07:06

Go out today and leave "barbie girl" on repeat on full volume.

SavoyCabbage · 03/06/2019 07:07

I’ve had bad neighbours,and it is awful. Your home needs to be where you feel safe and where you can rest.

I wouldn’t do anything like play revenge music. It’s just going to make it worse. People like that don’t just think

‘oh, they are playing their music at 6am because I was playing mine last might. I’ve made a terrible mistake and I feel so bad. I won’t do that again. I’m going to change my ways and be considerate from now on’

They think ‘those bastards, they think they are going to fucking sorry tonight at 4am. And I’m going to get a new speaker’.