Do you use coarse language with your dc?

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Dd's came back from dad's on Friday telling me how they talk about turds, and call each other turds there, discuss logs being left in the toilet, and other things I can't remember now but generally quite coarse language around toilet habits.
I might be being a bit stuck up maybe but it wasn't nice hearing my daughters talking like that and calling each other a turd. It's not a word I use at all and I find it quite vulgar. I can swear like a trooper but not in front of the children and love toilet humour so I probably have double standards

Is that normal talk and I'm just a snob? They are 10 and 12 and usually well spoken and well mannered so it surprised me.

I don't, I think it's vile. My brothers do with their kids though.

I avoid swearing (bot not 100% successfully - DC1 is just learning swear words from older kids at school and his reaction was "mummy always says that under her breath when she's trying to park"). DS in particular is 7.5 and loves toilet humour. Doesn't really bother me as long as he knows when it's appropriate and when it's not.

I never did this with my DD.

They are just words. I swear like a navvie in front of my dd (13) she tells me off! Job done

Oh we talk about bodily functions with regularity. I'm a nurse 🤷🏼‍♀️ it's the coarse language that struck me.

I hate swearing in front of children, I was raised never hearing my parents swear until my mid teens, and I think swearing in front of young children is just really nasty.

But I don’t think “turd” is too bad at that age tbh and the more you react the funnier they will find it

My two love a good fart joke - they are just words. They also know swear words because I prefer that they learn them at home. If swear words are common place they lose their power and it is easier to teach that the word is just a word but the sentiment behind it matters, so saying “fucking toaster” is fine, but “fucking Bob” is not.

Meh... We are still at the poo poo head stage. They know there are places and people where this is not appropriate and don't use potty language, but in the safe confines of their own home I'm not going to police their expression too much. I swear a LOT so criticising them would make me a hypocrite.

My BIL and SIL taught their children to say ‘urine’ and ‘excrement’ from toddlerhood. It used to make me want to throw things.

I thought you meant swearing when you said coarse language. Is turd considered coarse?

Talking about logs in the toilet is a bit gross because of the mental imagery that goes with it, but personally I don't think calling each other a turd is the worst thing in the world...

I remember coming home from primary school approx age 7 and calling my brother a dildo, at dinner. Somebody had said it at play time and I didn't know what it meant. Went down a treat, of course. Oops!

Nope

Dont do turd

Do poo

I dont like words like bogie either...so we dont use that one

The children dont swear in front of me though 20 year old ds1 is bucking that trend

hali I can't remember the last time I cringed so hard. If a child called poo excrement in front of me, I would be truly baffled!

Not on purpose! Have muttered the odd swear word in stressful times.

This wouldn't bother me too much though because if they arent hearingnit in one place then they will in another. Everyone has different standards and as long as you make it clear to them what yours are and that they should respect that I wouldn't bother wasting energy getting angry about other people over whom you have no control.

Well in a jokey sense I wouldn’t mind my dc (10&12) saying turd but I wouldn’t want them using it as a general word for poo normally.

I think re swearing they have to learn when it is and isn’t appropriate. If they let the odd “shit” slip out (arf) I don’t mind. Tell me to fuck off and they’d be in big trouble.

Surely turd isn't "coarse language"?

@Slicedpineapple I can just imagine!

No

There is plenty of time for that to be picked up at school

I've never swore in front of my kids and they are adults now, my parents never swore in front of me. I have one friend in particular who swears like a trooper in front of her kids and I feel like telling her to shut up but it's her choice.

If they let the odd “shit” slip out (arf) I don’t mind. Tell me to fuck off and they’d be in big trouble.

Thank god - I thought I was the only one who felt like this!

Also... shit slipping

Turd isn't a word I use so I think that's why my eyebrows went up. I don't like the word. I was surprised that the adults were using it in conversation with the younger children in the house (5,7 and 9).

But yes, different standards and ways of doing things. I wasn't angry. Just surprised.

at excrement. Did they not learn faeces?

15 year old ds2 nearly swore the other day

He got pissed off with dh attempts to cross the road and got as far at

‘Oh fuuuuu’

Before he realised we were all staring at him

Always said I would never be the swear-around-your-kids type of parent....but here I am. I gave up trying not to and instead taught my kids that just like smoking, drinking, driving a car and getting married swearing is something adults can do that children shouldn't. I don't think it's terrible for them to hear swearing but I think they should have the respect and knowledge not to swear themselves which mine do. I certainly never swear at them but if they're around an an expletive gets dropped...well meh.

Toilet humour is fair game in our house too but with boys what else do you expect?

It's just words and part of our language and they need to understand when it is and isn't ok to use mild swear words. Words like shit and crap are OK in certain circumstances. I also agree that they lose their power if you don't get too upset by them.

I'd say you sound a little batshit, but you'd probably stroke out.