Do you use coarse language with your dc?

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Dd's came back from dad's on Friday telling me how they talk about turds, and call each other turds there, discuss logs being left in the toilet, and other things I can't remember now but generally quite coarse language around toilet habits.
I might be being a bit stuck up maybe but it wasn't nice hearing my daughters talking like that and calling each other a turd. It's not a word I use at all and I find it quite vulgar. I can swear like a trooper but not in front of the children and love toilet humour so I probably have double standards

Is that normal talk and I'm just a snob? They are 10 and 12 and usually well spoken and well mannered so it surprised me.

I know what you mean OP.

Regrettably I have sworn in front of my DD when very angry/upset but I actually hate swearing and words like turd, piss, etc. And yes, we are also very open about bodily functions, sex, whatever...

I definitely do not consider Turd to be ‘coarse language’
I’m not a fan of adults swearing in from of kids, it sounds horrible. But turd is okay in my opinion.
Having said that, I hate the word ‘crap’ and ‘dump’ used in that context. It sounds massive and steamy. Makes me feel a bit sick.

@Rufusthebewilderedreindeer I have a colleague who won't refer to bogies even with her children, another colleague had her DC in the office (popped in to pick something up on her day off), and said to her 'oh DC go and blow your nose please, I can see the bogies from here'. Didn't even register with me. Colleague 1 grimaced and said 'Ooh don't use that word'. When questioned on what she would have said to her DC in that situation she said she would've referred to it as 'nose dirt' !!!!
(We all get on well so it was a very light-hearted conversation)
WTAF. Surely nose dirt is worse.

What do you call them?

Turd is no worse than poo, surely?

I try to avoid swearing in front of my kids but now they are older I'm more relaxed about the odd crap or bugger getting dropped - ds10 will immediately respond with 'yeah, yeah, I know, not in front of small kids or adults, especially not teachers or Grandma...'

What do you call them?

Nostril nuggets?

We love a bit of toilet humour in our house, but we’re also very clear that some people don’t like it.

I also swear in front of them (not at them, but if i hurt myself or something I might utter a ‘fuck’!) and they’re very clear that kids aren’t allowed to say those words, when they’re grown up they can do what they want. Luckily they’re obedient chaps

I hate swearing in front of children

Don't do it then 🤣

Turd isn't a swear word though. Agree it's a wee bit uncouth, but not a swear word.

I called my sisters much worse when I was 12.

I say crap, bloody and sod off, and I wouldn’t bother at turd or fart.
I don’t say fuck or anything worse though. ‘Shit’ may slip out when speaking to my DS14 occasionally.
My mother however would faint at any of those as she considered ‘fart’ etc to be full blown swearing.

Turd, dump, shit. All fairly common in this house. As is my son coming home and announcing 'need the toilet I've got a turtle head' or need the bog I'm touching cloth. I guess we are uncouth

What is a posh name for bogies?

@LonelyAmongUs you must have missed the part where I said I swear like a trooper.

I hate the word dump too. Dump and turd. Or anything that sounds like it's out of the Viz although some are very funny.

Argh, I have double standards

I swear like a sailor and have no filter. If the local priest was in my company I wouldn't hold my tongue. My parents never swore. Don't know how or when I started. So far only my eldest teen uses the odd swear word and that's fairly recent (at home at least). Their first words should, by right, have been 'fuck it' but they just never picked it up. Yet if one of them said they were going for a dump I'd think it crass - so like you op, I very much have double standards

I swear yes, I don’t find toilet humour funny or talk about turds really but I don’t care if they did. They’re just words.

Well at least we have standards! I'm not there are any for anything at dad's house from what they tell me Both girls know not to swear at home and they certainly wouldn't in front of other adults. High school has opened up a whole new world of language for dd1.
Ds asked me today what love means. He's 4.
Dd asked what a bastard was.
Sigh. The innocence is gone so soon.

I swear like crazy..with adults

I hate:

Shit
Crap
Turd
Poo
Bogie
Fart
Dump
Pump
Squits

I definitely have some sort of "excretement" issue

Is that normal talk and I'm just a snob? They are 10 and 12 and usually well spoken and well mannered so it surprised me.

I would by that age, they'll be effing and blinding away to their mates in the schoolyard. At that age i was well versed in fuck and all variants on it.

What bothers me is that your kids lack subtly and variation in describing the act of defecation when there's so many options out there. Why stick to talk of turds and leaving logs when they could be dropping the babbies off at the pool, birthing an otter, liquidating their assets, making a deposit at the porcelain bank etc etc.

Total double standard here. Swear like a sailor, as did my own DM. However, I don't even want to type toilet-related words without feeling nauseous. This is definitely a hang up from DM! "Bottom-related" words were not allowed at all when I grew up.
Complete nonsense that I say fuck with impunity and don't care if my now adult DC do the same, but if they said turd I'd tell them off!
I was always completely open with my kids about all bodily functions and they have no problem with the so-called coarser words, but I do.
I have issues, clearly.

'yeah, yeah, I know, not in front of small kids or adults, especially not teachers or Grandma...'

I love this. Guidelines for swearing in a nutshell!

Wouldn't bother me at all. I don't find it particularly coarse, but I am probably somewhat uncouth anyway.

As long as the kids realise that "there is a time and a place" and all of that then it is fine.

Lol, I didn't realise this was an issue, just the other day I told my DD's teacher that she was such a lovely kind, caring child but that she could be a big turd sometimes.

Whoops haha.

Actually, turd and log could well be the toned down versions of what could have been said.

Also, I apparently use the word 'twat' as in, stop tail gaiting me you twat, a fair bit because when my DD was about 4 we were in a carpark and someone nearly backed in to me, I said something along the lines of 'good on ya mate!' and my DD said 'Mum, he's a twat isn't he'

What do you call them?

Ive been having a think and i don’t believe that i call it anything

I usually just look disgusted and say ‘you need to blow your nose’

Weird that i dont call it anything 😨