To be a little upset by this?

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My brother and wife gave me some second/third hand baby items. A month later they demanded £100 for them. I understood them to be a gift so was a bit taken aback to then be told I needed to pay for them. I was not in a position to buy new so was very grateful but would have looked on eBay for the items I actually needed (they just gave me what they had, I hadn't asked for anything) and would have cost me a lot less. I didn't feel I could hand them back and they live 5 hours away so not easy just to take them back.

Would you be upset or am I just over sensitive?

I wouldn’t pay!

They gave you the items. If they wanted money they should have said upfront.

Tell them to come and get the stuff if they want money. You aren’t paying

Ha they must be kidding. Say no sorry, £100 could get you the exact stuff you need so there is no point paying them for whatever they have to hand

YANBU. If they were going to charge you for the items this should've been made clear before you physically had them. I think I would probably reply and say 'sorry, I think there's been a misunderstanding, I can't afford to pay you so when would you like to collect?' or something like that.

Do not pay!

It was clearly a gift, apparently they need some cash and they’re trying their luck. So rude. Tell them you understood it was a gift and it wasn’t stuff you would have ever paid them £100 for. They are welcome to collect it if they must have it back. Which they won’t.

Don't pay - just send them back. You can't give unsolicited "gifts" and then demand money.
If there's anything you particularly like pay the going 2nd hand rate (no more than 1/3 new) and give them that.

YANBU

I’d send the stuff back and tell them it would cheaper on EBay to buy them. How rude of them, are they aware of your situation op?

Of course you're not being over-sensitive - in your position I'd be absolutely fuming! Do you think they perhaps gave them as a gift and are now thinking 'we could have sold them', so chancing it with you? The thing is, selling 2nd/3rd hand baby stuff is a minefield, as what one person thinks is good condition, another may think is tatty. I've just given away loads of the DC's old clothes on Freecycle: stuff that they would still be wearing if it fitted, but not good enough for the charity shop to be able to sell. I think if I were you I would definitely not be paying for the clothes: I think you need to be direct with your DB and tell him that you thought they were a gift and cannot afford to pay for them (I hope you haven't already done so). If they want them back then try and send them back - a parcel here and there if you can't afford to do it in one go. The thing is, for £100 you can get masses of brand new stuff in the supermarkets, so they are completely out of order. Please stand up for yourself as they are taking advantage.

Don’t let them guilt trip you either

If they insist they can’t come and collect, send them back by post. Bet it’s cheaper to do that than to pay them £100

I would go passive aggressive, ‘Oh no! I didn’t realise you were selling them to me, I’m so embarrassed. I was going to pass them along to a friend as I really wanted to pick my own things. If you like I can send them back?

So have you paid them?

If not, tell them they can have them back. That you misunderstood the transaction. That you can't afford it and you will have to source items elsewhere.

I would never charge my brothers or SIL for my baby stuff. 😮

Hahah Ellicam
"Have the stuff back, it was shit anyway."

I would give it back and buy second hand from elsewhere.

Don't pay.
Give them 6 weeks to collect them and then give them to a charity shop if they don't.
Remember some family are greedy buggers.

That's so cheeky, they should have said up front if they wanted money. £100 seems a lot, was it a large amount of clothing? You'd get loads for that at your local NCT sale or nearly new. I would tell them you don't want it, box up and send it all back to them

If there's No possibility you misunderstood the offer then you poor thing. What a position to put you in.
Can you be honest with your brother? "Hi bro, thanks for the stuff. I didn't want to look rude by saying no to you but I actually had my eye on something else on a site I've seen so I'll box it up for you and send it back."

It was a baby bath (filthy), steriliser (moudy), bouncer chair (dirty), monitor, and 5 maternity items.

Bloody hell. That all sounds fit for the bin!

I sold my steraliser for £20 and that was with me using de-scaler in it once a month to keep it in perfect condition.

So in all you could get all that stuff for about £20 second hand.

I doubt they even got all that for £100 new!

Tell them to swivel.

You could probably pick that lot up for less than £100 new!

Cheeky gits give it all back!

Have you paid them.

Tell them having viewed the items, they're clearly not fit for the purpose they were sold for so you shall return them. Then put like a £5 postage in them and return them.

I would just be honest and reply, sorry there seems to be a mix up. I thought these were a gift. I don't want to buy them so I'll put them away for you to collect when your next over this way.

And that's not even worth £100 second hand. CFs the pair of them.

I was guilted into paying and am now NC with them due to other cf stuff they did at my wedding (oh don't worry, we'll pay for x y z . Only to be told a few weeks before that no actually they won't be paying. I didn't ask, they offered then changed their minds). It was playing on my mind as my mum hates me being NC with them and doesn't understand why.

It's good to know I wasn't being ungrateful or over sensitive.

No way, I would tell them they can collect it next time they see you.

Say no.
My baby bath, sterilizer and bouncy chair was £5 each off facebook marketplace, all super clean and then i bought some clothes and a jumperoo for a total of £30 and they are really nice bits that look unused.

There is no way i would pay 100. They are taking money that could be used to get nice stuff for your baby!