To be a little upset by this?

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My brother and wife gave me some second/third hand baby items. A month later they demanded £100 for them. I understood them to be a gift so was a bit taken aback to then be told I needed to pay for them. I was not in a position to buy new so was very grateful but would have looked on eBay for the items I actually needed (they just gave me what they had, I hadn't asked for anything) and would have cost me a lot less. I didn't feel I could hand them back and they live 5 hours away so not easy just to take them back.

Would you be upset or am I just over sensitive?

I can't see that your mother doesn't really understand what the issue is, OP. She sounds like my mother who spent her life pretending that my vile selfish brother was actually ok really. Have you told her the whole story?

Shame you paid them. I would have just returned the items.

Don't blame you at all for going NC.

They gave you the items. If they wanted money they should have said upfront.

Tell them to come and get the stuff if they want money. You aren’t paying

What Soubriquet has said.

Put their stuff to one side and tell them it's ready whenever they want to come and get it.

Oh - sorry - I see I'm too late and you've paid them.

I think they behaved very nastily towards you.

What a shame you didn't post on here first, I can't believe anyone would have told you to pay up, that's barmy

I would have not paid them and cut them off. Your mother can go sling her hook. They were CFers extraordinnaire.

I wouldn’t have paid and told them to come and collect them. Might even have charged them if I’d cleaned them up.

NC is a good idea. Don't have anything more to do with them. Does your DM know what they've done? or is your brother the Golden Child?

I would apologise profusely, say you misunderstood and thought you were renting the items. Enclose a 50 p for the rent, and ask them to collect asap as you have finished using them and if they stay in your house any longer you will have to charge them for the storage.........

You need a short and direct conversation with your mum.

You need to tell her very bluntly that you will not b holding out any olive branches to your DB as he has left you financially precarious a few times and hasn't had the good grace to even acknowledge that, let alone apologise. Tell her that you appreciate she doesn't like to see you at odds, but you won't be pressurised as, quite simply, you cannot afford it, emotionally or financially.

Then ignore any further attempts on her part.

I'd imagine she will try, Golden Boy, I am assuming!

I'd be furious op. You're a mug if you tolerate it.

Basically it was a gift, later they were short of cash and worked out how they could get some - by retroactively charging you for their lovely gifts!!

Never ever, under any circumstances accept any ‘gift’ from them of any value, chances are they’ll be tapping up their new revenue source again in a few weeks.

Give them their stuff back and ‘apologise’ for the misunderstanding, you thought they were a gift, sorry but I can’t afford £100.

I would ask to return the items and they give you the £100 back as you dont want them