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Period at my boyfriend's

56 replies

Flutra · 01/06/2019 04:33

Been seeing my boyfriend for four months. I've just realised I've come on my period and its on his sheet! Helppp!

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Myfoolishboatisleaning · 01/06/2019 04:48

Happens to us all. Is he a man or a sniggering kid? It’s fine.

Birdie6 · 01/06/2019 04:53

This sorts out the men from the boys. If he is weirded out by this, you'll know you've got a little boy on your hands.

Armadillostoes · 01/06/2019 06:10

Agreed. He should be calm, sympathetic and unphased. Dump him for any other reaction-it would be a terrible sign.

KatherineJaneway · 01/06/2019 06:42

Just be =calm, strip the bed and washing the bedding, put on new bedcovers and that should be it.

BlueberryFool123 · 01/06/2019 06:51

I had this once. Not only did my boyfriend not get bothered, he helped strip the bed, remake it offered to go to the shop to pick up tampax/painkillers and made me a cup of tea.

Readers, I married him...

Nillynally · 01/06/2019 06:53

Did this with a boy at uni. He helped me strip the bed and and gave me a cuddle, understanding how embarrassed I was. Married him.

Booboostwo · 01/06/2019 07:01

Do you think he would be posting online to ask for advice if he woke up in your bed and found blood from his nosebleed on your sheets?

WinnerWinnerChickenDinner0 · 01/06/2019 07:01

Agree with others.

How he reacts will tell you who he really is.

It’s happened to me a few times. Never a big deal

herculepoirot2 · 01/06/2019 07:03

Remove sheet and tell him you got some blood on them. He’ll either make a fuss - in which case you know to dump him - or he’ll wash them.

BillywilliamV · 01/06/2019 07:06

I had a bloke finish with me after a three month relationship because I got blood on his sheets. This was 20 years ago, hopefully men are a bit more “woke” now.
Still, Embrace this as an opportunity to sort the nobs from the normals

Aimadre · 01/06/2019 07:07

Happened with me and bf in the very early days in a posh hotel. BF handled it fine but said he was worried the staff would think he’d just deflowered a virgin Grin

ForalltheSaints · 01/06/2019 07:09

You'll know today whether he is a 'keeper' or not.

speakout · 01/06/2019 07:10

OP this is no problem.

Men leave fluids on sheets all the time, so this should be no big deal for them.
I would point it out so he can strip his bed if he wants to before the stain sets. I wouldn't be scrurrying to wash them myself.

If you had a boyfriend visit your home and left a messy patch on your sheets what would you expect him to do?

Ocassional menstrual blood on sheets is part of being human.

MustardScreams · 01/06/2019 07:13

It’s happened to all of us at one point or another. Agree today will tell you if he’s worth keeping or not.

Just tell him and strip the bed, if he freaks out, leave and don’t go back. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about in the slightest.

SunshineCake · 01/06/2019 07:21

Why is it a drama for you?

milkshak3 · 01/06/2019 07:23

why is it an issue? is he 16?

BillywilliamV · 01/06/2019 07:24

Sunshine Cake, she is obviously a little insecure and is asking for support! It doesn’t have to become a political issue!

LouiseMiltonSpatula · 01/06/2019 07:29

This has happened to most of us OP! I once had mine come on during sex and at the end it looked like there has been a massacre. I’m now married to that boyfriend...

I know it feels awkward and embarrassing (whether or not it should - it still can) but any remotely decent boyfriend will be calm and respectful about it, and will help you sort it.

And if he isn’t - at least you know now that he’s an asshole before you go any deeper!

LeSquigh · 01/06/2019 07:31

I really don't see what the issue is here? The same thing happened to me after even less time together, I apologised, he told me not to be so ridiculous, then we made things worse by having sex and making much more of a mess and then he washed them at some point after. Is that too much info?

Ellabella989 · 01/06/2019 07:34

I usually have one day a month where I leak onto the sheets even if I wear a massive sanitary pad and a tampon. My boyfriend couldn’t care less and he just helps me strip the bed and change it. It happens to most of us so don’t worry. He’s probably seen it before with ex’s unless he’s very young

pineapplebryanbrown · 01/06/2019 07:37

aimadre that's hilarious. Did you flutter your eyelashes and confess he was your first.

TanMateix · 01/06/2019 07:42

I realised there was a big spot of blood on my sheets just as DS (11) was coming into my room. Fresh from his sex education class in school, looking at my embarrasement he said “oh, it’s ok mum, it happens to everyone” and helped me to strip the bed.

You are worrying for nothing, they are well trained these days Wink

cookiechomper · 01/06/2019 07:42

It's not a big deal at all. He will understand women have periods and that it can happen, unless he's an idiot.

jarhead123 · 01/06/2019 07:45

Agree with the above. All been there, nothing to be embarrassed about xxx

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 01/06/2019 07:47

Presumably he knows women have periods?

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