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Period at my boyfriend's

56 replies

Flutra · 01/06/2019 04:33

Been seeing my boyfriend for four months. I've just realised I've come on my period and its on his sheet! Helppp!

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MRex · 01/06/2019 07:47

My DH cleaned the sheets for me a couple of times when this happened, once in early days and once when I was ill. He's a master at getting off blood with cold water + fairy liquid. How your boyfriend reacts is a good sign of how he'll be with other minor incidents in life, see it as a useful accident.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/06/2019 07:48

Good opportunity to find out whether he’s normal or an arsehole.

DiamondsInTheMud · 01/06/2019 07:50

This happened to me while staying over at my boyfriend of 4 months hows. To add to the complication he was living with his mum at the time (saving up for his mortgage) so technically her sheets...

He was lovely, if a bit awkward, but ran me a bath, cleaned the sheets and offered to go to the shop to get me any 'stuff' i might need.

Still together now ❤

FaithInfinity · 01/06/2019 07:50

Soak it in cold salt water to remove the blood stain. It’s definitely a test of what kind of bloke he is!

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 01/06/2019 07:52
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yearinyearout · 01/06/2019 07:56

If he's old enough for you to be sleeping over at his house, he's old enough to cope with a period.

GeorgeTheFirst · 01/06/2019 07:57

He'll have to wash his sheet then won't he. No big deal.

UncomfortableSilence · 01/06/2019 07:59

Presumably he knows women get periods Hmm

Happens to me a lot, suffer with hideous periods, DH, even when we first met didn't bat an eyelid, he now is the same with DD who's has taken after me with shitty periods too stripping her bed etc

It's natural, change the sheets and forget about it, if he even is slightly Hmm then I would reconsider the relationship.

Pizzaaddict · 01/06/2019 07:59

This happened to me when I was about 18. I was too embarrassed to say anything so waited for him to get up, made the bed, left and blocked him never to speak again. Looking back it was absolutely bizarre behaviour on my part Blush

pineapplebryanbrown · 01/06/2019 08:00

My sister sent her bf to the shops and he came back with Paxo (and the correct stuff). He handed the Paxo over first and said "I asked for stuffing".

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 01/06/2019 08:03

What an unfunny cunt thigh I hope she did better!

MrsLindor · 01/06/2019 08:05

Agree this is a good test of whether he's a decent grown up man or not.

ControversialFerret · 01/06/2019 08:06

This shouldn't be a big deal. If you're having sex together then presumably he's familiar with the fact that women menstruate?

I had this in the early days of a relationship. My first days are always very heavy and I'd flooded everywhere whilst staying at his place. He bundled me off into the shower and while I was in there, he stripped the bed and tidied up. I came back to a cup of tea, a packet of paracetamol and an offer for him to go to the supermarket if I needed sanpro. That was 17 years ago and we've been married for the last 14 of them.

Witchofthenorth · 01/06/2019 08:15

Well hopefully it shouldn't be an issue and if it is, get rid!

Mine started with my boyfriend whilst we were having sex for the first time..blood everywhere, looked like a crime scene and I was mortified! He just brushed it off, said no problem, stripped the bed while I got washed then so did he. Knew then he was a keeper Grin

Petalflowers · 01/06/2019 08:21

..sort the nobs from the normals! Grin

Amibeingdaft81 · 01/06/2019 08:27

It was a past boyfriend’s (I later married) response to me waking up to realise i had bled all over his beautifully expensive bedding that made me realise how much I loved him.

He shrugged and said - no big deal, a hot wash will sort it.

Teddybear45 · 01/06/2019 08:28

I once had my period while we were having sex. It was like a Murder scene. I was so embarrassed but DH took it in his stride. How he reacts tells you whether he’s worth it.

BlueSkiesLies · 01/06/2019 08:57

“Oh, my period has started. Help me strip the bed and get a wash on?”

I came on and managed to drip on DPs cream carpet years ago!

Crazyladee · 01/06/2019 09:11

OP don't be embarrassed!

When I was a teen, on the first night I stayed over at my newish boyfriends parents house, the morning after, I went to the loo and did a huge shit (couldn't hold it in or I would have waited til I got home)I couldn't flush the toilet properly. Embarrassed and not knowing what to do,
I finally emerged from the bathroom and my boyfriend told me "oh sorry I should have told you not to use that toilet.. It doesn't flush and gets blocked easily!"
I ended up coming clean and stood hanging my head. He told me not to worry and calmly sorted it out without any fuss with a wire coat hanger.

Situations like that definately sort out the boys from the men even though we were only relatively young.

CherryPavlova · 01/06/2019 09:17

You’ll be featuring on Reddit.
Answer is to not have sex with someone you are not comfortable knowing about your periods.

INeedAFlerken · 01/06/2019 09:32

If he's old enough to think about and have sex, then he's old enough to take it in stride because it's not a big deal.

Men ejaculate and it gets all over everything; it's just not 'red', and no fuss is made over that!

If he does make a fuss or gets weirded out, you know he's not mature enough to be in a relationship.

Vegeetas · 01/06/2019 09:36

I pick up pads / tampons for my wife if the need arises, the looks I get from people is astounding. Not just men but women too!

newyearoldme · 01/06/2019 09:58

If he freaks out at a bit of period blood he shouldn't have the right to put his dick inside you....

Antigon · 01/06/2019 10:14

OP, here’s some practical advice which is what I suspect you were asking for, rather than everyone rushing to tell you it’s not a big deal.

Yes, it’s not a big deal, but you should remove the sheet and wash the stain in cold water. Leaving the stain for boyfriend to wash means he may just just bung it in the washing machine in a hot wash which means the blood stain will just set in.

Then let the sheet dry. Tell your boyfriend your period started, there was a stain on the sheet that you’ve washed and ask if he wants to put on a wash now or if he’ll sort it later.

I don’t get all the people telling you not to wash the sheet, in my book, if you make a mess at someone’s house, you clean it up. And yes, my husband is also not bothered by periods and would have washed the stain by hand but he’s my husband, not a boyfriend of 4 months who I don’t live with.

aIways · 01/06/2019 10:39

I imagine, as it was half past 4, op wasn't able to strip the bed without waking up her DP, unless she could whip it off from underneath him like a magician Grin