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Colleague attention seeking

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Norrisskipjack · 31/05/2019 13:29

He’s a bit of an attention seeker but it’s got to the point where it’s embarrassing.

He’s not on my team but sits in an open plan office near me.

The last few days he’s produced an enormous prescription bag from his laptop bag and proceeded to lay out boxes and boxes of tablets across the desk. There’s emollient creams for eczema, some SSRI’s but the majority is over the counter stuff like paracetamol, Benadryl and a couple of multi-vits. He makes a huge show of taking all the tablets out and laying them out on the desk, then leaves them there all day.

No one has asked him about this but every now and again he says loudly ‘oh it’s tablet time! Totally forgot’ and then proceeds to rifle through the bag and pull out more boxes.

It’s incredibly annoying and distracting my team who are now making a bit of a joke out of it to be honest. I’ve quietly had a word and told them to ignore it and not to openly acknowledge that they’ve even seen it, but they’re young and it’s tough for them to keep straight faces now it’s become a running joke.

I’ve resigned myself to just ignore it and everyone else is too, but wtf?? What’s the motivation? I’d love him to stop but don’t want to bring attention to it and feed the behaviour iyswim.

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Underthegreenwood · 31/05/2019 21:40

I’d be tempted to do a version of ‘hammer time’ at ‘tablet time GrinGrinGrin

Craftycorvid · 31/05/2019 21:44

Channel Nurse Ratched and chirp ‘medication time!’ in a creepily soothing tone? Jesting apart, he sounds unwell emotionally if not physically.

theboomtownrat · 31/05/2019 21:52

Oh OP I totally feel your pain... we have a guy like this in our office and it's so fucking irritating. Just fuck off. No one gives a flying fuck.
We all agreed as a team to just ignore it. Not easy, but it has had some impact

ddl1 · 31/05/2019 21:58

'This is the same guy who told someone else he was an only child because he ate his twin in the womb'

Actually, this could be a very garbled description of a real situation. There is a condition called twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome, which occasionally affects identical twins in the womb. In this condition, because of an abnormality of blood vessels in the placenta, one twin receives blood from the other twin, which results in one twin having too much blood and amniotic fluid, and the other too little. Nowadays, it can usually be treated, but in the past, it was often fatal to one or both twins if severe,

Admittedly, it would be a rather odd thing to suddenly bring up with your colleagues at work!

FuriousVexation · 31/05/2019 22:09

I’ve had a quiet word with the team (as mentioned in the OP) but if I escalate it any more it will get worse for him

This would be the point at which you explicitly said you were happy with low-level bullying.

I will be very tactful and say you may not be cut out for a career in managing people. And my direct reports will sit there and snigger at you

Norrisskipjack · 31/05/2019 22:09

We have a colleague who’s pregnant with twins hence when she announced this, his response was ‘I always wanted a twin dramatic pause ..... but mine died in the womb and I ABSORBED HER’.. queue much looking around the group for reaction only to be met with very undramatic silence as we all got on with congratulating the colleague Grin

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Norrisskipjack · 31/05/2019 22:10

furious and you’ve come to that conclusion from approx 200 words on an Internet forum have you?

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Norrisskipjack · 31/05/2019 22:13

Oh and also, piss off.

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Cambionome · 31/05/2019 22:16

Oh ffs Furious.

Outanabout · 31/05/2019 22:19

He must have been watching Southpark 🤣

Norrisskipjack · 31/05/2019 22:58

Grin that was one of the most bizarre!

The other thing he does is whenever someone mentions a place (if they’re getting a flat there or somewhere just comes up in conversation) he claims to have lived there and know the place really well, or he says he has a close relative who lives there and he ‘visits all the time’ Confused. He’s also said he went to Cambridge uni when I asked him, but then someone else mentioned they went to Bangor in north wales and he piped up that he also went to Bangor. When I challenged him and said ‘oh I thought you went to Cambridge!’ He said ‘yeah there was like an exchange program, people from Bangor did a semester at Cambridge and then top students from Cambridge went and did a semester at Bangor’ Hmm

There’s been loads of weird things like that.

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theoldtrout01876 · 31/05/2019 23:42

I have one at my work who goes and puts on one of those girdle/backbrace things every time he has to life anything heavier than a bit paper. Loud comments about how the water needs changing and he will have to put his strap on on Grin

Outanabout · 01/06/2019 11:17

Does he wear a box as well to support the plums? In fairness, someone I know got a hernia from lifting heavy things, and later a strangulated gut, he almost died. I wouldnt blame anyone for putting on a brace thing if he's expected to change the water. Have you tries lifting one of those things? It's bad back time.

joyfullittlehippo · 01/06/2019 15:56

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MitziK · 01/06/2019 17:16

Yeah, we get it, you're the only person in the office allowed to be ill and as a result, you've been given the starry badge and title of Sheriff of the Workplace Disability Police.

He may very well be a bit of a twat, but if he's got depression and medication for it - and you are aware of this - he has protection under the terms of the Equalities Act. You aren't doing him a favour by letting the others take the piss out of him, you're failing to act upon workplace bullying on the basis of a Protected Characteristic.

Being luminous yellow due to liver disease or anything else, having one leg, using a wheelchair or any other physical/visible disability does not exempt you from this legal requirement. Any more than he would be able to get away from saying 'Here comes the Yellow Peril' or starts frantically sanitising, saying 'I don't want to catch hepatitis' when you approach on the grounds that he takes antidepressants.

Do your job - which is to make sure that your employer is not lumbered with a court case for discrimination or constructive dismissal - and tell your underlings that 'it's not appropriate or funny, you need to stop now'.

sueelleker · 01/06/2019 18:33

KissUntilTheyDieOfRabies; have you tried looking for a pharmacy that will provide weekly blister packs? All you need to do is pop out the appropriate time/day.

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