What to say to distraught DD regarding “friends”

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So DD and friends have all got their Festival tickets all good, she was really looking forward to it. But recently a couple of the girls have started to say to DD it not her thing and she would not enjoy it. She has insisted that yes it’s her thing and she really looking forward to it. She said to them that “it sounds like you don’t really want me to go” they assured her they did. She got very upset and each said girl A and Girl B that the other doesn’t want her to go ! anyway they apologised all good so I thought. Then activity arranged for the group by girl A DD really looking forward but was told at the last minute it was cancelled by girl A. But it wasn’t and was streamed on Social Media by girl B and sent to DD. DD is in the middle of public exams but this has really upset her. She lost all confidence and is really upset and keeps saying she has no real friends and long summer ahead. I don’t know how to support her.

As a teen who suffered the same and worry for my DD who has ASD, the one thing I wish I'd had in my armour was resilience and a strong sense of self worth. Enough to turn my back on the horrible girls and say this is not okay you treating me like this. I'm okay by myself. The idea of joining something like sea cadets is a brilliant one as it focuses young minds and if there are some lunchtime clubs at school that would be good too better than hiding in the library or toilets like I did just keep working on lifting her up. It can feel like it will never end but it will and then she never has to see them again except in 30 years when they are working in KFC and your daughter is head of a multi million pound company of course disclaimer nothing wrong with working in KFC