To think it's not rude to tell someone they're spelling your name wrong?

[ZorbeeAndTheLemur]

DH and I run a business together. A supplier of ours, with whom we spend quite a substantial sum of money each month, repeatedly spells my name wrong on emails and invoices, despite the fact that I obviously spell it properly on my emails to him. He never spells DH's name wrong, and my name is a pretty popular well known name, and is not difficult to spell.

He emailed me today spelling my name wrong and in my reply I mentioned that he regularly spells my name incorrectly and could he please amend his records to spell it correctly in future.

DH says it was rude to correct him but it really has been annoying me. Especially as it's a popular name and as I regularly email him with my name spelt correctly when I sign off the email at the end.

Lol the child benefit people always have gotten dds name wrong, even though it's spelled correctly on the forms. It's been years now. We don't stress over it

The thing I don't understand is why don't people check? Yes, autocorrect changes words and names. We all know that, so why don't you check what's there before you send?! Isn't it standard practice to review what you've written before committing, to endure there aren't typos and misspellings or words omitted? (The number of times someone will post their message and then post another one with amendments, like anyone cares...)

People's names are important enough to warrant being extra careful. If your device autocorrects to a different spelling, add the new spelling to its dictionary for goodness' sake. It's not hard and it's discourteous to the person you're addressing.

My name is unusual and I've never come across another one, it was often misspelled at primary but to me that just reinforced the notion that it was a rubbish name! My married name can be pronounced two ways, a lot of people use the other one but I can't get annoyed about that, as it does look like it should be said that way.

YANBU OP, as long as you were polite about it, it wasn't rude.

Of course it's fine to correct a misspelled name. It may not matter much in an email, but at some point the wrong version might get used in a context which did matter, and then you'd probably be blamed for not correcting them sooner.

If you don't pay him until he's corrected his mistake on invoices - he'll learn pretty sharpish.

I bet he knows he's spelling it wrong - just can't be arsed to correct it because he has no respect for you.

Wow thank you for all the replies! Glad to know the general consensus is that I'm not unreasonable.

I think it's because I'm female and he thinks I don't matter. Tbh I mainly deal with our suppliers and I'm the only one who ever emails him out of DH and I, yet he still addresses emails to DH and I, with DH's name first, of course.

He did phone and apologise after I sent the email so we shall see if he makes the same error again....

@jupiters

I bet we have the same name.

I hate the shortened as well