To think it's not rude to tell someone they're spelling your name wrong?

[ZorbeeAndTheLemur]

DH and I run a business together. A supplier of ours, with whom we spend quite a substantial sum of money each month, repeatedly spells my name wrong on emails and invoices, despite the fact that I obviously spell it properly on my emails to him. He never spells DH's name wrong, and my name is a pretty popular well known name, and is not difficult to spell.

He emailed me today spelling my name wrong and in my reply I mentioned that he regularly spells my name incorrectly and could he please amend his records to spell it correctly in future.

DH says it was rude to correct him but it really has been annoying me. Especially as it's a popular name and as I regularly email him with my name spelt correctly when I sign off the email at the end.

I understand, OP, my surnames (maiden and married) are foreign and I get particularly irritated when I have just told someone my surname on the phone or in person and they repeat it back to me pronouncing it completely wrongly despite having heard me pronouncing it correctly (because it's MY NAME and I know how it should be pronounced whatever they might think). Think how the English say "Paris" and the French say "Paree" - so I say "Paree" and these people call me "Paris". Bloody 28 years I've been married and it still annoys me!

YWNBU. I have a common name ending in
-en the amount of people that get it wrong and put an -a on the end of it drives me mad!

YANBU! I have a well known welsh name. Everywhere else in the world they put an Y on the end. This is NOT my name and I get so so pissed off when they call me it on emails and on the phone. I now get really petty and say no we don't have anyone by this name working here could you mean "enters my name" petty but it's not my name and bugs the hell out of me

YANBU. My first name is Alexandra but I receive emails addressed to Alexander the entire time. It especially grates when the sender knows full well that I'm a woman, yet still spells my name the masculine way.

However I've given up bothering to correct.

I never use my full name (don't like it anyway) but nobody could ever spell it right when I was a child. One of my mum's friends would always misspell it, even though she'd seen it written down correctly hundreds of times. Back then, I was told not to mention it as "it will upset her" but now I'd most certainly tell someone if they got it wrong.

Anyone else Googled the definition of ‘milquetoast’?!

Thanks @Aquamarine1029!

YANBU, its rude of the supplier not to have ensured they were using the correct name and spelling imo. I get this quite often - my name can be spelled with or without a certain letter (I spell it without) yet its always added in when people write my name. I can forgive if they've just heard my name and not seen it written, but when the letter is added even though they've seen it written down, eg. In an email or social media message, it really grates.
DS's name has an unusual spelling too (why did I not learn??), so I always spell it out for people. I have several friends and even family members who always use the traditional spelling, rather than ours 😡😡 he's 12 now! It's almost as if they're passive aggressively correcting us!

Never had this, but have had people refer to me as Rose, which really annoys me. It’s just rude.

Probably his auto spell check is automatically changing it. I wouldn’t have said anything.

YANBU. It's not rude at all to ask someone to make sure their records on you are accurate and it's not rude to correct someone if they keep spelling your name wrong, provided you tell them politely.

My surname gets spelled wrong all the time and it drives me mad. It's caused banking issues in the past when people have spelled it wrong on cheques and things.

I always try and ensure I've spelt names correctly, and also always ask if I'm not sure of pronunciation and then make sure I get it right to the best of my ability.

It's just being polite.

I get bored correcting people, my name lends itself to error. It only pisses me off when someone else with a hard to spell name doesn't bother.

I've never heard of a milquetoast before this thread but I love it. I'm going to use this whenever I can.

My name can be legitimately spelt one of two ways, think Ann or Anne. It doesn't bother me if randoms choose the wrong spelling, but does annoy me if people I have sent emails/Christmas cards etc for years continue to spell it wrongly. I would applaud you for correcting the supplier's rudeness.

I have never heard the word 'milquetoast' either! And I still don't really know what one is!

YANBU but some people are genuinely so blind about spelling.

YANBU, I have a common name that has two well known spellings and even when people see it written down the still spell it the other way, I find it very annoying and really dislike it. If it is someone that I have regular contact with I correct them.

I have seen stuff on Twitter etc, mainly from people who have non-European names, pointing out that if their colleagues and acquaintances can manage the spelling and pronunciation of all the names in Game of fucking Thrones, they can manage a few non-European or unusually spelt names.

Unless your email was 'Oi, fuckwit, my name is Liza not Lisa' or whatever, you were not rude.

I don't think you were rude at all.

I recently exchanged a series of emails with someone with a name like Michael Andrew - I mixed their name up and referred to them as Andrew rather than Michael in 3 consecutive emails - totally my mistake and lack of attention to detail.

After the 3rd email they wrote "by the way, my first name is Michael" at the end of their email. I apologised profusely and was really embarrassed. I'd much rather someone pointed out an error I'm making - so I can correct it.

I get this a lot (American spelling vs the correct way that I spell my name). It's in my email address, my signature etc. Sometimes I add a 'Best wishes, Xxxxx' before my sig. Wouldn't actuslly correct someone though.

I don't think it's rude to correct it. The sooner the better. I'd want to be put right if I was getting it wrong.

SmellbowSmellbow123 - I did, and I love it = my new favourite word!

And indeed, Aquamarine, he does sound like a milquetoast.

YANBU My name is boringly common and usually spelled only one way but there is an alternative (and odd) way to spell it and on the rare occasion someone chooses that alternative spelling I ALWAYS correct them.
Your DH is being silly.

Just a nice polite end note saying

P.S. you are spelling my name incorrectly, it is .... :).

No need to make a long thing about it

YANBU
I bet your husband wouldn't be so dismissive of the the guy's rudeness if it was his name being misspelled each time.

I had to send one of my son's sports trophies back three times because they kept repeatedly getting his/our surname wrong by the same letter each time (It was definitely redone each time as the engraving style was different every time). Eg. Snuggles vs Sniggles.

I've also sent back certificates that had the same error. Who wants an award/certification belonging to someone else in their collection?