to think chavy, tacky hen parties should SOD off [Edited by MNHQ at OP's request]

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I’m fed up.
I’ve lived in my beautiful, respectful and historic city my entire life .... but over the last year it’s been invaded by GOD AWFUL hen parties!

20+ strong groups of horrifically common (referring to behaviour not social class) women who inflict their horrific behaviour on everybody within reach.

They’re EVERYWHERE and I know it’s not just me as there are sunbstantial concerns being raised by residents all over the city.

I counted 23 large groups this weekend (I only walked into the (small ish) city centre on Saturday morning and witnessed the following behaviour-

• Loud swearing (F and C word) right in front of/across young families and children just trying to enjoy a day out.
• Shop doors slammed in elderly shoppers faces (too busy pratting around to pay any attention).
• Stock being damaged by pratting about (and then hidden) to avoid paying.
• Horrifically vulgar and inappropriate content being loudly discussed in family areas (a garden/park area) to the point that families got up and left.
• Completely inappropriate Lingerie being worn in the street (before 2pm).
• Vomiting in the street! Whilst being jeered by the rest of the group.

Personally I would rather bleach out my own eyes than go on a hen do like this- but honestly at what point do we just call the police on these ridiculous idiots inflicting such unreasonable behaviour on families and regular people? What’s worse is, I bet back home they’re perfectly normal women. They just all get together and come away from home and behave like total arseholes!

Being in a large group and celebrating an event- does not give you a hall pass to behave like scum. 😡

I don’t think anyone is saying that ALL hens or ALL stags are like this, MaryH90 ; just that there is a significant proportion that are like it.

Lancaster? Shrewsbury?

It's definitely York

I live in Canterbury and they don't tend to start at 2am or if they do it's afternoon tea first at the Falstaff

I got a train at 10am to York in February, group of lads cracked open the lager on the 10.06am train to st pancras

Can't imagine what state they were in by midnight let alone 4am

That should be 2pm

Iamthewombat

Read the thread ! She said it's been mentioned! Leamington spa, Lincoln, Shrewsbury etc not mentioned

Just say where it is op and stop dicking around

I’ve managed to avoid hen parties thus far (41) and I intend to avoid them in future.

Neither of us had a stag/hen party. I can drink 175ml of wine, after that it’s all over and I have to go to bed.

I’d be useless on a hen do.

I don't understand why these hen parties need to go to historic cities if they're clearly just planning on getting wasted and puking in the street. Why can't they do that in their home town?

I also bet it's York. When I last went up there were already big groups acting like bloody nightmares on the train.

I rather hope some people (due to go on hen do’s) may see this and take it onboard.

A woman who would walk pissed around a city at 2pm waving a large plastic willy and talking inappropriately in front of children is unlikely to take on board your words. More likely she'll call you a stuck up snob and carry on regardless I'm afraid.

Sounds like these parties travel to places where no one knows them so they can act like this anonymously then go back home and no one there is any the wiser.

It will only get worse after Brexit 😕

The behaviour of some groups is appalling, it’s true. No decency at all and usually few grey cells either. Rough and with little self respect.

Worse though is the cost of this completely entitled and antisocial behaviour. The hospital staff facing abuse and crowded emergency departments full of drunken, vomiting Neanderthals. Additional policing costs. Vandalism and criminal damage. Street cleaning to wash away the bodily waste from shop doorways. It’s not just a bit of fun. It’s a drain on society that we can ill afford.

There should be a total ban on alcohol consumption on the streets. Anyone found significantly over the limit and behaving in an antisocial manner should face heavy fines. We indulge these ghastly people too much and have allowed the behaviour to be normalised.

Well, this has been eye opening! We've just started to go away for 2-3 day breaks in holidays wth the kids. Was thinking York, Canterbury or Bath next (in fact best sent to one of those at Easter). I will be firmly avoiding.

I understand, OP.

We were in York dropping my son off at football camp (not sure if it's York you're speaking of, it doesn't even matter really) and the hen parties were shocking.

If I were running a bar or restaurant I wouldn't let them in - 'no penis hats allowed'.

We have just come back from a weekend in Brighton and it was exactly the same. It was just over all really disappointing. So if your dont like the drunkenness avoid there too.

Op, it sounds truly horrendous. Surely it is a police matter, breach of the peace etc? Have you tried contacting local police to see what they have to say/what their policy is on this? Why do people think it's ok to behave like this? Vile.

I don't know why the OP is being pilloried by some, she's clearly outlined pretty horrible behaviour, can people who inflict such an unacceptable way of conducting themselves in a public areas not be criticised without the complainer being deemed as some sort of snooty stuck up person. Everything she has described is hideous. It's also particularly vile when badly behaved stag/hens take that sort of behaviour abroad and inflict it on other cultures, particularly if they happen to be fairly conservative.

'This is why we can't have nice things ...'

Sounds like any flights to Spain. Horrendous.

I can't believe someone reported this thread because they felt the op was horrible 😂😂😂😂 pathetic!

Yanbu- this is awful behaviour! I live near a major city where this happens all the time! We have a lovely beach there and it's hard taking the kids there sometimes as these hens (stags are usually quieter in the day around here) try to go skinny dipping whilst absolutely drunk! Then the language they use is vulgar and lots of families get annoyed! Talking in detail about sex and sex acts in front of kids at any time of the day is just wrong!

YANBU. As for those who say you souud awful and snobbish, that says a lot about them, really. shudder

YANBU OP, I wouldn’t be too please either.
I had my hen in my friend’s back garden

Agree with the OP. It doesn't matter which city she's referring to as it seems to be all over the UK.

It tells you something when PPs are objecting to the OP's language rather than the awful anti-social behaviour she's describing.

We've been too tolerant of obnoxious behaviour for many years now, and in the end the rest of us suffer.

As for those who say you souud awful and snobbish, that says a lot about them,
You're wrong. The OP is bang out of order and the height of snobby behaviour. Everyone knows it's totally legit to flash your underwear, be drunk at 2pm and describing sex acts in the company of children.
Chill out will you

I agree
When I take my dc to York for the day to show them the beautiful city where mummy and Daddy met I want to performance parent answer intelligent questions on the history of the minster ( worked as a tour guide) rather than “ mummy, why is the lady in the short dress wearing a penis on her head”?

Let's be honest it's not just hen/stag dos - this is the way many Brits behave when they've had a few drinks. Looks at places like Magaluf or most British Town centres on a Saturday night (and no, I don't think it's fine if it's in the evening and not the afternoon. It's really not pleasant at any time). When you go abroad and look at the locals they enjoy a couple of drinks without vomiting, fighting, passing out in the streets etc. I live in a town that has a famous pub crawl for students. It can happen anytime - Saturday night, Tuesday lunchtime. Whenever I go to my local supermarket there are large crowds of drunken students yelling and staggering about. Its frightening for my kids when we just want to pop out for lunch or buy a loaf of bread. When my in laws come over from Europe they are very uncomfortable. It's something I really dislike about our country.

I agree OP it's horrible. Is there a reason why it has to be so tacky?

Why would you report this thread? It's a perfectly reasonable comment to make.

It's super-embarassing if you are overseas as well. Non-Brits don't behave like this.

You can have a lovely girlie weekend/night out without getting drunk and behaving like rude yobs.