to think chavy, tacky hen parties should SOD off [Edited by MNHQ at OP's request]

[CannoninD]

I’m fed up.
I’ve lived in my beautiful, respectful and historic city my entire life .... but over the last year it’s been invaded by GOD AWFUL hen parties!

20+ strong groups of horrifically common (referring to behaviour not social class) women who inflict their horrific behaviour on everybody within reach.

They’re EVERYWHERE and I know it’s not just me as there are sunbstantial concerns being raised by residents all over the city.

I counted 23 large groups this weekend (I only walked into the (small ish) city centre on Saturday morning and witnessed the following behaviour-

• Loud swearing (F and C word) right in front of/across young families and children just trying to enjoy a day out.
• Shop doors slammed in elderly shoppers faces (too busy pratting around to pay any attention).
• Stock being damaged by pratting about (and then hidden) to avoid paying.
• Horrifically vulgar and inappropriate content being loudly discussed in family areas (a garden/park area) to the point that families got up and left.
• Completely inappropriate Lingerie being worn in the street (before 2pm).
• Vomiting in the street! Whilst being jeered by the rest of the group.

Personally I would rather bleach out my own eyes than go on a hen do like this- but honestly at what point do we just call the police on these ridiculous idiots inflicting such unreasonable behaviour on families and regular people? What’s worse is, I bet back home they’re perfectly normal women. They just all get together and come away from home and behave like total arseholes!

Being in a large group and celebrating an event- does not give you a hall pass to behave like scum. 😡

"I'm so glad I'm not a snob"

So you are happy to put up with vile, obnoxious, licentious behaviour, partially clothed drunk people uttering bad language, worse case scenarios, having a puke, piss or a crap in a public place. All okay? Whatever happened to being removed from the streets for being drunk and disorderly. I don't think finding such behaviour makes one a snob, as radiator has put it so well, we need far more disapproval. Maybe then we could get these anti social people to contemplate when they go out on the lash they aren't doing it in glorious isolation, more's the pity, their behaviour does affect the rest of the general public, many who don't want to be intimidated as one poster has said, or witness their descent into a modern day version of Hogarth's Gin Lane.

Ah knew this would be York, went there a couple of weeks ago for a family weekend and was amazed by the amount of drinking/large groups/yobbish behaviour we saw from about 10.30am onwards. A beautiful city but it is being spoiled by the drinking. I won’t hurry back there if I’m honest, didn’t appreciate having to guide my kids around the falling down drunks blocking pavements and staggering around (in the afternoon - we were back at our hotel before 6pm)

www.york.gov.uk/

Contact information here for the City of York Council.

People with direct experience should get in touch and explain why they won't ever return and will try to put others off visiting too.

I had to tip a lot when we went out with my parents in law because they are chavs. We stopped going out with them at all when they visited because they are so embarrassing. Just common. I have never gone out in Wirral with them drinking but I hear the stories and see the results on Facebook. 🤮

Must be Oxford.

It's York mimibunz

I beg to differ

If anyone is writing to the council, send this thread.

I live in York, and it's dreadful. The other week I took my kids to the library and we had to walk past crowds of drunken women shouting obscenities and throwing around an inflatable sex doll. And while the doll was something I only see every couple of months, the rest of it is typical. It's destroying the city because local people just avoid the city centre on weekends.

YANBU, I can’t stand hen dos like that.

This is very depressing. I was in York for three days last summer and found it such a beautiful city. I wasn't there at the weekend (thankfully). I just cannot understand why something isn't done to tackle all this. I really really don't understand the mentality of women who behave like this. Do they have no shame?

Not quite in the same league as Ladies Day at Aintree, though?

Try Cambridge on either Suicide Sunday or Caesarian Sunday. It's better than it used (the university has been embarrassed by the Daily Heil coverage) to be but still grim.

Thing is though , what can actually be done? You could ban alcohol on trains for example but people would just pre- load or find another mode of transport . As many people have said pubs and restaurants are not going to turn this trade away.Same with hotels. You can’t stop people wearing trashy clothes in public etc. Do we really want our scarce police resources spending on this? I honestly don’t have a clue how you tackle it in a way that would make a real difference.

Oh no poor York!!

I grew up visiting York regularly as we lived near-ish but now live much further away and haven't been for a long time.

I've been trying to book a family room in the city centre for a family weekend with our 6 and 8 year old to meet up with the elderly grandparents and make a weekend of beautiful old buildings, history and culture but the affordable hotels seem to be booked up for months ahead (probably by the hen / stag dos) and actually, now I've read this I'm going to stop bothering to look and we'll go somewhere else.

My two are quite sensitive little souls and being around behaviour like that I know it would frighten them and worry them, likewise for the elderly relatives. I don't really want to take that risk - especially as we only really get to do weekends away every few years as we just can't afford it.

I actually hope the powers that be in York see this thread and take heed...

@Mathanxiety

Please everybody do this! I know I will be, maybe if enough people can send a quick email/ letter it will make a difference.

Why not email them with a link to this thread, OP?

I lived in York about 15 years ago. We always went out to the pub after work on Friday and socialised at house parties on Saturdays as Saturday nights were stag/hen do times in the pubs. You would see a few walking around in the day but they weren't too badly behaved- the evening was bedlam though.

I went back recently for a friend's party and popped out before to get fish and chips for dinner at about 7pm. I was the only person in the chip shop who was not steaming drunk already, there were loud hen parties shouting sexual remarks at the poor staff and someone vomiting outside.

It's not just Brits either- we went to cologne and there were drunk German hens and stags shouting and screaming by mid afternoon.

Traditional seaside resorts have seen much of their family business destroyed by this kind of behaviour. Blackpool used to be about harmless fun, now it is appalling behaviour from both stag and hen parties which has driven the families away

Completely agree with radiator - as a society we need to stop being afraid of showing our utter disgust at people behaving like this.

"I'm so glad I'm not a snob"

Well, try not to break your arm patting yourself on the back.

I used to think I wasn't a snob but it turns out I am when it comes to public displays of drunken, obscene, yobbish behaviour. Before I emigrated to the USA, 15 years ago, I used to have to visit Blackpool for work purposes 3 or 4 extended weekends a year. Back then it was pretty much hen/stag party Ground Zero and it was bad then but was pretty much confined to the town centre at night on weekends. I can make a safe guess at how dire it must be now from reading this thread and having come across UK hen/stag parties in Vegas the last few times we've gone there for a few days. It takes a lot to raise brows in Sin City you know so there's something very fucking wrong when UK tourists are making the behaviour of the local hookers, pimps and pan-handlers look classy by comparison.

YANBU OP, not at all.

Who said they were glad they were not a snob? Someone posted they were glad they WERE a snob.

York city council and North Yorkshire police will be well, WELL aware of this problem but what can they do?

Could the people who monitor the CCTV network in cities record snapshots of the antisocial behaviour and offer rewards for ID'ing the worst behaved individuals, who would then be fined and get issued with some kind of mini ASBO which would come up on any CRB checks? Surely CCTV that's already in place is seeing and recording all of this anyway and the police wouldn't really need to get involved any more than they already are?

What happened in Dublin mathanxiety ?

Do you live in York?

I feel your pain.

I live 40 mins drive from York. It's not just hens/stags - it's the place to go 'with the girls' or 'lads' for the day at the weekend with the sole intention of getting plastered and tottering around at 11am dressed for a Royal garden party.
I do believe they choose York because it's apparently classier to behave like wankers in York than it is to do it in South Yorkshire towns...