Choosing a holiday over a home

[Mumofone1593]

I am 99 percent I'm unreasonable.

Saving for a house, need 5 percent deposit, we have 4,000 and need another 5,000 to get our deposit for a 140,000 house and solicitors.

But I've now out the blue decided I really want a girl's holiday; I have a 1 year old so it could be some type of post partum thing where I have been attached to my son for so long and now I've stoped breastfeeding I want to run, but I honestly feel the pull to leave my family and a have a week drinking in the sun SO MUCH.

I assume it would cost about 500/800? I've never been on a girly holiday? But would put the house plans back 1-2 months.

What do you think? Will I regret it and should wait til I have a mortgage or should I say screw it and spend some savings on a holiday?

I'm 29 but feel a mix between being 70 some days and feeling 16 other days!

Any opinions welcome! And even writing this I know 2 months isn't too long and I should really wait, but I honestly just want a break from being a mum!

The house deposit trumps a holiday for me , I would save as hard as possible to get my deposit , holidays can come later and easier once you are in your own home , your mortgage will undoubtably be less than renting/ saving

29 middle aged?!

Just came here to say that really

But yes i echo pp's who have asked if you would be ok for your partner to go on a boys holiday.

This is an issue to work out between you two, not for total strangers to opinionate about really.

I also would not buy a house with someone who dod not trust me. However - maybe that was just a throwaway line like the "middle-aged" thing.

House over holiday. A secure home for you and your DC.

I would have the girly break but prob only 3-4 nights, which would be cheaper obvs. You would definitely get somewhere for your budget.

Personally speaking i wouldn't be too happy about DH going off on a boys drinking holiday while we were saving for a house. I'm not sure i'd stop him - but that's how i'd feel and i'd be surprised if he didn't already know that full well. I'm not sure he'd be thrilled about me doing it either.

Don't do it! If you do, it will be the thin end of the wedge!

Once you start breaking the promises you made to yourself to save hard for that deposit, one thing will lead to another. You'll pay for the holiday but then want some new clothes and/or shoes for it. What about meals and drinks while you're there etc? The costs will escalate, then you won't be able to save as much as you hoped and might lose heart.

What about your DH? If he sees you breaking the saving habit and going off on a holiday, maybe he will want to do something similar, so both of your savings would lose momentum.

Stick to the plan. There will be plenty of opportunities later on for holidays.

Given you say you’ve only just stopped breastfeeding, I am assuming your son has been with you every day of his life for the past year.
I understand that urge to run- but you say from “your family” so that means hubby too. How are things there? Would perhaps a weekend away from baby but WITH him help get you back on track in the relationship? Even a night by yourself for a nice bath and and a night out with your female friends could be a more realistic aim for now and you could have a few of them without it even affecting your house situation.
A week away is just false and you’d just be back to the same old same old. And feeling just as crap. What smaller regular changes could you build towards to overall improve your work home life balance?