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To ask for tips for first day in new job?

26 replies

Jazzybeats · 27/05/2019 15:43

Long story short start a new job tomorrow after being made redundant in the last one.

Any tips to make sure start the first day well?

It’s a senior-ish officer job if that helps....

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 27/05/2019 15:46

I’d take in cake if there’s a communal kitchen/tea point. Make a secret list of people’s names to remind yourself on day 2-3-4+

DorisDances · 27/05/2019 15:49

Take a notebook and write down names etc so you can quickly get up to speed.

Plexie · 27/05/2019 15:54

Don't take cake - that's cringeworthy.

Yes to notebook and pen. Arrive on time. Be pleasant to everyone, don't look down on those junior to you. Ask for org chart/staff list.

Are you managing staff?

Paddybare · 27/05/2019 15:57

Smile, be friendly but not fake, don’t be over-bearing, take time over the first few weeks to observe the team dynamics. Don’t take other peoples work and pass it off as your own. (All tips taken from a new starter in our team who has done the opposite of all of these!)

JustSomebodie · 27/05/2019 15:57

Would you recommend a man to take cake in?

Hmm
Nothavingfunrightnow · 27/05/2019 16:02

Yes, definitely don't take cake. Remembering names is a good start.

Nothavingfunrightnow · 27/05/2019 16:03

Good point, Justsomebodie

Violetroselily · 27/05/2019 16:03

Write down all the little bits you need to know but won't remember straight away - staff number, desk location if it's a big office.

Ask for the latest org chart, ideally for your immediate team and the wider department

If there are people sat around you, draw up a desk plan once you have learnt peoples names

If you are managing a team, try to schedule an informal 1 to 1 with each person for the first couple of weeks.

Good luck!

Usuallyinthemiddle · 27/05/2019 16:06

Please don't take cake. Smile. Ask questions. Good luck!

Toooldtocareanymore · 27/05/2019 16:06

Don't bring cake - seriously.

Advice I'd give is be prepared to be flexible so have a lunch with you in case they all eat together but if someone says we go out, or asks you out go along.
Initiate hellos, smile, say your name , repeat theirs back, if you forget their name admit to it with a this is hard on the first day.

Try not to refer to last job, no one likes the in my old place we did... stories.

Ivegotthree · 27/05/2019 16:10

Don't take cake, that looks a bit desperate.

Just be nice and friendly and respectful and interested.

LaurieMarlow · 27/05/2019 16:11

Jeez don’t take cake, so ingratiating. You’d never suggest a man do this.

Some great advice already.

Be respectful and professional with everyone you come into contact with.

For the first while, keep your eyes and ears open without making any big/dramatic moves. Figure out how the place works. Everywhere is different.

HobbyIsCodeForDogging · 27/05/2019 16:12

Don't take cake = the new cancel the cheque

Glad it's been said though.

Hopeygoflightly · 27/05/2019 16:18

Don't take in cake or snacks! Remember to smile and try to relax a bit - not always easy when a ton of new info is being chucked at you and you don't even know where the loos are! I wrote down everyone's names discreetly after meeting them with a brief description - hair colour, glasses, age etc as well as job titles. And any personal info mentioned, 'John's got 2 kids and they've just been camping 'sort of thing, 'Susan's training for a marathon' - having that context helped me as I'm terrible with names/faces...

LaurieMarlow · 27/05/2019 16:20

The company website might be useful in helping you put names to faces.

MamMamMam · 27/05/2019 16:29

Don't run down your old place of work and list all the things you reported your old colleagues for.
Someone new started with us last week and we're all half afraid of her, watching what we say as a result.

We're normally very welcoming and chatty lot. We regularly have new faces around ie students or people we train up but the dynamic changes when she's around. Hopefully she'll fit in soon

ememem84 · 27/05/2019 16:33

Maybe see what the place is like before taking cake....

That said one of the recruitment companies we work with sends new employees a box of 24 cupcakes at the end of their first week. Sometimes they share....!

But as others have said. Smile. Ask questions. Try and remember names. Good luck!

Jazzybeats · 27/05/2019 16:55

Fabulous. I love the tips about how to get to know people and making a couple of discrete notes on them. That’s the kind of thing I am terrible at!

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WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 27/05/2019 19:37

Echo other advice of be friendly, interested, write things down that you want to remember, take time to get to know the dynamics and ask questions.

Don't get drawn into any gossip. If you're given stuff to read or have emails or calendar invitations already, answer them properly. Actually, do that even when you're not new!

Don't be overly opinionated before you've settled in and don't spend a lot of time talking about how your old place did things differently or better (if similar role/company).

Good luck!

BrightYellowDaffodil · 27/05/2019 19:46

If they have photos on passes, remember that you're going to have your photograph taken for yours and dress accordingly. On my first day I wore a loose/cowl necked jumper - when they took the picture for my ID card it was just out of shot and I look rather like I'm not wearing any clothes. And they don't renew pictures so I'm stuck with it!

Digestive28 · 27/05/2019 19:48

Although don’t take cake maybe take some teabags and mug in bag, you don’t know what the system is and may not want to be without a brew!

Digestive28 · 27/05/2019 19:51

Then quickly find out what the system is for brews and contribute...not paying milk money always puts peoples backs up!

Aquamarine1029 · 27/05/2019 19:55

Taking in a cake is probably the worst, most ridiculous advise I've ever seen. It's not a PTA meeting or a bake sale, for fuck's sake. You'd look like a fool.

Langrish · 27/05/2019 19:57

Yes, try to remember names, smile at everyone and for goodness sake no political opinions atm!

Langrish · 27/05/2019 19:57

Oh, and another don’t take care here. Trying way too hard.