Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU boyf and barmaid

67 replies

Nrg2009 · 26/05/2019 18:52

Just been out for lunch. Barmaid came over to bf and said I get off at six, bf said you can come and join us, right when I am sat there. I’ve stropped off home and left him there, he is saying he was being friendly / banter. AIBU

OP posts:
category12 · 26/05/2019 19:53

Don't believe you.

slashlover · 26/05/2019 19:54

I work in retail and sometimes when someone is buying alcohol etc they mention they are having a party. I occasionally reply "that's nice", "enjoy yourself" or "I'll be round once I finish". Everyone clearly knows it's a joke and I wont be turning up at their door.

For me, it would depend how he said it. Was he actually inviting her or was he clearly joking?

Nomorepies · 26/05/2019 19:56

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn by MNHQ on the poster's request.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/05/2019 19:58

He asked her to join both of you. He didn't ask her out for a drink.

VladmirsPoutine · 26/05/2019 19:58

Didn't Jeremy Kyle get cancelled?

NameChangeNugget · 26/05/2019 20:00

Oh chinny reckon Biscuit

TinselAndKnickers · 26/05/2019 20:03

Do people really say "I get off at 6" outside of American cheesy films and sitcoms?!

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 26/05/2019 20:04

During casual till chitchat, the checkout operator at Aldi told me when she was finishing work. I didn’t realise that this was actually a coded message telling me that she was available... Hmm

AriaFitz · 26/05/2019 20:05

@kingslayer well which is more likely - that she makes a specific cocktail how he likes it or has made up her own cocktail recipient that he likes OR that she has walked up to a couple who are her customers and blatantly hit on one of the couple in front of their partner, insinuating that she will be free for a date/drink/shag after six if he ditches his partner!

S1naidSucks · 26/05/2019 20:07

Dammit Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies, you missed out there! 🤣

S1naidSucks · 26/05/2019 20:09

Come to think of it! 25yrs working in the health service and telling patients that I got off at certain times was flirting?! I’m astonished I wasn’t chucked in front of the board and sacked! I didn’t realise what a femme fatale I was for all those years!

Crinkle77 · 26/05/2019 20:10

Is this a bar that you frequent on a regular basis? Perhaps they've just got to know each other if he is in there all the time.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/05/2019 20:13

@Matilda I work in a supermarket and very often during chitchat the customer asks what time we finish. I didn't realise this was a come on. Also worried that when I get a taxi I frequently ask how long they are working for. I am obviously giving them all the come on. Grin

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 26/05/2019 20:19

It does make me realise how utterly irresistible I am. The number of times this information has been offered to me Grin. I’m clearly simply gorgeous.

Villageidiots · 26/05/2019 20:24

Just grow up! A little bit of banter. How do mumsnet people survive day to day if they read this much into something so trivial? There must be something v wrong with your relationship.

Original poster
Nrg2009 · 26/05/2019 20:40

Nothing more to it. It’s not a place we go to often. She didn’t say it in a particularly flirty way that I could tell. It’s just the attitude of bf after, I immediately said that’s out of order and he didn’t take it well, I’ve no reason to doubt him, he doesn’t go out on his own much or anything. It’s just the fact that he thinks it’s okay to say that right on front of me n

OP posts:
Lizzie48 · 26/05/2019 20:41

Oh come on, this is clearly just a bit of banter, and you behaved like my DDs do when they’re in a strop.

SurferRona · 26/05/2019 20:56

@namechangenugget chinny reckon Grin

IceCreamSoda99 · 26/05/2019 21:08

But OP what did he say exactly? It sounds like he invited her to join you and him for a drink which seems pretty innocent though he should have checked with you first before adding company. Or did you think he was suggesting a threesome? Did he say it in a salacious way?

Tistheseason17 · 27/05/2019 11:49

Why would he invite someone he has met only once before, when she served him a drink, to join you?
Hmmmmmm...

Littlechocola · 27/05/2019 11:56

Boyf

janetforpresident · 27/05/2019 11:59

She clearly meant if he wanted the drink she finishes at 6 so would need to be before that. Fuck sake. She's hardly going to come on to a customer infront of their girlfriend
This

And I also this you are overreacting as your boyfriend said come and join US. Unless he is always flirting wuth random women or there was some implied threesome.

Littlechocola · 27/05/2019 12:26

Boyf

sincethereis · 27/05/2019 12:32

YABU

MRex · 27/05/2019 12:39

The barmaid commented that she was dividing at 6 so she wouldn't be making the drink. Your boyfriend suggested that she join both of you, WTF is wrong in your relationship for you to take such a wild interpretation? If my DH or I said that to someone it would mean joining both of us for a drink. In the pub, not in the bedroom. It doesn't sound like you and your boyfriend are well matched if you throw a tantrum over polite conversation.