I was meant to be bridesmaid for a good friend but unfortunately I am due my baby the day of her wedding so have had to bow out. I'm not attending her hen do as it's a week before the wedding in another country and I don't want to fly that late in pregnancy or risk having baby on a small island that's not home 😂
I am still minimally involved in the hen planning as I do love this friend and want to make sure she has a nice time. My involvement has been organising games (found on Internet) and I also got some decorations and made a bag of goodies for the bride. Just for background the hen was originally meant to be in our home city and cheap so that lots of people could come (think originally we had about 24) however two weeks ago bride decided she wanted to go abroad. She has become a bit bridezilla and has got rid of another bridesmaid (for reasons that I think were unfair but have stayed out of as I do not know the other girl).
Anyway!! Money was collected from all the hens still attending and the flights etc booked. It was decided (I think by the brides sister) that everyone would stay at the brides the night before the flights and have a party type thing. It transpires that the sister forgot to budget for this when she asked people for the money (I have had zero involvement in costing and couldn't tell you how much the holiday is going to be as I am not going so haven't asked etc). The brides sister is now saying that the five of us who have been organising should basically split the bill for food and drink on the Friday night? Aibu to not want to pay for something I'm not going to??? I think I'm not but then I do realise I would be going (and paying a lot more) if I wasn't due baby?
I haven't yet responded to her message but others in the group have saying good idea etc!